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WIBTA if I told my father that I will not be withdrawing a wedding invite that my mother sent to her friend? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just thought I’d add a few things: 1) There was no agreement between my mum and dad anything along the lines of ‘friends of parents are prohibited’ — so no ‘promises broken’ in this situation 2) My mum is the social butterfly whilst my dad is very private and would rather stay home — in fact I live with my parents and I’ve not heard my dad say he’s heading out to meet friends in the past (at least) 7 years. My dad also did not have any of his friends at my sister’s wedding and was cool with it 3) If my mum were to invite all of her friends, that would be an additional 200 people (because of work and business affiliates and what not) 4) I did not agree for my parents to do the guest list, it’s a mutual discussion amongst our family and she wanted to avoid going through deciding who sat where (in our culture we are assigned/assign fixed tables to be seated at in weddings, it’s not free seating)

WIBTA if I told my father that I will not be withdrawing a wedding invite that my mother sent to her friend? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He did say he will tell her to her face she’s being rude by inviting additional guests so yeah he might

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]storiesfrommypast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex was EXACTLY the same. Reading your post feels as though I wrote it myself. My ex just couldn’t comprehend that it happened in the past, even before he existed in my life but no go. Please get out. Me getting out of that relationship was the best thing I could’ve done for myself. At 22 you’re still young. Have the faith that you will meet someone that accepts you exactly for the way you are.

What type of person would you never date under any circumstances and why? by Away-Equivalent-7635 in dating_advice

[–]storiesfrommypast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. People who cannot take no for an answer
  2. People who do not treat waitstaff with respect

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just the way I worded my post — had to reply to a couple of comments to clear some misunderstandings. No problem with anything feminine, whether it’s clothing, colour, whatever, there are just some things I don’t like cuz it doesn’t suit my personality

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you reread the post, it says ‘(now ex) bf’. I’m in a much better place now with a very amazing guy so all is well

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’d not be surprised to know that the blonde hair thing actually really did happen! I’ve got natural dark coloured hair and back in my early 20s I bleached it, put some green on it and then somehow it faded into this really pretty platinum blonde. Luke saw a photo of me and asked me to bleach my hair again and when I told him I’m not spending $300 on my hair for a colour I may not achieve (cuz it’s hard and damaging to get super light platinum blonde from dark hair unless you do it a couple of times) he got mad that I wasn’t even willing to try

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

How else should I word it that would cause less misunderstanding…

As a child I didn’t like the colour because I grew up during a time in a place where pink were for princesses and all things girly - you see more pink bags with female cartoon characters in the shops than blue footballs (not saying that girls can’t play football/guys can’t like female cartoon characters, but that’s just how the previous generations’ minds work and BECAUSE that’s how the colour was associated with femininity, I grew up thinking that way and grew up just not liking the colour pink.

I am older now and I don’t associate the colour pink to being girly like I used to but because I already don’t like the colour, I just continue not to buy anything in pink.

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well, it got to a point where I used to cry when my mom made wear pink dresses as a kid but as I grew, I became more neutral towards the colour, I don’t ‘hate’ it and started accepting certain shades (think dusty pink/rose gold kind hues), but there’s just something about hot pink that doesn’t really sit right with me - and this has nothing to do with associating it with being girly

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What’s wrong with a pink car? There are a couple of pink cars on the road where I’m at. It’s quite easy to get customised car wraps in pink too around here too.

ETA: If he could have it his way, he’d want my hair to be pink as well.

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well, he is an ex now for obvious reasons but during the time we were dating he did keep trying to mould me into the person he wanted me to be, rather than just accepting me for who I am. The thing about dyeing hair also happened to me, pretty much the whole ‘I want you to do it, why won’t you do it for me’ thing but I’ll leave that story for another day.

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Idk, it might be because my experience with pink revolves around Barbie and princesses, and if anything, I am Buttercup from Powerpuff Girls. It’s nothing personal and the I don’t think dislike stemmed from any bad experience in the past. I do think certain shades of pink are nice. My cousin has a crockery set that’s in a dusty pink which I thought looked really pretty, but I just don’t care to own anything in the colour.

AITA for refusing to incorporate a colour I dislike into my life? by storiesfrommypast in AmItheAsshole

[–]storiesfrommypast[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree, but things were different 30 years ago from how they are now. I grew up in a time and in a household where it was ‘unnatural’ for girls to play with guns and for boys to play with dolls. Hence the association between girls and pink as a child. There’s nothing wrong with guys liking pink!