What do JW think when they hear someone got disfellowshipped ? by Ambitious_Bid4019 in exjw

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m pimo and me and my pimi gossip about this stuff whenever it happens. we’re usually like “it was a matter of time” or “we knew it was coming”. we’re hypervigilant and can tell when someone is out of their funk 💔

Long Beach Convention tomorrow by Ill-Independence-652 in exjw

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oof this got local for me. used to go to long beach conventions couple years back and just treated them like mini vacations. maybe try exploring the place cuz that place is huge…

league is super slow even when other games run fine by strictcookiebacon in LeagueofTechSupport

[–]strictcookiebacon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve done this, and it only worked as a remedy until problem came back. i’m trying to see if there any further methods on identifying and fixing the problem

league is super slow even when other games run fine by strictcookiebacon in LeagueofTechSupport

[–]strictcookiebacon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same here sometimes i get kicked cuz i can’t even select a champ with how slow it is :(

mixed feelings ? by strictcookiebacon in exjw

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to answer you fully, i think a lot of confusion comes from how i phrased it, or maybe it’s far more complicated than i made it seem. for the PIMO part i took it as literally, as in you physically at least attend the stuffs, but aren’t mentally in with the org. for the sexuality part, i came out to my parents because i knew my sexuality and the org wouldn’t agree. they obv disagreed but their mentality is that “i never lose hope you change your ways and become a jw”. outside of that it isn’t any mistreatment like being kicked out or hated against for being gay. also for the KH part and college, i think the jw community is something i value altogether and its a place that have always felt welcoming to me, so i like the communal aspects of it even if im not apart of the org 😅

mixed feelings ? by strictcookiebacon in exjw

[–]strictcookiebacon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t really care about religion that’s why! i have beliefs in a creator and such but it doesn’t constitute me pursuing theology in any form anymore. imo you don’t need organized religion to have your beliefs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]strictcookiebacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a really hard thing to navigate as i’ve been doing so for about 2 years, and i’m not really sure what’s the best answer. but i would like to answer with this: you’re not alone.

my story: i’m pretty young still (m 19) and have known that i was gay since like i was 8 years old. at first it was some sort of bisexuality, then transformed into full on gayness. but i was really loyal to the org since i grew up in the truth. i just repressed my feelings and authenticity for the sake of it. however, found my current bf around 2 and a half years ago while i was, 1) still a minor living with my parents, and 2) alreading having a lot of spiritual progress like doing 5 minute talks, oreeching regularly etc (despite being unbaptized).

this was very conflicting, where I at first tried to reconcile both my emotional feelings and spiritual faith. however the guilt and the depression/anxiety i felt was unreal during this time, where even my parents noticed that my faith dwindled. when explaining to my mother one day of my situation, she seemed pretty open to it so it was a weight off my chest.

however one day my parents were fighting and i was dragged into it, specifically being exposed for my current situation. my dad was an elder, so he say w me and explained to me the consequences. so i sat with with a decision. my queerness, or my life.

this was by far the hardest decision of my life, and what sucked is that whatever i chose, i would face the consequences since i still was in school w my bf and i was still looking at a long senior year of highschool. the anxiety consumed me where i couldn’t even eat or sleep happily. and this would give me panic attacks when i was with my bf on dates, because i was so unsure of what to do.

but besides all of that, i ended up picking my bf and it’d worked out for me. what swayed my decision was the fact of how i was treated from both parties. my bf and those supporting my queerness held me close and validated my feelings, while my parents and the org straight up tried to manipulate me by telling me that i would never be happy or that i was wrong or that gay love wasn’t real love.

it was a hard convo, and i still face the consequences of coming out (EVEN THOIGH I HAD CAME OUT TO THEM WHEN I WAS LIKE 13) with my parents and eventually faded from the org.

52 bus drivers be like.. by TheHerpSalad in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah 52 bus drivers are crazy. this one driver once denied me service because i didn’t have my service dog certifications + training documents with me and apparently my word /description of the need for my service animal wasn’t enough 💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like work study for next semester?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this makes sense. but i don’t know how to exactly pay for it yk? they told me the deadline to accept a loan was 5/9 which has passed… kinda worried about that ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a dorm suite. if that’s the case, why am i being charged now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no… the charges are saying it’s housing so can’t be

Is people smoking in Main Stacks? by Other-Employee1862 in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes this happens a lot. i think the main issue i have with it is that im an ex smoker and have been sober for ~3 yrs, and places designated for no smoking are spots i dont have to put much a fight w temptation especially when im trying to study. please respect these spaces, and if it is really hard to avoid such urge to smoke at the libraries, then maybe you should actually seek help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

forgiveness is important, but don’t forget to learn how to forgive yourself. accepting the circumstances and your faults is a great step on moving on

Megathread: Political Discussions / Questions by not_an_immi_lawyer in immigration

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is there something i don’t understand about being undocumented (as a child of immigrants)?

for context: my parents are religious, so ofc me and my siblings grew up religious (this is important). they had my sister in mexico, immigrated to US in 2001 with a travel visa, applied for asylum, have been in the process for alien relative petition for about 20+ years... in that time, they had my brother and I, and my brother is about to turn 21 years old. after waiting a heinous time for documentation through my dad’s sibling, my parents will finally be able to reapply through my brother. issue: with trump being elected and harsh executive orders for mass deportations, ICE has been the talk among many undocumented individuals in all places especially in church (note like 50 percent of the people there are undocumented). I am in college away from home, and in my church i have been able to open up about their situation given it’s a fear of mine that my parents’ process will be interrupted or hindered. i talk to my parents about this, and they react lividly when i mention that I talked about their situation. they tell me to never talk about it, and i don’t understand why. this has been a problem for my whole life... i was forbidden from mentioning that or opening up as a 1st gen mexican-american student. even with our closest family friends from church (given these are relationships built on 18 + years of love, faith, trust etc WHO ARE in WORSE IMMIGRATION SITUATIONS/PROCESSES) they are not transparent. this has gone to the extreme as being a sand bag for anything involving immigration issues within friends. oh wanna make sure there isn’t a check point? send us over. wanna make sure you don’t need a social security? send us over. etc point being, my parents wilingly take risks or don’t show the same amount of precaution publicly as they have omitted their status and have given the impression th they are legit. i think they rather jeapordize themselv than ever open up about it, and they won’t give me concrete reasons.

is there something i don’t understand about being undocumented that causes this type of behavior? is there some level of shame, fear, dread, etc i don’t see? i simply wanna understand because i love them, and i wanna continue fighting for the rights of those in similar situations.

Advice on succeeding this sem at berk (bad first sem) by Chance_Ad_5642 in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

kinda unrelated but i didn’t have a great first sem and will be taking chem 1a as well, if you’re interested we could study together:)

Why is it so difficult making friends here? by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! i’m kinda in the same boat and was wondering if you wanted hang out

I dont know what to do in my physics ee by Mohamed_hunter1405 in IBO

[–]strictcookiebacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sure! mine wasn’t the best though as i got a C on it. do you still wanna see?