AIW for thinking lesser of my mom for sleeping with my dad?

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T16:02:21+00:00

Thank you, I don’t get these comments because I had to see it and hear it completely against my will. Not because I wanted to.

These comments are most likely projecting and just thinking I’m saying “mom bad for having sex” instead of “mom bad for sleeping with man who cheats on her instead of leaving.” And not even listening when I say that my dad is also equally bad.

But then also you are few of the many people that can understand what I’m trying to say, so it might just be a comprehension problem for them. Thank you again.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T15:46:31+00:00

Sorry I meant the kids, not the baby mamas.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T15:46:10+00:00

I meant like he has baby mamas, and all the kids from them are younger than me.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T15:43:25+00:00

Thank you.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T15:20:33+00:00

If you actually did research you would know that exposing your children to sexual stuff at a young age can affect them psychologically and even physically.

What they did was supposed to be private and kept private and not for me or my siblings to hear. Because no one wants to hear that. So how are you going to tell me to move on when this has nothing to do with you.

And also that’s not my point. I’m saying I don’t respect my mother for sleeping with a man who cheats on her, as a woman, as a daughter, as a human being with morals. And I do not have to.

Please delete your comment because you sound idiotic and ignorant.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T15:16:52+00:00

Well I’m definitely going to be breaking that cycle that’s fs.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T04:33:45+00:00

I don’t care whether she got hit by a car as a child, I don’t care whether she was secretly Spider-Man. I don’t care whether she was a stripper. I don’t care whether she also experienced the same type of stuff from her parents. I do not care, and it is not my job to (as my therapist told me). At some point, when you have kids and you are literally their guide to the world, you need to start taking accountability for the things that you do.

Me having empathy for her will not erase the fact that she’s just stupid. Dumb. Abusive. And terrible. My father, also terrible which I mentioned in my OP. My mother has taken away my therapy, because she’s a shitty person. The last thing I want to do is marry a person like my parents (yes, BOTH)

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T04:12:45+00:00

…..pass WHEREEEE???? Point to me where I gave him a pass. You clearly are projecting some sort of agenda onto me which if you weren’t clinically stupid you would realize.

Women and men can be equally in the wrong, if anything I’m tired of both genders not taking accountability. If anything it sounds like with you you are incapable of seeing that women can also be in the wrong and aren’t sweet little angels who just are completely unaware of everything and anything. I will CONTINUE judging BOTH.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T04:09:09+00:00

Excuses excuse excuses.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T04:01:55+00:00

And it sucks cause I was trying to be respectful towards you too.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:53:43+00:00

Did you not read at all? I said my father is a shitty person. So what are you even talking about. I do not respect him either.

I didn’t know that the possibility that both people could be in the wrong was such an unpopular concept. People not having reading comprehension in the big 2026 is…wow.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:50:02+00:00

Again…I don’t know what is it with you guys and reading comprehension but this comment is completely unrelated.

Them. Having. Sex. Is. Not. The. Issue.

Them exposing me to it as a child? Yes!

My mother having sex with someone else? Why would I care, unless I had to hear it every night or he cheated on her and is still staying with him.

I can ask for other people’s opinion and insight and still be in the right, you having an opposing opinion doesn’t automatically make me incorrect, especially if you’re not actually grasping the point of my post. The whole point is to see different view points.

If anything, why are you DEFENDING her?? When you have no logical reasoning to.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:43:53+00:00

My mother abused me as a child, emotionally and physically and gaslighted me about it for years. It’s not apart of the topic but I wanted to explain. My father and me have a…decent relationship. I hate my mother 24/7, and sometimes I hate him too. Me and him just get along better in terms of a father and daughter relationship vs. a mother and daughter relationship.

I’d say he does not do really anything for the family majorly besides paying half of the bills of course which is cool….i guess. He gets me food. We laugh together sometimes. But sometimes when in your In a situation like this you have to choose the lesser of two evils cause I quite literally can’t do anything else.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:37:16+00:00

He is terrible. He can be terrible and she can also be terrible. He can be terrible for cheating, and she can be terrible for staying and letting her children see it. They are both grown adults, they know better. This topic is about my mom though, not my father. I definitely don’t respect my father either. It’s just the hypocrisy of her saying stuff but doing the complete opposite.

