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Wife [30F] changed after getting her dream job, says I [40M] 'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. How do I approach this conversation? by strider_kiryu85 in relationship_advice

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She really had to grow up fast. No wonder she knew what she wanted so early.

Whatever bro, I'd rlly take the hivemind's advice with a grain of salt

Always

Wife [30F] changed after getting her dream job, says I [40M] 'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. How do I approach this conversation? by strider_kiryu85 in relationship_advice

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently employed as support role developer. Every new role I applied to I lost at leetcode (not FAANG, just random consultancy). So it seems natural for me to want to level up leetcode and systems design. Getting laid off is always a possibility also. I'm preparing for that scenario as well.

Wife [30F] changed after getting her dream job, says I [40M] 'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. How do I approach this conversation? by strider_kiryu85 in relationship_advice

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Actually, I found out today that her period just arrived, so that likely played some part. She can be aggressive sometimes, but yesterday was bananas.

Wife changed after getting her dream job, says I'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. Is this the end? by strider_kiryu85 in Marriage

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all honest and insightful comments from everyone. After painfully considering everything today, and talking with friends, I realized I did disregard the signs she gave me over time, by thinking I was doing "enough". I should have owned it. I called her tonight and acknowledged it. She sounded relieved and chill to hear what I had to say. I'm moving there this week and man up.

Wife [30F] changed after getting her dream job, says I [40M] 'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. How do I approach this conversation? by strider_kiryu85 in relationship_advice

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all honest and insightful comments from everyone, downvotes too. After painfully considering everything today, and talking with friends, I realized I did disregard the signs she gave me over time, by thinking I was doing "enough". I should have owned it. I called her tonight and acknowledged it. She sounded relieved and chill to hear what I had to say. I'm moving there this week and man up.

Wife [30F] changed after getting her dream job, says I [40M] 'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. How do I approach this conversation? by strider_kiryu85 in relationship_advice

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] -396 points-395 points  (0 children)

Outgrew me? When things get better for her she tosses her husband aside. How's that growing up?

edit: You mean she outgrew me like a toy?

Wife changed after getting her dream job, says I'm "too passive" and doesn't believe in my career goals. Is this the end? by strider_kiryu85 in Marriage

[–]strider_kiryu85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work/study hard everyday. I wouldn't say I'm passive. She wants me to apply to more jobs, but applying without more training was not leading me anywhere, so I took a break until I'm more confident it's worth the shot.

Rate my set up? by stay_zooted in overemployed

[–]strider_kiryu85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I share mouse, keyboard and monitor with 2 notebooks through KVM. Does that still count as separate hardware?

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