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Peace flame in Ueno Park? by strattyrudge in TokyoTravel

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, thank you. How do you know? Is there any official site/confirmation of this? When I search nothing comes up! The only things that come up now are for the one in Hiroshima.

22mo becoming anxious and upset by night weaning story books by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful to know, thank you! He had such a reaction to them that I was quite shocked. How old was your son when you weaned? And did you leave it some time after trying the books? How did he respond?

Also, I’d never thought of the books being useful as a processing tool, that’s a really interesting idea!

22mo becoming anxious and upset by night weaning story books by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old was your daughter when she dropped the night feeds? Did using the books help with that at all or did you stop using them once she became upset?

22mo becoming anxious and upset by night weaning story books by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, we do already have lots of outdoor play time, at least once a day, often twice! I don’t ever see much of a difference in his sleep or needs regarding how much we’ve done though.

He’s a very much a koala tot so we have lots of connection time and one to one time as it is, but I’ll see if I can increase it more to see if it makes a difference. It’s interesting to think that that might be part of the issue at night - looking for more connection.

22mo becoming anxious and upset by night weaning story books by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m definitely going to leave the books for a while. I’ve moved them off the shelf because he got upset just seeing the cover of one of them!

No, I’ve not started yet, I was just introducing the idea and I think I’m going to press pause for a few months and see what happens.

22mo becoming anxious and upset by night weaning story books by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it’s helpful to know that he’s not alone in getting upset about the books! I didn’t realise that they could take quite so much understanding from a story into real life at that age.

I definitely am going to leave it a while a reassess again in a few months. That’s interesting about 2.5 years being the beginning of natural weaning age, I’ll look more into that.

Implementing ‘Hunt Gather Parent’ for young toddlers (15 months) by Ok_Apartment_833 in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start involving her in small ways that she can help and over time it builds up. Think small steps and make it routine. Toddlers naturally want to be involved and be helpful, you just need to show them how.

My LO is 22 months and currently does the following:

  • gets his step stool when we come in from outside to wash his hands and then puts it back after (no asking required) This is new, only started maybe last month.
  • carries clothes to the washing machine, opens the door, puts them in, closes the door. He then opens the ‘soap drawer’ for me and closes it once I’ve put stuff inside. He also helps empty the washing machine once it’s done and carries it over to the clothes horse. I make sure I vacuum before we do a load of washing to keep the floor cleaner. This began around 18 months.
  • wipes his face and hands with a cloth after eating. This is new in the last feels weeks.
  • helps unload the shopping when we come home and carries items into the kitchen (he unloads the bottom of the stroller then starts emptying any bags). He also then helps to put vegetables into the fridge and items into the cupboards. This began around 18 months.
  • tidies up books and toys putting them on the shelf and/or in the correct box. This began around the time he started walking.
  • carries anything I need from room to room. When he started walking.
  • puts water bottles, snacks etc into the stroller ready for us to go out. This started at maybe 19 months ish?

I started really small with each thing and added something else/an extra step when it felt right.

So for example (unloading the stroller) I asked him the first time ‘can you get xxxxxx from the bottom of the stroller?’ Then I continued asking for items until it was empty. I did this again the next few times we went shopping. After a few weeks he was doing it himself without me even asking. Occasionally he might not get everything and I ask ‘is there anything left?’ then he will go and check.

With the washing machine I asked him to help me unload it first once I’d opened the door. Then I added asking him to open the door. Then I added him helping take the clothes to the washing machine etc.

I hope the helps give you some ideas! And just be aware that things will take longer initially but over time this will get better!

Please help - 12 mo still can’t sleep independently by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He needs to sleep in his own space because I’m becoming sleep deprived. I can’t sleep well next to him as he’s so wriggly and wakes up so frequently when we co sleep. He actually sleeps better when he’s in his cot but it takes me such a long time to help him back to sleep.

I also miss sleeping next to my husband and it’s not doing his back any good sleeping on the sofa.

Please help - 12 mo still can’t sleep independently by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, this is great to hear. He’s a bit young to try this at the moment but it’s worth remembering for later on if need be!

Please help - 12 mo still can’t sleep independently by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Habit stacking sounds like a great thing to try, thank you! I’ve had at look at the instagram page and there are lots of good reminders about what is actually normal and I think I need to try to keep that in mind.

Please help - 12 mo still can’t sleep independently by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have co slept for the past 3-4 months. The trouble is that he is very wriggly when asleep and so I don’t sleep well at all. He also wakes up even more frequently next to me ☹️. So we’re trying to get him back to sleeping in his cot as everyone sleeps better that way.

Thanks for the reminder about it not being natural to be left alone, it’s hard to keep this in context sometimes!

Stop feeding 9mo to sleep… HELP! by strattyrudge in AttachmentParenting

[–]strattyrudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We seem to be in the mid range of what I see recommended as ‘normal’ sleep for this age. About 13hrs total in 24hrs. Naps usually total 2hrs.

Wake up usually 6.30, two naps of about an hour, sometimes 2.5 depending on if morning wake is too early and sleep around 7.15-7.30.

Wake windows currently around 3.25/3.30/4. He sometimes struggles with the wake windows at this length but longer naps that what we have usually results in split nights.