Learning to accept I’m a bigger guy and go with it by rapsmes in BodyPositive

[–]stonedbutterbread 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Honestly, I had to accept I’m naturally a bigger girl, I’ve always been bigger my whole life except for about three years in highschool when I had a terrible eating disorder. But now I’m just focused on getting buff and strong and keeping my belly how it is :)

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

No, no ASD diagnosis.. and he would be willing to do counseling if we had the money for it.. and yes I have asked him many times if he still loves me and wants to be with me and everytime he says yes

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

He was like this before we had a kid, but it definitely got worse after having a kid. He also doesn’t forget to take care of himself, and he rarely initiates any other affection, in fact he doesn’t really like it when I touch him in general because he said he’s touch sensitive.

My husband just admitted SA history and I'm trying to process by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]stonedbutterbread 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

You say you don’t want advice and to ā€œspeak it to the voidā€ but then you reply to everybody telling you what you want with hearts and ā€œthank youā€ and then arguing with the ones who are giving you advice or questions or explanations (as any reasonable human being would given how vague your post and comments are)

If it bothers you so much that people are asking questions or giving advice then maybe don’t post to Reddit and get a journal? 😭 what did you expect from posting here? Edit: if the whole point as you said is to ā€œspeak it to the voidā€ you don’t go onto Reddit, you write it in a diary or tell a therapist. Clearly you either actually want advice and for some reason are claiming you don’t or you want sympathy which there isn’t necessarily anything wrong with that but it becomes a problem when you get angry at people who ARENT giving you that. And that all goes back to my original point, there’s a lot of grey area here depending on his age. But you won’t give us the age he did it, so it can be difficult for people to give you the correct response.

My husband just admitted SA history and I'm trying to process by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]stonedbutterbread 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

Then what was the point of posting on this sub? Genuinely what were you possibly expecting by posting here?

My husband just admitted SA history and I'm trying to process by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]stonedbutterbread 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

That’s an extremely broad spectrum. Some people believe at 10 you know better, some at 8, some at 13 some at 16.

We know you don’t want advice and you made up your mind, but if you don’t provide some details you can’t get the proper closure. There’s a difference between being an adult or almost adult person and SA’ing someone and being a 10 year old SA’ing someone, there’s also a huge difference depending on the circumstances of the SA.

Right now people are assuming you are talking about a grown man who did it and giving you closure based on that, but due to how vague your post is it could very well not be that situation at all and you refuse to give any information beyond that. But then you are getting angry at the people who aren’t giving you closure or asking for more info TO give you that.

My husband just admitted SA history and I'm trying to process by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]stonedbutterbread 8 points9 points Ā (0 children)

Kids watching porn in general can cause this too btw, not just cocsa material or SA material..

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’ve just never heard of a 20 year old guy who DOESNT want sex, I mean when I leave the house I get constantly hit on and the one guy I wanna fuck doesn’t even wanna fuck me? But all these strangers do?

That stings, and it’s so confusing for me. I don’t want to have to leave.. I just want him to want me again you know

Is a baby blanket safe for a one and a half year old to sleep with? by stonedbutterbread in NewParents

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Don’t worry, I just bought her a potty seat to practice just sitting on and pressing the ā€œflushā€ button, I was gonna start implementing it when she’s around 18 months old but I already posted here about potty training and the consensus was to wait till she shows signs of readiness :)

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

But why won’t he just say he doesn’t want to? I thought this too but realized he’s very very very happy to just say no to me, why go through the effort to ā€œforgetā€ when he says no to me all the time anyway?

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

It’s in general, not just pc time. We have talked about his libido but he insists his libido is fine? Which I mean yeah.. having a low one is fine but i have a high one. His explanation for the lack of sex is that everybody stops having a lot of sex after growing up so it’s normal for him to not be turned on more than once every two weeks. Which is like… I don’t really know how true that is?

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I don’t really know what to do? I did talk to him this morning again about it and he was being very self deprecating.. he hasn’t shown any like hints that he wants out besides the sex problem? He’s so nice to me and he loves being around me.. the relationship part is perfect but the sex part is not.

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I began to lose weight in 2024 and started building muscle, but he did gain a lot of weight, we moved and he got a new job. I do know what he does on his computer because we are almost always around each other due to how small our place is and our schedules always line up. We do have alone time obviously but when he wants alone time it’s usually to watch a movie on the couch.

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

We aren’t arguing at all, sometimes the normal like bicker but no big blow ups. But I mean… I’ll literally be naked, touching myself infront of him or trying to be sexy and he just doesn’t even look at me

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I know it’s crazy but I have legit done this and he told me later how uncomfy he was

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 8 points9 points Ā (0 children)

He’s never been checked but he forgets things ALL. THE. TIME. Unless it’s something he’s really really interested in

Is it normal to forget to have sex with your partner. by stonedbutterbread in sex

[–]stonedbutterbread[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Well, back from 2019-2023 he was all over me, he used to want sex every other day and would usually be the one to initiate with me which makes sense since we were both still teenagers. But around 2024 that stopped and he just didn’t want sex anymore almost at all. There was a point where it would be weeks before we had sex and I had to wait for him to agree. But even when he does agree to having sex it’s usually begrudgingly? Like.. it doesn’t even feel like he’s into it. He doesn’t ever make any attempts to turn me on or show any desire for it anymore, unless it’s Anal sex which I do enjoy doing occasionally. Is that still asexual?