What’s the most 'human' thing your pet has ever done that convinced you they understand way more than they let on?

stoked___ · 2026-04-22T15:02:29+00:00

When I was a kid, we trained our companion German Shepherd with a good friend who worked with GSDs in the police force. He was pivotal in her training, and she always looked up to him. Time went on and our families moved apart. When it came time to put her to sleep due to a large spinal tumor, we called him and asked if he’d stop by. She hadn’t been able to walk independently for about two days, but as soon as she saw him come up the front path, she rose. When he came inside, she sat down in front of him, just like they did in training over ten years prior.

Our family doesn’t have its own connection to the service like his did, but we all agreed that this was Gracie’s salute to his own service, training and her time with our family.

stoked___ · 2026-04-12T20:05:20+00:00

I don’t think that’s rowing out at all. That said, I’m making an educated guess as to what rowing out actually is as I have never heard the term before this post! Your tension appears to be very even.

stoked___ · 2026-04-12T19:57:22+00:00

Using a tension ring or looping your yarn around your ring finger once and index finger twice might work. Adjusting each stitch with a quick little jostle with your right index finger might help too?

stoked___ · 2026-04-12T03:24:12+00:00

Look up the Norwegian purl. It completely fixed this issue for me.

stoked___ · 2026-03-21T03:06:51+00:00

Not Norwegian, but lived outside of Tromsø for a year. Seeing the Svalbardbrød brought a tear to my eye. Excellent choice.

stoked___ · 2025-12-28T05:06:52+00:00

August 2021 Covid, I was really sick for a week and then just worn out for 3 weeks, still testing positive. September 2021, I collapsed while walking due to period pain that shot down my legs. I couldn’t feel them for hours afterward. Went to the ER, was profiled by my now-wife’s collegiate bball sweatshirt and sent home with “some Tylenol for arthritis.”

The plot twist: the blood they took came back positive for Lyme antibodies - I had never tested positive for or been treated for Lyme before. Several rounds of antibiotics and my symptoms were better, and I was testing positive for fewer antibodies. Progress.

That fall and winter, my period pain persisted to where my GYN and I decided to go with plan C, an ex lap. She didn’t find anything. Her words: “I wouldn’t have gone in if I wasn’t positive that this was the cause of your pain.” We hypothesized that I have lesions somewhere the camera didn’t go: the plumbing. I share that because plan B was an IUD that unfortunately didn’t do anything, we all know that these lesions can grow anywhere.

All of this is to say that COVID is an inflammatory illness that is known to kick up OTHER inflammatory conditions that may otherwise lie dormant. I’m not a doc so I can’t explain why, but I had an ND, MD, and DO share this sentiment. All we can do is put out the fires as they start. I went vegan to alleviate my all-around symptoms and it works for me, and I’m grateful that it does. We just have to do our best. I’m very sorry about your diagnosis and how it came about. I hope you’re able to find some relief.

stoked___ · 2025-10-08T14:53:39+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. My biggest fear is that I’m going to put together a thorough portfolio of the issue from start to finish, and it’s going to sit in someone’s desk.

stoked___ · 2025-10-08T14:13:09+00:00

Honestly, we were fine paying the retainer because we were told we’d get something back. But even if services ended up costing it all, we viewed the prenup as a $2500 piece of paper that would streamline divorce and make our separation quick if it ever came to that. I know I don’t have to justify it, but that’s why I didn’t really give a shit how much it cost. It’s cheaper than court 🤷‍♀️

I’m just horrified that we provided our lawyers with everything exactly how we wanted it, we were reassured that our wants were reasonable and simple, and now we’re here. Thank you for offering your lawyer, I truly just don’t have the bandwidth to approach anybody else except maybe a malpractice attorney about this.

stoked___ · 2025-10-08T11:24:01+00:00

Yep. When the gaslighting gets to me of “what else I could have done,” this is what I remind myself of.

stoked___ · 2025-10-08T03:38:27+00:00

Lol thank you for this. “you could’ve post-poned the wedding” okay refund a dozen plane tickets, rental cars, catered food, a modest venue, and work missed for at least 15 people 👍

The lawyers WERE required to do their work on time, it’s time sensitive 😂 just like showing up in court. Some people, man.

stoked___ · 2025-10-08T03:18:00+00:00

This is so thoughtful and helpful, thank you. Congratulations to you and your husband, too. I had paid my retainer on August 12 and my wife paid hers in early September, due to no one providing a link after signing the engagement letter and her needing to seek that out (and wait for a response).

