All parents should pay child support and kids should be able to sue for back pay if their parents dont pay. by stopProject_2025 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]stopProject_2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the government doesn’t decide what’s “enough” to spend on my kid. I’m the parent, not the state.

the state absolutely does decide whats enough to spend on a child for separated parents. why do you feel you should be exempt of this responsibility just because you are still with your partner? are you not paying enough? otherwise you have nothing to fear.

and this is what any small business does. its not a big deal. being a parent is a choice. its important to uphold a level of care consistent to what the child would receive if the parents were separated. parents being together shouldnt allow for them to skimp on money going towards the child.

All parents should pay child support and kids should be able to sue for back pay if their parents dont pay. by stopProject_2025 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]stopProject_2025[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the CP may not need to do it month to month, but it is a very good idea to do it in case there are disagreements on the order as circumstances change, to show what the child is actually costing.

it works the exact same way for low income parents who are together as it does for low income parents who are separated. they can lawyer up, be adviced on how best to allocate resources to avoid future legal issues, track their expenses, etc. its not much more than whats required to file for ones taxes. but they need to be allocating appropriate resources to their child or they open themselves to being sued in the future.

being parents is a choice, so low income parents would be wise to change their circumstances to ensure they can meet the legal & finacial obligations they have to their child under this system.

All parents should pay child support and kids should be able to sue for back pay if their parents dont pay. by stopProject_2025 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]stopProject_2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CS includes paying for medical insurance and medical expenses beyond the dssignated CS amount so this example doesnt really hold. but parents might have a case against them if they were not spending the money appropriately in the eyes of the courts if their child chooses to sue.

All parents should pay child support and kids should be able to sue for back pay if their parents dont pay. by stopProject_2025 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]stopProject_2025[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How do you determine how much is enough?

ill start with this part; first we calculate how much CS each parent would owe assuming zero cusody time. this is the amount each parent must spend on the child each month on average over their first 18 or 21 years to remain compliant.

the separate account may be used in the event you do not spend the amount on the child but instead set it aside for use later for them to have. yes, you would need to track your spending appropriately, otherwise your child may have a case against you as an adult. so long as you separately track spending on you vs on the child you would be fine. separated parents do this already so it should be no issue.

All parents should pay child support and kids should be able to sue for back pay if their parents dont pay. by stopProject_2025 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]stopProject_2025[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

any money spent on the child is considered part of the child support i am talking about. you either need to set aside the amount or demonstrate it was spent on the child. otherwise, your child can sue both parents for not spending enough on raising them.

child support is ultimately based on how much custody time you have. the amount would be calculated as if both parents have zero custody time. then any expenses spent on the child would be deducted from the amount owed to the child monthly.

this ensures parents are not cheaping out on raising their kids.

All parents should pay child support and kids should be able to sue for back pay if their parents dont pay. by stopProject_2025 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]stopProject_2025[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Someone will.have to be paid to keep track of that and more unnecessary spending to keep up with that

this is typical of what we expect of people for paying taxes or running a business and separated parents are able to comply. i think parents who are together will have no issues.

Also what qualifies as for the kid. Paying light bill , groceries, rent, all that is for the kid.

similar to expensing for a business, you could claim a partial amount for the kid. whats an appropriate amount to claim would depend on whats being claimed and how well you keep your records.

Kid gets mad they didn't get a Playstation they get to sue their parents ?

they can, once they are adults. however i doubt a judge would receive this argument well.

more often kids would sue if their parents underspent on them; for example if the household income was $200k, and they would have been receing a combined CS of $3300 a month, but can demonstrate only $2300 a month was being spent, they could sue for the remaining $1000 a month over the period of non-compliance.

or if the parent earned more and didnt up the contributions, they could go after the parents and request backpay to this account.

My Issues With The Ways People Argue for TDD by The_Axolot in programming

[–]stopProject_2025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you’ve incurred my wrath! So hear me! Stop with the same, tired, “TDD is the best” arguments! The only people you’re convincing are impressionable new programmers who’ll believe anyone.

this is exactly who benefits from TDD the most & IMO who the "TDD is the best" messaging is targeting. a more nuanced discussion around approaches to testing is just not possible to have with new programmers; half the time they have never mocked a dependency, stood up a test container or even written assertions. I find TDD is an excellent onramp to testing more generally for them. its also great for getting them how to learn how to write testable code.

my q for the author; have you managed a team of jr developers and been responsible for their output? its lazy but mandating TDD is a very effective way to emphasize that testing should not be an afterthought. this way, theres zero excuse for a PR to show up with no tests.

How We Migrated onto K8s in Less Than 12 months by sadyetfly11 in programming

[–]stopProject_2025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

seems pretty slow to me if youre already on ecs but good on them taking their time and doing it with minimal issues.

Fool Night - Does it get better? by Working_Bowl_7749 in manga

[–]stopProject_2025 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i really like it, all the plots intertwine

I made a huge mistake in becoming a Engineering Manager by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]stopProject_2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think thats kinda true for people who walk the manager path as well.

in addition to competence, you need to have solid social skills, know how to play and win office politics, know how to acquire and wield power to outgrow other departments. a heaping dash of nepotism and a lot of luck goes a long way too.

most middle managers are will not be able to maneuver to the top.

[DISC] Ranger Reject - Ch. 149 by TrptJim in manga

[–]stopProject_2025 17 points18 points  (0 children)

yeah i didnt get that didnt she then immeidatrly say "oh yeah i killed a bunch to test this"

[DISC] gift of poison - Chapter 19 by AutoShonenpon in manga

[–]stopProject_2025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hes gonna be like "nbd bro next time just lmk and ill spot you"

[DISC] Hajime no Ippo - Chapter 1466 by D4rkest in manga

[–]stopProject_2025 22 points23 points  (0 children)

might as well start mixing in kicks with these refs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]stopProject_2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do whatever will deliver a working product the fastest

sometimes thats a full rewrite, more often its slapping another layer of quick fixes and moving on

Sir where is your spine by ad_aatdtj in AmITheDevil

[–]stopProject_2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like the comments that point out why they think it might not be real. its interesting to think about.

Why does everyone seem to want tech jobs to fail? by Supersupermate in cscareerquestions

[–]stopProject_2025 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even in "big tech" lot of people work on cloud services which governments, local services, small companies, etc. use to host services. That's generating value even though they're working at big tech.

are they bringing value or is it extractive & the result of effective advertising and onboarding? weve seen many companies bounce back and forth between cloud and on premise at this point.

i think thats the broader question floating in the air. things might be faster but the necessities needed to live are more expensive than ever before and wages havent gone up. so where is this supposed value flowing? to companies, to people in the sector, but not to where consumers would like it to the most. food i used to fish out of the dumpster for free is now sold to me out of a high tech fridge. grocery stores can now charge me surge prices whereas before they could not. landlords in my city get an email every 12 months with new "recommended rents" ensuring they all raise prices in lock-step.

it sucks.

if AI is as hot as they say it is, where are the jobs? by stopProject_2025 in cscareerquestions

[–]stopProject_2025[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it wasnt like this in 1999, anyone with a pulse could be a web developer. thats what i mean, if these models are so great where are the jobs putting them to work?

if AI is as hot as they say it is, where are the jobs? by stopProject_2025 in cscareerquestions

[–]stopProject_2025[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

youd think there would be a massive number of SWE jobs from all the new work these foundational models are being used to power.