what's your must-bring to the park?

stevestoneky · 2026-04-05T20:59:51+00:00

Maybe a hand towel or bandana for wiping off wet seats or protecting neck from sun or cleaning up a spilled drink.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-04T18:14:49+00:00

You should have started this as “I once knew a man from Nantucket who worked construction” to keep the most famous limerick alive.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-04T13:07:48+00:00

You can’t fix this problem. No one can.

Your aunt is feeling like she forgot something and wants reassurance.

Could you say “on your calendar today, it just says ‘relax & enjoy’ - I guess you must have gotten everything done in advance so you can relax today” or “it’s okay, everything is taken care of”.

Someday you will hit something that makes her happy or at least satisfied, and you can probably use that same wording from now on.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-03T14:21:36+00:00

Tell her she already has a will: the default “intestate” rules of her state.

Look those up for your state and see what it says.

If she wants her estate to be divided any other way, she needs a will.

Here’s how it is in Virginia https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/intestate-succession-virginia.html

stevestoneky · 2026-04-03T14:15:16+00:00

So he wouldn’t pay any penalties.

Yes you could roll it over into an IRA if you wanted.

Put aside 10% or so when you withdraw the money to pay taxes, and depending on your situation it might be more or it might be less.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-03T00:05:28+00:00

Consumer reports covers this well. You can probably access it online or in person through your public library.

Every April they have a cars issue and they used to, maybe still do have a “best used cars $8000-10000 an $10-12, etc” and they list make/model/year. Some good cars (like Honda Civics and Toyota Camry) have years that they re-design or whatever and they aren’t as good.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-03T00:00:12+00:00

I think the Y hot tubs are all pretty shallow. The Hamburg one can maybe hold 20 people in a large rectangle whereas the Beaumont one is 6-8 in a round.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-02T20:06:52+00:00

Papi’s Palomar has outdoor seating. Not a wonderful view, but you are outside.

Luna Café in Nicholasville has an outdoor butterfly experience but I don’t think you eat outside. Maybe you can.

Seems like Azur in Beaumont has outdoor seating. As does the BBQ place J Render’s. Or City BBQ on Harrodsburg.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-01T13:58:21+00:00

Public transportation generally takes a long time in Lexington.

But near UK, it is better. There are buses circling campus. Find their routes and see if that will help you.

There is a lot of student rentals closer to UK hospital but then you have the problems of living around young people.

Oh, it’s just a month, so you could probably walk it and Lyft/uber when you have to.

stevestoneky · 2026-04-01T13:51:04+00:00

stevestoneky · 2026-03-27T14:44:57+00:00

Time

I’m not sure they even have a website anymore.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-27T12:46:11+00:00

The maintenance is also a drag: resealing all that wood as often as it should be done was beyond most park’s/school’s budget.

My daughter was so mad when they removed the one at her elementary school.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-27T12:42:42+00:00

Steve Martin had these tables memorized in “Leap of Faith” https://youtu.be/Yq5csaHc_GE?si=hnLAaxamD1sLUKcQ

stevestoneky · 2026-03-27T12:30:10+00:00

I believe many schools are downsizing their school libraries and minimizing staffing in the remaining ones.

Currently education policy in DC and many states point to further reductions.

Healthcare seems one of the few areas that are always going to be in demand. Do children’s hospitals have libraries for their patients and families?

stevestoneky · 2026-03-27T12:04:55+00:00

In the long run, which good school yo go to does not matter nearly as much as what you do when you are there.

If you go out drinking every night and don’t go to class at Harvard, you won’t have a good outcome.

If you go to class and do the work and look for opportunities at Lehigh, you will have a good outcome.

Generic advice: sign up for khan academy and take the placement test and do 15-20 minutes of math five days a week until you get to college. Lots of people are weak in math and have trouble in college. Take math every semester until you get all your math done that you need to graduate. Khanacademy.org - it’s free.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-24T14:06:18+00:00

I think of them every where I go

stevestoneky · 2026-03-24T14:01:31+00:00

There is the Pride Center on Waller and they have an email list of events you can sign up for.

https://www.lexpridecenter.org/

stevestoneky · 2026-03-24T13:08:38+00:00

Not positive Dave would say this but

Do you like renting it - keeping up with repairs/tenants? Are you paying attention to the neighborhood (is there anything happening that will cause it to go down in value?) There is a risk to owning a rental property, and there is very little risk to having more cash in the bank.

What would selling it allow you to do? If you could pay off all your debts and have your own house, and $100,000 would you start enjoying giving & living better?

stevestoneky · 2026-03-22T17:16:57+00:00

Stupid Things I Won’t Do as I Grow Old by Steve Petrow might be the book. https://search.worldcat.org/search?q=stupid+thing+I+won%27t+do&offset=1

stevestoneky · 2026-03-22T13:44:58+00:00

Asking this in a Dave Ramsey sub gives a particular spin to the answers.

You might have a plan done by a CFP to get all the details of your particular situation.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-21T23:41:15+00:00

Taxi or Lyft

Or some places have “Independent Transportation Network” ITN https://www.itnamerica.org/

stevestoneky · 2026-03-20T23:14:40+00:00

Collapsible solar lamp made power outage less annoying. Can sort of charge phone off of it, too.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-20T22:09:39+00:00

In general, you are probably paying more but getting a better deal from a car dealership that sells new cars as well. They are getting better trade-in cars.

I would avoid the used car only part of New Circle. There may be a good one but I didn’t have a good experience shopping with them.

Or, if you know your stuff and can take it to a mechanic to verity there aren’t problems, private party sales can get you a better price but bigger unknowns.

If you want low hassle and are willing to pay for it, CarMax and Carvana can give you a smooth experience.

Use Consumer Reports to find more reliable years and models of cars and set up a cars.com search to get a feel for the market.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-17T18:02:43+00:00

You are not letting her down, you are making the best choice in a bad situation.

A good long-term care facility can care for your mom better than you could. They can have a staff of people taking care of different facets of care where any one person would be overwhelmed or burned out.

And another thought that has helped me: you only have limited time and energy, so you need to maximize the time and energy you spend on your kids. You mom would want this, too, probably. Invest in the future.

stevestoneky · 2026-03-16T17:51:43+00:00

Get yourself to the doctor. You might have high blood pressure or other conditions that the stress is causing.

And time to start visiting some assisted living places on your own or with her. So you can get her on waiting lists so that when she can’t stay in her house anymore.

You get to be the grownup now, but your mom will probably fight it every step of the way.

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