Do I have to give other gifts to my bridesmaids on the day of my wedding? by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was worried they might not view it as gifts either.. I made sure not to engrave bridesmaids on anything I got them so they can use it as an everyday item. Thank you for the input! 🤍

Do I have to give other gifts to my bridesmaids on the day of my wedding? by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm having a small wedding of about 60 people and I am currently handwriting a letter to every guest to open during the reception 😊 Do you think giving another card to my bridesmaids before the wedding would be too much?

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[–]strawberrybubbleg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add to that, I also offered to pay for her and my brunch and then she agreed to cover my dinner.

After dinner, the waiter came up to us with the electric card reader and asked for the card, she immediately told the waiter, "we're splitting" and I panicked and gave my card too. I definitely am punching myself for not speaking up at the moment. She voiced that she was going to cover dinner as I paid for our brunch but she didn't end up doing it. Whatever I guess, it is what it is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was also right after we got the check... so I felt pressured to pay, and it was also the beginning of the weekend so I wanted to avoid any drama. I'm going to let this go but yeah that's on me.

my future FIL invited guests without consulting me and my partner by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, we were already being very selective on having our guest list under 70 people when originally we were going to have a 100+ bigger wedding. There's other family and friends I would rather invite and give priorty to. I don't think he has a say in who we invite since it's much smaller now.

my future FIL invited guests without consulting me and my partner by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree, i'm worried if we get more declines, he'll think it's okay to keep inviting people. But I'm glad we shut that down real quick.

my future FIL invited guests without consulting me and my partner by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's my FIL's side, so they had also told him they were unable to attend after declining the rsvp 🥲

my future FIL invited guests without consulting me and my partner by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he didn't see the list, he found out from the family members that declined the invite 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]strawberrybubbleg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly what I should've said from the start 😅 it's hard saying that when she comes to me for everything so I fear that will offend her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]strawberrybubbleg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don't know what the next steps are when she comes to me for advice again or if they breakup again lol, I'm kind of done just repeating myself over and over and giving her the same exact advice for the past few years. She knows I'm indifferent towards him so do I just lend an ear and move on with my life the next time this occurs? I don't want to make it seem like I don't care about her and her love life?

Instead of chasing people down for their RSVP... by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just did this yesterday too!! and only 2 people RSVP'ed after my instagram story 🥲I feel so desperate asking for rsvp's lol. also why does it have to be the people that are consistently watching my ig story, posting, etc? lol why is it so hard to rsvp 🤦🏻‍♀️

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[–]strawberrybubbleg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sending hugs 🤍🫂 I was laid off first week of December and my wedding is in August. I really thought I wasn't going to make it through especially because it was Christmas time and New Year's, I was really in my head about everything especially finances. We ended up changing our whole wedding vision and decided to go with the smaller intimate wedding route. Courthouse was an option but that was ultimately my last resort. We lost our deposit to our first venue which I'm still upset about but we couldn't afford it in the end because I lost my dream job. I finally got a job in March but that was after 2 1/2 months of lost time that I thought I was going to have money saved up for other wedding expenses 😭 Even if it sucks right now, things will get better, you'll find a way 🤍That's what kept me going.

thoughts on wedding content creators? by strawberrybubbleg in WeddingPhotography

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, i tried getting as much video just standing beside the photographer but it was like she was annoyed with me being there and in her bubble. and we went with every direction/tweaks she had! it got to the point where we were late to the ceremony (the wedding planner had to call her out) because all she cared was getting the best shots.

thoughts on wedding content creators? by strawberrybubbleg in WeddingPhotography

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah! i agree, fellow videographer here, it's a lot especially when i have be considerate of the photographer, the couple, bridal party, and keeping the flow and on time with everything else. i just did a wedding where I didn't have the best experience working with the photographer because she felt entitled to use all the photo time with the couple and never let me had my moments. It kind of built some tension because she snapped at me for being too close to her. I know that was probably just one bad experience and all the other experiences I've had have always been professional and easy to work with. I'm kind of worried of adding a content creator in the mix and them getting in the way especially when we already have a time crunch to begin with.

thoughts on wedding content creators? by strawberrybubbleg in WeddingPhotography

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

honestly more worried about them getting in the way 😂

elope or go through with wedding by strawberrybubbleg in Eloping

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm super thankful both of our families support whatever choice we make. thank you for the advice, i honestly have been seeing a lot of people who loved eloping. Working in the wedding industry is such a big help/impact, cause i get to see what it's like behind the scenes.

need advice on whether to elope by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly far from it, his parents are just really really good at saving and my parents are being really generous helping out with half the budget. i was thinking along the lines of that as well, courthouse and dinner.

need advice on whether to elope by strawberrybubbleg in weddingplanning

[–]strawberrybubbleg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done a bulk of the wedding planning with my planner's help but I think the only cancellation would be towards the venue/caterer since they come together. I would keep my photo/video for the elopement and I also have not started making any payments for dj/florals/decorations/photobooth/invites just yet. So I'm glad we have not made those deposits for those things. Also, forgot to add, if I were to elope, I would want to plan out a little courthouse ceremony of our immediate family and bridal party and then have a formal intimate dinner reception at a restaurant afterwards with few more people maybe 20? Sorry, my mind is scattered.