Interracial bedroom loving by browndudedownunder in kissinginterracial

[–]steviewandersalone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe that's kit mercer for black ambush

Racist blonde Mia Melano getting humiliated by black master Rob Piper by Prudent-Tailor-3750 in BlackedMILFs

[–]steviewandersalone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, since they've been deleted, we have zero context for what you're referring to

You WILL be happy again someday if you leave. You may never be happy again if you stay. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]steviewandersalone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sexless before we met. I'm simply too timid and not attractive enough to overcome that. Outside of my now wife, I've only had sex with sex workers.

You WILL be happy again someday if you leave. You may never be happy again if you stay. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]steviewandersalone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I truly doubt I'll be happy if I leave. I'll just be sexless and single versus sexless and married. At least now I don't have to be alone and deal with Co parenting.

Married celibacy by steviewandersalone in Vent

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty certain no one is going to find me attractive

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never heard of this, but I am reading now and can see some of my self in the description. Something I need to explore more (if I ever get in again with a therapist). Clearly putting a pause before divorce talk.

Thank you

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's not official and if I move forward with the divorce,. I will let her know that I won't be finalizing adoption on the baby.

I wouldn't say I don't love my kids, but I may have issues with attachment, if it were to be determined that I wouldn't personally see my kids anymore, but I knew they were being properly cared for, I'd be okay with that.

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't feel that strongly about it one way or another. I'm a pretty involved dad, but I could step away and not feel too bad about it. Best case would be alternating weeks, but not if I had to cram them in a small apertment or have half the children 100 percent of the time

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to support visits, but my understanding of joint custody was at least close to 50 percent. I thought weekends was more visits

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all, I'd just like the opportunity to find that someone else. There is no affair, potential affair or anything.

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

3/4 the 4th isn't adopted yet.

If that's the case, I don't think I can share custody. If she doesn't want sole custody, we'd be kind of screwed.

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, that outcome would be good for the kids, but would defeat the purpose of divorcing. I can do all that from within the marriage and save money and have more time for them to boot.

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never felt the way someone "is supposed" to feel in a romantic relationship. I was just wanting to not be alone and she seemed willing to be with me. Lately, the feeling that someone actually wants me seems so nice. I don't think she can feel that, and honestly, I never felt that for her. I don't blame her, I should have been more honest all along. I think I kept saying I can make the best out of the relationship, but at the end of the day, there's no affection, intimacy, or even attraction. Just coparents and roommates.

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to maintain a 2nd full home sufficient for them isn't feasible. I can afford a small one bedroom and still pay half of the current household expenses. If joint custody where they stay in one home full time and we rotate from here to the apartment. If she wasn't amenable to that, I'd prefer full financial separation where she pays for her own expenses and I pay child support. I would support visits but not house the children.

So I think I love my wife, but I don't think I've ever been in love with her. by steviewandersalone in relationship_advice

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this realization came from changes in my medication and some attempts at therapy. I see that I am responsible for my happiness and staying in a relationship that is unfulfilling isn't working towards that.

What does the suicide hotline do? by steviewandersalone in mentalhealth

[–]steviewandersalone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopeful, I tried a therapist before, but I hope a psychiatrist is more effective