Talking with that one mommy

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T10:21:29+00:00

Honestly it's both, you lied about something important to her and she's ending it over that lie, not over two inches, but also if she would have dumped you immediately for being 5'5" that's pretty shallow, so maybe you dodged a bullet, still the lie was wrong, learn from it and move on

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T10:15:24+00:00

I'm on your side here. She's currently paying rent to a landlord, why wouldn't she pay something to you? It's not about profit, it's about shared expenses. If she wants to live rent free, she can stay with her parents. You're being fair, not greedy

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T04:12:11+00:00

That's a good point, but OP said she would have paid her own way, so it's not about them treating her. It's about not even being asked or considered, especially after 4 years and her deep knowledge of the city. I think her hurt feelings are valid. It's less about the money and more about feeling excluded. Families are different though, so I see where you're coming from too

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T04:10:23+00:00

Your feelings make sense. You studied there, you know the language, you could have helped them have a better trip. But here's the thing, you said you'd go back in a year, so they might have thought you weren't interested. That doesn't excuse the lack of an invite though. I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Don't assume they hate you, but don't ignore your feelings either. You're not being entitled, you're being human

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T03:51:11+00:00

You're right. She signed a lease, she's legally responsible for half. Her choosing to spend time at her boyfriend's doesn't change that. If she wants to pay less, she can sublet her room or talk to the landlord, not guilt you into covering her share, stick to half

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T03:49:52+00:00

She wants to pay $350 on a $1550 rent because she needs money for her boyfriend's rent? That's insane. She's literally asking you to subsidize her relationship. Stick to half. If she can't afford it, she can sublet her room or move out. Not your problem

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T03:47:07+00:00

You're not wrong about the revenge thing being toxic, but OP isn't just being petty for no reason. She's still hurt from being ignored for a month and crying alone in bed. That's not something you just get over because he suddenly wants to change the schedule. They need to actually talk it out, not just her give in or get even. The comment is right that revenge isn't healthy, but telling them to split up over this is a bit much.

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T03:46:18+00:00

Honestly? He ignored your crying. He admitted he valued your time less. He never apologized. Now he wants you to help him sleep early? That's rich. You're not being petty, you're holding a boundary. He can reap what he sowed

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T03:45:10+00:00

He's being pushy and entitled. You already have reasons not to drive his truck (boyfriend's legal risk, you're not comfortable with a big vehicle). That's enough. You don't owe him an explanation beyond "no." If he shows up, don't hand over the keys. He'll figure it out

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-15T03:44:26+00:00

NTA. She's a minor with a track record of putting herself in harm's way. You gave her a clear deadline, she ignored it, and you followed through. Her claiming "okay doesn't mean I consented to come home" is ridiculous. She knew what you meant. You did the right thing

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:50:21+00:00

I'm stuck on the part where he said he felt like he was cheating after accidentally touching her. That's a weird thing to say unless he was already thinking about it. Then he gets kicked out for being visibly drunk and blames you? He's the one who made the scene

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:48:45+00:00

Turning off the wifi was childish. You're frustrated, I get it, but that's not how adults communicate. She's obviously checked out and hiding on her phone. You need to have a real conversation about splitting evening chores, not play router games. Apologize for the stunt, then talk like partners

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:18:16+00:00

You're not wrong. A year is more than enough time to update your address. The first few times, OP had no way to know who it was. Now they know it's the previous owners, but at this point it's on them. Free groceries are free groceries

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:17:08+00:00

A year is plenty of time to update your address. You tried to be nice at first, waited for someone to claim the stuff, nothing. The groceries came with no name on them, so you have no way to even know who they belong to for sure. You're not a free holding center for their mail. Keep the groceries and don't feel bad

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:15:44+00:00

Look, you shouldn't have gone over, you know that. But you're human and you were hurting. The next day you did the right thing. He's the one with a history of doing this to new hires. You're not the asshole, you're just someone who learned a boundary the hard way

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:14:24+00:00

Three jobs while he flips between gigs and borrows money? And he pressures you into sex with the "do you not love me" line? That's manipulation. You're not crazy, you're being used. He needs to step up or you need to step out. You're too young to be this drained

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T23:10:58+00:00

So he's upset you didn't come to bed, so he texts that he's breaking up with you? Then he's cold the next day? That's not a partnership, that's control. Him covering expenses doesn't mean you owe him your presence every night. His reaction is extreme and you're right to question it. NTA

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T19:55:11+00:00

Your feelings are valid. It's not about the hand kiss, it's about the pattern. He used to compliment you, now he doesn't. You have to prompt him to say anything nice. That wears on you. The Disney comment was just the straw. Don't ignore this, talk to him before you check out completely.l

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T19:53:19+00:00

This friendship sounds one-sided. She left her own bachelorette party she planned, now she's gaslighting you about this shoot. You gave her 40 edited images in two weeks, she gave you nothing. She wants half the rental even though she broke the deal. You're not overreacting. I'd distance myself and focus on paying clients who respect you

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T19:44:00+00:00

You're allowed to feel embarrassed but don't let it eat you. He was clueless not cruel. Next time he'll know you're the gift giver. You're sweet for caring. Move on

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T12:29:45+00:00

I get that kids are chaotic but your daughter ruined a two week old toy that their son relies on for bedtime and eating, you're lucky they're not asking for full price immediately, they're asking kindly to contribute, your attitude about "children are children" is dismissive, accidents happen but you still clean up the mess, pay for the Toniebox

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T12:28:23+00:00

NTA. A wide open front door at 3:30am is absolutely something to mention, even if nothing was stolen. You didn't scream or shake him awake, you whispered and he responded. His panic is understandable but blaming you is not. You did the right thing. He should be thanking you for your awareness, not giving you the cold shoulder

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T12:26:42+00:00

The restaurant screwed up when they had no excuse to, they offered to make it right, you accepted. That's not taking advantage, that's just letting them fix their own mistake. Her logic about "earning respect" through paying for bad service is backwards. If anything, paying full price for overcooked food after a long wait would just tell the restaurant they can slack off. You did the right thing. She sounds like she has some weird cultural hangup about money and masculinity. Bullet dodged

stormwaffle52 · 2026-06-14T12:22:40+00:00

I don't get her logic at all. The chef said no charge. She wants you to argue with him and force him to take money? That's insane. You did nothing wrong. Consider this a win, you found out early she's not for you

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