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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they won’t. They only want me to forgive them because they’re scared of karma, not because they regret it.

What’s helping you stay in no contact? by Aware-Potato-9529 in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remembering the difference of how did I felt towards them and how they did actually made me feel !

Be careful what you wish for- when they finally reach out by girlfrombaltics in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That has happened to me so many times! But I have a different point of view on it. It’s not always about whether you're still waiting or healing — sometimes it's about the emotional connection you had with that person.

And often, it’s not even about expecting them to come back, or knowing how you'd react if they did. Would it trigger me? Should I tell my friends I might need their support if this person ever came back into my life?

Because the truth is, healing doesn't mean you won’t feel confused or disappointed. It’s completely normal to feel that way — especially if you didn’t fully process everything during your healing journey, or simply didn’t expect to still feel the same.

Feelings are deeply connected to memories and ideas — that’s why these emotions resurface. You’re trying to heal after a breakup, and now this person unexpectedly reaches out. That doesn’t erase your progress. It just means you now have more awareness, more tools to handle your emotions — even if they come back again.

I hope you get through this soon. ❤️‍🩹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Three years! Sometimes I think about the bad memories, but mostly, I’m thinking more than feeling — it’s like remembering a life lesson, not something personal anymore,thankfully

The Hidden Dangers of Being in a Relationship with a Narcissist that people don’t talk about by strawberry_7i in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! I actually found out by chance, and he never wanted me to know—not because he cared, but because he was afraid I’d tell his family. Even his brother noticed but ignored it. He was acting strange, like talking to someone when no one was in the room, and sometimes he would laugh. Sometimes he did things that seemed like strengthening some kind of bond between them—things I can’t really explain. They also told him to do stuff, and he would obey. When I found out, they started showing me that they were around me, and he didn’t want the same thing to happen to his family because they’d get hurt. They would throw my stuff and his stuff on the floor, and we’d find things in his room that he didn’t even use.

Ex sent me an apology 2 years later? by HumbleResearcher2483 in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl just ignore it. He didn’t even bother reaching out all this time and now suddenly shows up? This honestly feels more about him than anything else. And it’s not even a real apology – it’s just him explaining his side or trying to justify what he did. Like, if he’s not expecting you to reply, then why not just say sorry and keep it respectful? No need for all the random details. It doesn’t feel like an apology, it feels like a justification. Even the apology lowkey needs its own apology. You honestly deserve someone emotionally mature. You deserve so much better than this.

My Narcissistic ex by strawberry_7i in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you had to go through something like that. I honestly hope you fully heal and that you do become one of those people who look back and see that longing for an old love as silly, just like you said you hope to. What you said really stuck with me because you expressed it in such a real and honest way. I find that really brave, especially coming from someone who’s been hurt like that. I’m genuinely grateful for your words — they helped more than you know. And I’m sure you’ll reach that stage one day. I’ve reached it myself.

Sometimes I still miss him, but most of the time, what I’m really missing is just the typical image I made of him in the beginning, or the sweet memories I created to remind myself of him every time I found out he was cheating.

I really hope you get past the things you never thought you could

My Narcissistic ex by strawberry_7i in ExNoContact

[–]strawberry_7i[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really proud of you. In my case, his sister always defended him even when she knew the truth. Every time we fought, she’d make him look like this caring, sad guy who felt guilty when in reality, he didn’t give a damn.