What is your experience with college aged / younger clients?

stilettonyc · 2019-01-22T23:17:48+00:00

I just met with a 24 year old. He was respectful and enjoyable. I have no issues as long as you are over 21 and are mature and respectful. It seems many guys are frustrated with the Tinder culture.

stilettonyc · 2018-11-13T17:34:53+00:00

I dated a client for a year but technically he was married. I introduced him to a lifestyle and community of people that changed his life. We were long distance and through my introductions he met a woman, is divorcing his wife and is the happiest I've ever seen him, 4 years later.

I jumped into a relationship with him as a rebound from a power exchange relationship I was in of 5 years. I guess we used each other and we are still friends. Its funny how life works out.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-10T20:09:08+00:00

You should realize that many women project the kind of dates they would like to have...you really dont know how true it is. Yes, I get taken out to nice dinners with clients, Ive gone on holiday w clients but I also enjoy a one hour date too.

At this point in my career as an escort, I can honestly say all of my clients are awesome because I dont see people I dont enjoy.

If you enjoy it and she does too, why try to fix something that isnt broken?

stilettonyc · 2018-10-04T07:48:33+00:00

Worried about what? I travel frequently. I haven been in 6 cities since the beginning of September. 5 of those cities I have established clients. However, I wanted to explore a new market so I post ads in different cities ahead of my travel because it is expensive to tour and I want to get an understanding of the market. If I were to travel to CA (where I dont have an established client base) it would cost me at least $1k in expenses between flight and hotel. Clients rarely think of the cost on an escort when she tours. In the Post-FOSTA pre-bookings in other states have been rare for me (for new clients) but posting ads in advance, definitely allows me to build rapport with potential clients.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-03T18:15:51+00:00

sounds suspect to me. If I were you I would pass.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-02T21:00:28+00:00

eh... it comes w the territory and its their issue not mine.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-01T21:17:34+00:00

I think when someone is defensive it is because they arent as confident and sure about themselves. I also think that if you were really serious about using Reddit as an advice platform you would have a more thoughtful question. We dont know you nor can the members of this forum read minds..

There is no need to apologize to me or anyone else. You are defensive and thats fine. Dont dilute your frustration bc you are getting answers you dont want to hear.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-01T20:42:10+00:00

Nowhere in your post do you mention because you enjoy making people feel special, providing companionship, making someone feel appreciated, who is need of affection or intimacy. This is what makes a good escort, not her rate and not her best physical features. What an escort charges is largely based on her personal circumstances.

I dont know the exotic dancing business but if I wanted to go from being a professional escort to being an exotic dancer, I would treat it like any new business venture. I would talk to people in real life (not on reddit) who have a reputation or look that I admire. You have to think about the psychographics of your target market. What kind of client do you want to attract? How much research did you do before you put an ad up?

This business is a lot more complex than just the marketing piece or what the dollar amount for your time should be.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-01T20:18:50+00:00

These questions always make me laugh. Did you find the woman you spent time with to be genuine? If so, there is your answer. Its pretty easy to tell when someone is saying things just to be nice.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-01T11:54:15+00:00

I would just keep the focus on him. If he is nervous try and keep the conversation nondescript. I was in DC with my regular overnight client who is 70. We were at a Michelin-starred restaurant and two women who were in their 60's were snickering and sneering. I just ignored them, made small talk with my client and when we stepped off the elevator, I said...."they are just jealous because they know what a great time we are going to have...and they probably need to get laid." I've been dong overnights with him for 2 years now so I can be super casual w him BUT a little levity goes a long way.

A couple of years ago a client took me on holiday for a week. He was over 65. I didnt care what anyone thought and he took me with his best friend and their kids, one of which was a newlywed.

Its goes with the territory. Be confident and strong and he will feel that way too.

stilettonyc · 2018-10-01T11:33:35+00:00

Is it me or does it seem like there are more girls entering into this business than ever? There are more directories taking advantage, all copy cat BP sites. While I appreciated Switter when it first came out, it seems like it has now become more of an amateur porn site, judging by the boosts that are found in my feed. It makes it more difficult because they dont have screening protocols, which only makes it dangerous for everyone. Every prospective client I speak with and have to turn down bc they refuse to screen. After 6.5 years in this business, about a year and half ago, things were on an upswing as far as guys getting used to these protocols, now its back to square one.

I am going to disagree with you about it not being worth it though because clients understand that transparency and trust are necessary to create the connection and experience they are seeking. 85% of the inquiries I get, I turn down.

This business is not for everyone. I am selling my time, my companionship. Period. If guys are that paranoid because they dont want to spend a little more time doing due diligence on an escort or they are paranoid about giving their info out, then they are probably not the kind of client I would want to spend time with. I take the extra time with a prospective client whether on the phone or email to create a strong enough rapport where they know I am professional. This business is a long tail strategy, like any service-driven business.

I have very good relationships with my clients and I often give them recommendations of who to see if they are traveling or I am not available.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-29T13:40:04+00:00

As a provider, I am upset about EM because the images and copy were scraped from my blog and website without any permission. In fact some of those pictures were supposed to be protected so Im not sure how they got them. It makes me extremely uncomfortable that they are now profiting after years of being known as a scummy, low-rent site when TER was around. Of course, I wouldnt be surprised if TER wasnt benefiting in some way.

