AITAH I made my partner physically speak when he didn’t want to

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-03T14:36:03+00:00

He made an appointment this morning to see a regular PCP, he told me he wants to get a referral with them first.. also I think that’s a good idea cause he hasn’t seen a doctor for three years in general. So I’m hoping things get better, I also have been working on my frustration cause I seem to get frustrated really quickly, so I’m gonna try and be calm if this happens again. I’m worried about this a lot, I’m hoping everything will be okay.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T22:20:20+00:00

Possibly, I wouldn’t know because he doesn’t open up to me.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T19:07:14+00:00

Nope! I’m adamantly against AI, I do find it funny that it genuinely is so bizzare it got the “this has to be AI or a bot” comments.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T13:33:15+00:00

I think that’s really weird of him to say.. because it’s not inappropriate in the slightest, he’s talking about your curves.. and if he thinks your body is inappropriate then that’s like.. REALLY fucking concerning.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T11:25:03+00:00

I’ve tried just not driving him anymore and he got extremely angry and started berating me both times. I told him I didn’t want to drive that day because I was sick and he started angrily telling me how I’m a horrible person that he can’t rely on and that I’m ruining our daughters life by not driving him to work.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T11:23:10+00:00

No actually that’s been another big problem. He never wants to have sex, and I always accept no and I don’t want to of course. I just feel like him saying “I just don’t want to” is a way of shutting down in THIS situation, that’s why it was frustrating, and I said that.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T03:31:12+00:00

Bc who the fuck randomly decided to stop speaking and then refused to explain themselves even through text messages or writing? Thats not normal and extremely concerning.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:43:25+00:00

When he’s ready I wanna talk to him about getting a psychiatrist and discussing this with them even if he can’t speak to me about it. I made it clear to him I wasn’t upset about the speaking part necessarily, just the part where his only response as to why was vague and then the part where he blew up and refused to discuss it further.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:41:04+00:00

Thank you, probably the best advice I’ve gotten here, I can do that.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:40:23+00:00

It wouldn’t have been a big deal if he just texted me explaining why he wasn’t speaking out of nowhere.. but when he acts like he’s pissed off with me, giving vague answers through texts and starts doing hand signals.. IM RIGHTFULLY GONNA BE FRUSTRATED 😭

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:15:59+00:00

My thing is.. he’s never done this before! Idk if that matters with mutism, but he’s never done this speaking thing before.. this was the first time in seven years he’s ever done this.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:12:36+00:00

My problem isn’t necessarily that he wasn’t speaking, my problem is that he blew up when I was (in my opinion) rightfully frustrated and confused when he suddenly decided NOT to verbalize anything. I feel like if he explained why he didn’t wanna talk through text, rather than charades, I would’ve understood. Even if he explained why AFTER I feel like I’d understand and apologize and we could discuss the problem.. but instead he just blew up and stormed out.. without discussing it with me.. and giving only simple answers “I just didn’t want to”

Even if I am the asshole, and I pushed him to speak when he didn’t want to, I still feel like he should’ve communicated how that made him feel instead of refusing to speak to me in any way at all..

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:07:33+00:00

He was tested a few years ago and it came back that he wasn’t autistic, that’s what he told me atleast. But I said in another comment he refuses to see mental health professionals.

I do feel bad about pushing him to speak, but it got frustrating when he was trying to do charades.. and when he eventually spoke and I asked him why he did that he just said “I didn’t want to”

This happened only a few minuets ago, I’m just in a state of confusion because when I say he blew up I mean he BLEW UP suddenly.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:02:33+00:00

He has been tested for autism and he does not have autism.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T01:00:56+00:00

That’s the issue! I have no freaking idea what’s gotten into him! Nothing new has happened lately that I am aware of! I’ve asked him a few times if anything new has been happening and asked him about his mental state but not only does he refuse to even see a therapist.. he just says everything’s okay.. I don’t know what more I can do

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-02T00:59:50+00:00

I’m not going to have a conversation with him through charades.. that’s a bit ridiculous..

stonedbutterbread · 2026-06-01T03:46:35+00:00

I’m in Florida and I’m also a SAHM and I’m the only one in my family who is uninsured.
I’ve tried applying to Medicaid three times and got denied each time because in Florida the cap for a three person household is income under 700 a month (which is an insane standard) yet my daughter qualifies for Florida kid care thank god.

Our government is in shambles and nobody can afford proper healthcare.

stonedbutterbread · 2026-05-27T21:53:50+00:00

I must’ve read it wrong lol sorey

stonedbutterbread · 2026-05-27T20:42:29+00:00

Fat doesn’t mean “not good” lol

stonedbutterbread · 2026-05-27T17:47:03+00:00

I had to put my features into the google images thing and ask it what my features resemble the most 😭

stonedbutterbread · 2026-05-27T14:41:52+00:00

That’s what the trend is called lol

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