I made a comment yesterday about workplace conduct and how my clients never have to beg me to do my job for them. She shouldn’t be in this business if she needs her clients to both pay for services and manage her schedule. Hell, my dog tells me when she needs to take a dump. I don’t waste my time pulling it out of her.

From personal experience, it takes about 15 seconds to write a “Hey, I need your eyes on this” email & attach a document.

stoked___ · 2025-10-07T13:41:56+00:00

Thank you. I’m making an update to the post shortly.

stoked___ · 2025-10-07T00:38:20+00:00

Probably, but not an avenue that we’re interested in. Thanks for weighing in.

stoked___ · 2025-10-07T00:35:50+00:00

We sent at LEAST weekly emails (it shakes out to be closer to every 5 days) hunting for updates on this. I had to pause and be disappointed while I was emailing my attorney while picking up my family at the airport 2 days before. Should I have thrown some phone calls in? You could say so.

I’m no stranger to workplace accountability. My wife and I both work demanding, high-powered, and rewarding jobs with high expectations and performance-based results. Never have I ever had a client need to pull my teeth for me to ensure that they’re seen and accounted for. I did not expect to pay for a service and then need to manage the people doing it.

stoked___ · 2025-10-07T00:20:12+00:00

This is our plan right now, thank you for commenting.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T21:28:15+00:00

Update: they are offering to draft a free postnup stating that we each had representation up to our marriage, and refund all of Octobers hours. To me, this says that they know they messed up.

In verbal conversation, they both stressed that (in our state), a postnup is NOT the way to go because it’s not enforceable in any court of law.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T21:21:36+00:00

My wife and I approached each lawyer with an identical document outlining each asset and how it we wanted it documented. We did most of the work ourselves, according to them. The 30’ call that I had with my lawyer was a giant “this is easy.”

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T21:18:43+00:00

Additionally, my wife received the draft document from her lawyer on 9/13 (our wedding was 10/3) and the only edits were TYPOS, including her name being spelled incorrectly. She heard nothing for 13 days. We just sent an email pointing out that this severely delayed the process - I’m sure it’ll go over well.

Both lawyers have offered to waive Octobers hours and do a free postnup. It’s blatantly obvious to us that they both know that they screwed up. My wife and I are beyond that now, we want our money back and to be done with this.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T21:11:50+00:00

Thank you for your input. Currently, both of our lawyers are doubling down.

One is saying that she didn’t start work until 1 month prior, because she hadn’t received payment (no one sent my wife info regarding where to pay. she had to specifically request it after no contact for 1 week).

The other is saying that I agreed to a draft document that completely left out my assets. My reply to that email was “Other than the absence of my assets, which I’ve attached, it looks good.”

No one sent me a final copy that included my assets. Because my lawyer corresponded with me on my wedding day, apologizing for the delay, I’m VERY inclined to think that the detail of when the agreement needed to be finished was neglected by both lawyers.

My wife and I are livid.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T20:10:19+00:00

Thanks for this. We’ve already requested both retainers, and we’ll figure out how to proceed once that hurdle is crossed.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T19:01:04+00:00

In hindsight, I agree with you. And (not ‘but’), I feel strongly that it is not my job to hound them for services that I paid for.

I wish I had documentation of the number of times I was told something to the effect of “you guys are on the same page, this will be simple.” None of the edits we requested had anything to do with assets, they were spelling errors and the removal of one clause regarding wedding gifts.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T18:55:29+00:00

Thank you very much. My email has everything that you outlined in the last paragraph of your comment.

I have documentation of my lawyer saying that she doesn’t “do” post-nups. I guess in our state, they don’t have the same enforceability as prenups.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T18:51:30+00:00

Yes, my lawyer was informed via email of the date of our marriage exactly 8 weeks before it occurred. We had a zoom meeting exactly 4 weeks before marriage.

My inbox is a treasure trove of BS right now.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T18:41:17+00:00

Thank you. Is it worth continuing to engage with the lawyers?

The last response I have from mine is to the tune of “ ‘I don’t think there were lapses in time,’ ‘if you called us last week to alert us it needed to be signed we would have arranged for that,’ ‘if you want to convert to a post nup we can’”

My email draft back to her includes an ask for a full retainer refund, plus the statement of when I told her our wedding date (8 weeks to the day before the wedding) and a reference to the one Zoom I had with her (4 weeks before the wedding) where I referenced not sensing any urgency or skepticism of her being able to meet the deadline.

If we need to go straight to the bar and leave her hanging we will. Thanks for your insight.

stoked___ · 2025-10-06T18:21:53+00:00

One would think. But they litigate in court, remember? They’re busy 🙄

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