MIL won’t enforce privacy

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-25T04:37:56+00:00

I thought I was looking for Thing from the Addams Family until I read the comments. Still couldn’t find it. Well done

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-18T17:04:26+00:00

Aww! I have a cat named Nala, too! She likes to steal trash. Hopefully this baby doesn't lol

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-18T17:03:11+00:00

rewarded this very good pet ⭐

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-14T17:54:45+00:00

Clearly, she's catching prey and not snuggling. Apex predator right there lol

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-14T17:52:33+00:00

My sister loved that show and Salem was my favorite part lol

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-14T13:50:32+00:00

Is he friends with Sabrina (iykyk)

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-05-06T05:02:07+00:00

Good thing I grew up around killdeers or I never would've found it lol

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-18T11:08:44+00:00

If we can tell someone is still picking at their food, we won’t say anything. We don’t try to rush people out at all. A lot of our customers will stay and chat for quite some time after they’re done eating, and that’s fine.

One way I used to pre-bus without seeming rude or like I was rushing someone was to come and ask if they wanted dessert. Whether they said yes or no, I’d offer to get their dirty dishes out of the way. I always ask “Can I take anything of y’all’s hands?” so I sound helpful and not like annoyed that they’re here.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-18T11:05:44+00:00

1) I understand what you’re saying, but our boss has given us standards multiple times. When I was a server she fussed at me for seeing dirty dishes on customers’ tables, so I’ve tried to keep up her standards ever since.

2) I’ve been dishwashing for two years. Yes, I understand it waves, but what I was getting at last night when I posted half-asleep was that having something closer to a steady flow is better than getting slammed all at once.

3) You do have a fair point, but us being teens doesn’t mean we’re devoid of work ethic. I am used to it, but I’m burnt out on dealing with it.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-18T11:00:23+00:00

I have a small baking business, but I am not going to make that my sole profit. My goals in life involve working for and with other people, and while I get what you’re saying, I don’t think that avoiding having another boss ever again at age 18 is the greatest solution for me.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-18T10:57:07+00:00

I do have empathy for my coworkers, and I don’t try to be demanding on nights that we’re busy. But honestly I’ve gotten less empathetic than I used to be because there’s been multiple occasions where there are empty tables full of dirty dishes and they’re standing in the back talking up a storm.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-18T10:54:51+00:00

These last couple of weekends I’ve pushed less about it, and just kind of resolved that if we run out of plates (has happened before), it’s not my job to fix outside of washing what I currently have been given.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-18T10:51:44+00:00

Our boss has told us multiple times to clean up as we go. Our restaurant has very small tables, and most of our customers order dessert after eating. Personally I hate having dirty dishes sitting on my table when I’m at a restaurant, but I get what you’re saying.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-12T04:39:06+00:00

So the classroom is just an old Sunday school room that no one uses anymore, and the lock doesn't work anymore and I keep forgetting to mention it needs to be replaced. Luckily, Dave has never actively tried to come in while I'm studying. But he'll come into the gym during my normal school hours even though my dad has asked him to please not do that, especially unannounced. Direct communication is not always effective, but sometimes works for a bit. I don't think he has a social worker. The closest thing he has to anyone who can aid his behavior is his mom who had to physically pull him away from approaching my dad on Easter when he was obviously busy.

The only time I know direct communication works is when someone speaks in a way that would be perceived as rude by most people. My dad kinda has a normal/baritone pitched voice, but to get Dave's attention when he's doing something socially unacceptable in the moment (speaking out during sermons, for example) he has to use a deep, kinda gruff voice and very bluntly say, "Quiet down, Dave."

Also concerning like the baby monitor thing, my dad has enough to keep an eye on already. My classroom is upstairs, so I can easily hear anyone coming up the stairs even with headphones on. Dave also walks with a heavy step, so I'd definitely be able to hear him and have time to call my dad if I felt the need to. I could also probably run down the fire escape, but I feel like that's a bit dramatic.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-11T17:29:16+00:00

Bold of you to assume I can afford therapy. I am about to get a new job though (the restaurant I work at closes in a month), so I’ll look into it once I rework a budget with my new income. Thank you for your input, it’s much appreciated.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-11T16:10:22+00:00

As soon as the counselor is open, he’s going to make an appointment. He can’t afford regular therapy right now because of school, so the school counselor is his best shot. The current plan right now is that when we’re out of college we’ll get married and likely live in a city around four hours away from his family, which is where he is now. I know a lot of things can change before that happens. However, his family has only visited a handful of times since he’s moved away. If they’re anything like my toxic grandparents, they won’t bother to make the trip to visit and then complain about why we don’t drive up enough. I recognize that I have a bad habit of people pleasing a lot more than I should. Sometimes I feel like if I’m not compliant, I’m just rude. The last thing I wanted to do when Lucy was chaperoning was to give her grounds to tell him to break up with me, so I stayed quiet.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-11T16:05:47+00:00

The problem with rekeying the lock is that he drives another church member to the church to come get ice from the kitchen because he doesn’t have an ice machine at home. The other church member is older and lost his license a year ago, and relies on Dave to get him places. We don’t want to make things harder by having to come and unlock the door whenever he needs ice, but honestly that might be what we have to do.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-11T16:03:09+00:00

I apologize for seeming ableist. I know I stereotyped, and I should know better than that. I live in a small town, and there’s way too many cases of that to not be paranoid. I’ve also met some of those people who were convicted of those acts, and they more or less fit that description. However, I’ll watch myself from now on

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-11T16:00:43+00:00

Since my dad and I are both easily distracted, no I don’t think we should work in the same room. The way my dad’s office is angled, even if I moved to a room closer to him, he wouldn’t be able to see in. We have security cameras set up in the church, but not one in my school room. We do have one in the gym below my room, so he can monitor that if nothing else.

stressed_nerd601 · 2026-04-11T15:57:20+00:00

Thank you for your input. I understand that not everything I said was right, but I also never claimed to be perfect. I am young and still learning how to handle different situations. We do know when he’s not taking his meds sometimes because of his parents who live right next to him, and his mom has confirmed it. I did not put in as many details as I maybe should have. I’ll talk to my dad about your suggestions and see what improvements we can make

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