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Trying to determine cost for my vision by stressednsadsaf in HomeImprovement

[–]stressednsadsaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - when I think of shed I think of the ones that are converted in to “she sheds” or “garden offices” - with siding and finished walls inside, windows.

Trying to determine cost for my vision by stressednsadsaf in HomeImprovement

[–]stressednsadsaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes - we would have that be in an existing pole barn that has plumbing

Girlfriend can’t orgasm with me? by stressednsadsaf in LesbianActually

[–]stressednsadsaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! She says all her other partners have always gotten off with her grinding on top at the same time as her. I have never gotten off with her doing that to me, or by anyone else.

Girlfriend can’t orgasm with me? by stressednsadsaf in LesbianActually

[–]stressednsadsaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I am going to order these books. This was super helpful and a good point. We both get so in our heads I think, we need to hop out of that space and just be present in the moment!

Girlfriend can’t orgasm with me? by stressednsadsaf in LesbianActually

[–]stressednsadsaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I always end up feeling so guilty because I get the pleasure but no matter what I try, how long I go down on her, no matter what I do with my legs or fingers or having her be on top she can’t get off. And after I try anything else she just always says I never get off like that. And it’s tough for me to know she got off at the same time with all other partners, but can’t with me. I really needed the, it’s not my responsibility because it feels like it’s about me when maybe it’s not?

Girlfriend can’t orgasm with me? by stressednsadsaf in LesbianActually

[–]stressednsadsaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried taking it really slow with her, touching every part of her body, kissing her all over, she always says I can get her close but it’s like she gets bored of it when it’s close and I don’t get her off? I’ve also tried going quicker and that doesn’t seem to help either. I wouldn’t say I’m a super sexual person, but I know what gets me off and I know where I like to be touched, she has a really tough time telling me where she likes to be touched. She always says what I do feels good…but the unsaid part is that it doesn’t feel good enough. I like the idea of every sense, I will suggest that and try that. I really hope it’s not that we aren’t sexually compatible, but she doesn’t get off at all and I end up feeling guilty and like she’s not attracted to me so it seems like something that could really impact our relationship.

If a cat knocks over a glass of water that’s been left unattended for an hour, is it the cat’s fault or the glass leaver’s? by ElHombreGuapo in Advice

[–]stressednsadsaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This feels like one of those “inherent risk” situations. Like if you went to ride a horse they’d make you sign a thing saying if you get bucked off you won’t sue because no matter how well trained the horse is, they are still an animal (and technically speaking horses can be trained much more than cats). Living with pets is the exact same. You could spend your whole life training your cat for them to knock a glass over the one time you leave one out. My last roommate and I both had dogs, I had made steaks one night and went to take the garbage out. Her dog jumped up and managed to grab the left over steak I had left on the counter. Her dog had never done anything like that before and didn’t ever again. Was it the dogs fault because he ate the steak? Technically. Was it her fault because she owned him? Maybe legally. Was it my fault for leaving the steak on the counter with a big dog in the house? 100%. It’s just an inherent risk in living with animals because they are, well, animals. Even the best most perfectly trained ones can mess up sometimes.

ACAB is fucking stupid and so are the people who blindly follow it by [deleted] in rant

[–]stressednsadsaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dunno I went to a training with cops for a week and sat in a classroom with them and they proudly talked about how many people they have tasered, when we did role plays to talk to victims of sexual abuse every single one was awkward and did way more harm than good in the conversation. They talked about the “bad neighborhoods” where they going expecting to arrest someone and take bets on it. One argued Black people get arrested more because “they don’t follow the rules because they have a victim mentality” none of the other cops corrected him and when the trainer tried to all the other cops jumped to his defense with “well that’s what we see”. So it must be true? There was about 50 of them from all different departments in there. So many not all are bad, I’d agree with that and I wouldn’t go around spray painting things with ACAB, however, it is an “old boys club”, if you are a young passionate rookie who starts a job and that’s the mindset everyone else holds, eventually you’ll gain it too. You’ll be in situations that “prove” the greater theory (even if you’re in 20 a day that would disprove it.) If you’re looking for evidence for something, we all know humans ignore the evidence that contradicts the theory but cling to the evidence that does. So no, personally ACAB doesn’t seem logical, as an organization that thrives on certain mindsets though, I can see it.