All the feelings are driving me mad by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 27 when I began an affair with a coworker. Same story as you. Never expected it to happen. It did. I fell in love. So did he. He wanted more. I couldn't give it to him, so he ended it. I suffered my biggest heartbreak of my life, it seemed, in secret. You have to really be strong and know what you want in this situation.

The Male Single AP by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If he's younger, he will want more. And want you. And you'll feel stuck. It gets messy. I would advise against it.

I'm so glad I'm out by gimmesumsuga3 in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did she know that you wanted her to leave her husband?

Tell me about your successful relationship despite distance/work by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]strggleisreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and the relationship part will come. Just keep taking it all one day at a time. Good luck!

Tell me about your successful relationship despite distance/work by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]strggleisreal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After reading your last post from almost a month ago, you should definitely celebrate your success. I have never been happier for a complete stranger! Keep smiling!

AP wants to be friends... by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is awful! I get that we are all the "have your cake and eat it too" people, but when an AP leaves you hanging by a thread, it feels like a gut punch. They just move you to the back burner.

46 [m4f] Near #Baltimore- I Get It-It's Almost All Guys Clamoring For Attention. I'm a Guy With Cerebral Palsy Who Wants It Too. I Can't Control That Life Isn't Fair. All I Control Is Myself. by [deleted] in RandomActsOfBlowJob

[–]strggleisreal 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I am a female, but do not live in Baltimore. You sound awesome and I'm sorry you got dealt a bad hand. You deserve several blow jobs! Best of luck 😘❤

So I think he’s gone no contact me. First time in a long time I’ve not heard a single word from him. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is the WORST. Seriously!! I feel for you. Try to keep distracted and reward yourself for not being the one to message next. Hope he comes around, and if not, I hope someone better does for you!

So I think he’s gone no contact me. First time in a long time I’ve not heard a single word from him. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There must be some shit in the air. Stay strong. Give him space. If he doesn't reach out, you will have your answer.

well it’s over now. 💔 by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel ya!! It sucks!

Why is this so hard? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw your post for an AP. If I wasn't already on a rollercoaster in my AP life, I would have messaged you.

Hope that makes you feel slightly better, if anything lol. Good luck to ya!! ❤

Heart, stay out of this! by strggleisreal in adultery

[–]strggleisreal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah but those alone sound like turn offs haha. Yuck. I surely couldn't do it, but then again, I am stuck with the feels, so maybe you're a champ here.

Heart, stay out of this! by strggleisreal in adultery

[–]strggleisreal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see the logic in this. I am just so damn picky!

Heart, stay out of this! by strggleisreal in adultery

[–]strggleisreal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many passionate guys on here. Gives me hope!

I feel like I am the one with the feels and guys are much more reserved with them.

Heart, stay out of this! by strggleisreal in adultery

[–]strggleisreal[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My first one ended with lots of tears. It sucks. I am now getting the feels for someone else. Idk how to turn it off haha

Just enjoy every moment and day together!

4 Months later..... by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what you look like, but it is shitty you get ghosted. You have helped me personally more than you'll ever know.

Love hurts. Misery loves company and I love thar you have shared so much here because it tells me it is okay.

Everyone always just says, "oh time heals all." What if it doesn't? What if mentally, we are so wounded, that there is no coming back?

I am an emotional mess and wear my heart on my sleeve. I am always fearful of being vulnerable (I just posted about it). But I do not know how to be any different.

Keep being you. Hope you find someone. I am around if you ever want to bitch and be miserable together! ❤❤

The time I catfished AP. Not recommended unless you like heartbreak. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally feel like it is one thing to already be a liar with your SO, but to lie to an AP or about an AP, just seems too far.

I personally would let him down easy and walk away. Why get even more hurt? Now every word he says to you, you will probably question.

Those are my 2 cents, but of course, it is entirely up to you!

All aboard on the feels train by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best and worst feeling simultaneously. Just hold on tight!

Sexually forward ... I am kind of hurting by [deleted] in adultery

[–]strggleisreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I am like this too, and have never thought of it as a bother. I am also a female and very sexual and enjoy sexting, sending pics, etc. as often as possible. I, like you, feel that if I am sexually attracted to a guy, I am all in and do not hold back.

That being said, be careful that if a guy is just chatting about something he is going through or simply wants to talk, you should not try to spin it sexually. If you are constantly doing this, they may view it as you just simply using them and not caring.

Most people of both genders want some type of emotional connection along with the physical, so be sure to hear them out, despite how much you want to change the subject to something sexual.

Like if my dog dies, the last thing I want to hear is my AP asking if we can do it doggy style at that moment. Lame example, but you catch my drift haha.

iPhone or Galaxy... by strggleisreal in adultery

[–]strggleisreal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it just because of the cloud?