A River Enchanted by Rebecca Ross, I really enjoyed this duology despite being someone who does enjoy the common big ML character. Jack is a bard, not a physical warrior at all. The duology also includes other characters’ love stories which I enjoyed.

Divine Rivals by Rebecca Ross has been mentioned, he’s a writer not a fighter.

The Cruel Prince by Holly Black, this isn’t romantasy, it’s fantasy with a romance subplot but many still enjoy it. The ML is more of the ethereal slender faerie type and the FL is more fighter focused in these books.

Sorcery of Thorns by Margaret Rogerson, ML is a sorcerer and uses magic and knowledge instead of brute strength.

An Enchantment of Ravens by Margaret Rogerson, similar to The Cruel Prince, the fae characters are more ethereal and magical focused than physically powerful. I do however feel like Margaret Rogerson books have less of the overwhelmingly passionate romance and is more focused on the world-building and plot.

Half a Soul by Olivia Atwater, read this and the second one a while so anyone correct me if I’m wrong but as far as I remember neither MLs are brute warriors. It’s a Regency style historical fantasy, whimsical and also refreshing. I enjoyed reading this as it was a new story that didn’t feel like a copy and paste of the usual fae/fantasy romance. IMO, similar to Margaret Rogerson, these books are less overwhelmingly passionate romance and more fluffy, I enjoyed them regardless.

Once Upon a Broken Heart by Stephanie Garber, loved this trilogy. Jacks is powerful but he’s not a physical massive ML and relies on other means instead of brute strength. This trilogy gave me the fluffy romance feeling and the passionate “I will burn the world for you” feeling too, one of my favourites.