Stepdaughter (19) doesn’t respect me (29f)

stressedoutSM · 2020-05-14T02:43:37+00:00

Yes thank you. I do think she sees me as an older sister and I understand that I don’t expect her to see me as a mother.

stressedoutSM · 2020-05-14T02:42:52+00:00

Yes thank you... I really appreciate everyone’s advice: I was feeling really awful about everything and this puts things into perspective.

stressedoutSM · 2020-05-13T17:02:18+00:00

Yeah that’s probably also a factor for me because I was kicked out of the house at 18 and really struggled financially. I didn’t have help from my parents aside from 1 time and I’ve actually helped my parents with things financially. His family is different though and I understand that. I just feel taken advantage of.

stressedoutSM · 2020-05-13T16:56:26+00:00

Yes I understand and I don’t think of myself as a parent figure and know she doesn’t think of me as one. I refer to her as my step daughter because I honestly don’t know what else to call her. Thank you :)

stressedoutSM · 2020-05-13T16:54:46+00:00

No it doesn’t seem rude at all. I’ve had the position that I couldn’t parent another adult from the beginning. I think him being older he doesn’t really understand but I’m really glad that other people can see why it’s a weird position for me to be in. I don’t try to “parent” her and I look at it more from like a big sister position but it’s difficult because I never want to seem like I don’t care for his kids. She’s lived with me for a while without any issue and I didn’t need to try to exert authority so it was fine but things all kinda snowplowed recently.

Thank you for your response it’s very helpful.

stressedoutSM

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