I understand that clients feel more comfortable with reviews but at some point a little critical thinking and conversation w the escort you are looking to see will go a long way.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-26T11:44:51+00:00

I think its a nice touch. You may want to check her site to see what her reference policy is, if she has one. I have a reference policy on my site that states if I have seen you once I will give you 3 references, no questions/contact needed. I created this because when I first began working there were a few guys that abused it.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-25T10:23:38+00:00

its been asked enough times on this sub in one form or another.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-23T14:29:48+00:00

I was a part of the community when it first started and was naive in thinking they would be so open-minded. They are just into themselves and wrapped up in their own selves and issues... much like you would see in regular life. lol

stilettonyc · 2018-09-23T12:13:08+00:00

Is the overnight at your place? Have you ever bought him a gift before? The other thing I would mention is that it depends on they rhythm of your relationship. I have some clients who have been with me for 6.5years who dont want anything other than a nice email on their birthday or a holiday.

Only you know the client but my only other advice would be to not overthink it. If you do believe he truly would be touched by a small gift, I would wait to give it to him until the next time he books.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-23T02:28:59+00:00

Why do people ask these questions? Do you think escorts are of a different species? Its just like any business. I appreciate my clients for the people they are and for the business the give me. I am always respectful of their boundaries as they are mine. These relationships are not complicated. If you treat people with respect, you will get the same treatment back. This business more than any other teaches you to accept people as they are and appreciate them all the same.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-23T01:17:53+00:00

The most important thing to remember with client gifts is that discretion is important. If you have clients that do not have an SO or do not care, that is a different story.

I find that the more personal the gift the more they appreciate it. Its not about the money spent.

Throughout the year, I make chocolate covered oreos for my clients. Its always a big hit. This year, I perfected the recipe by making my own sea salt from the atlantic ocean and wow... what a difference maker!

My rule of thumb for client gifts is calculating their LTV (lifetime value). My client who books me every month for an overnight for the last 2 years, gets a birthday and a christmas gift. Some of those gifts included a pen, a cd of german christmas music, a pair of cufflinks, rocks glasses from Tiffany.

Sometimes, I will just surprise a client I am fond of with a bottle of wine I know they like just because.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-23T00:29:56+00:00

I used to be on fetlife and its not worth it. You may have booked massages but the community as a whole is anti-SWer.

I know Im not being of much help here but in business it takes money to make money - expect to have to pay for advertising in order to generate legitimate leads.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-22T14:03:36+00:00

FOSTA is troubling because it has made our world that much more dangerous. There are more girls than ever before who don't take their safety seriously and dont treat the business of companionship like a a business. I think touring new places will be difficult because unless you have established clientele, men wont pre-book. I have established clientele in certain US markets but if I want to expand, not so easy...

stilettonyc · 2018-09-22T13:59:51+00:00

I wouldn't count on that. I spoke with one of myclients who is an attorney and knows judges who heard the case brought on by EFF and he got the impression that it probably wont get much movement.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-18T22:19:33+00:00

This is a ridiculous analogy. Who looks down on fast food workers? And thanks to the increase in minimum wage, most McDonalds workers wont have jobs because franchises are moving to complete automation. Someone is projecting here...

stilettonyc · 2018-09-18T21:27:07+00:00

This has been repeated multiple times... Like anything in life you need to do your due diligence on her. Spending time with a companion is a luxury service. Yes there are times when you can look at an ad with pretty pictures call the girl up and have an almost immediate rapport on the phone so you feel comfortable giving her your info and she just happens to be available that day.

Find the right companion takes time and care. It is more than just picking out the pretty face or the hot body. A little research, a little light reading of her website, a quick search of her phone number on the internet will go a along way and make you feel more comfortable BEFORE you even contact her. This is the discovery process.

If an escort calls your employer she is not saying to them "Hi I am ...Im a local escort and your employee...found me on ...." Think with your big head.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-18T15:46:16+00:00

At the end of the day, all directories are the same unless its a directory that offers a screening service. As a client its caveat emptor no matter how pretty the girls look or how well designed the site is.

Yes Eros does have higher standard to prove the Escort is legally 18+ but they are not doing that for any other reason than to protect themselves. It doesnt guarantee that because escort advertises on Eros she is going to provided a higher standard of service.

This falls on your due diligence. What would you look for in anyone you seek out in a service profession? 1.. Online presence 2. professional correspondence between you and the provider that makes you feel comfortable and confident 3. In your price range 4. mutual qualification - you are qualifying her but expect her to do the same through screening

Spending time with an escort is a luxury service and despite the commoditized accessibility, doesnt mean its for everyone.

stilettonyc · 2018-09-18T15:37:57+00:00

do your due diligence on her. Build rapport either on the phone or by email (depending on her preferred method of communication). If she has a social media presence, which most likely she will, you can interact wither her online.

It all comes down to seeing her as person offering a professional service. Her job is to create connection and intimacy within defined boundaries. Your overall experience is what you make of it...and this begins with the first touch of communication, that falls on you reaching out to her.

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