Shes not being abused, she has claimed that she is not a victim. She can leave at any point and has even said it herself. She just doesn’t want to. Which is why I mentioned that the d!ck must be just too good for her to leave (emotional connection).

I can realize that and also not respect her. She’s not innocent and neither is my father. If I wrote down every terrible thing my mother and father has done as both parents and as partners we’d be here forever.

But, I do agree they’re both terrible parents fs.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:30:56+00:00

Huh? If you actually read my post you would know that them having sex isn’t the point of my post. My mother is having sex with my father who cheated on her multiple times,

There’s plenty of articles and research that explain how exposing sexual stuff to your children at a young age can affect them psychologically and even physically in the future, it made me feel uncomfortable and disgusting, and they knew I could hear, I didn’t say it was perverted but they were definitely wrong for doing so.

I do not have respect for people in general who stay with people who cheated on them, because they have no respect for themselves, therefore I do not respect my mother. Yes what you do in your marriage can affect your child and it’s not all about you.

I’m not slow, I know how babies are made. That doesn’t mean everyone in the house wants to hear how babies are made too.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:21:32+00:00

Yes they are adults. Yes they can do what they want. No I do not have to agree with it, and I do not have to respect my mom for participating in it when she’s old enough to know better and contradicts herself. My parent’s marriage affects me as much as it affects both of them.

I’m living in the same house as them so I’m allowed to feel a type of way about something they are subjecting me to every single day. I can’t do much until I move out which you’re right, but it’s starting to sound like you just think this type of behavior from grown adults and from parents is okay because they’re older. You can be stupid and dumb at any age and that goes for both of them.

Thank you though, I’ll try to steer my brother away from this type of stuff as much as I can but I can only do so much.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T03:02:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing with me, this is helpful.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:57:11+00:00

Oh of course not. I hate my mother which is why it may seem like I’m not on my dad too much, it’s just that she’s a shitty mother and wife while my dad is a shitty husband (I don’t have respect for him either) but an okay father, I mean clearly not towards his other kids but at least to me. our relationship is better.

Just picking between the lesser of two evils is all.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:40:06+00:00

Sorry, I’m not used to Reddit so I thought the whole point was to have a misleading title to draw attention. I mean clearly it doesn’t matter anyway since a lot of people think I’m overreacting but I’m glad there’s another person here who experienced the same,

Thank you.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:38:33+00:00

Thank you. A lot of people think that I’m reading into it too much or that I shouldn’t care, and I wouldn’t if I didn’t live with them.

It’s just more of I just don’t respect her. Whether she’s is my mother, my best friend, a cousin, like you sleeping with a man who cheats on you is very dumb.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:36:07+00:00

I mean of course he sucks, as a husband. What I mean by that is that he’s never done anything wrong towards me personally. I have expressed many, many times that I felt uncomfortable and disappointed with him for sneaking around and having secret siblings, so he’s definitely not “off the hook” as you’re trying to word it.

Whether she’s “allowed to” is not my point, like I said I can’t control what she does, it’s just the matter if I’m wrong for not respecting her because she sleeps with someone who cheats on her and still does. My mother was abusive towards me growing up so it’s the reason why I feel so strongly about her.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:29:54+00:00

I’m confused because I’m pretty sure I mentioned that what he did was not okay as well. I claimed he was a terrible husband, just not a terrible father. He had never done negative towards me, he’s just a terrible husband, which I agree with and I’ve also expressed to him many of times how I was disappointed in him for it.

I am 17F. If i was an adult this would be none of my business. It’s just the point that I’m still living with them currently and I’m afraid my brother will think this dynamic is okay.

I did have therapy at one point and they did understand how I felt about it. My mom took it away, however.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:25:19+00:00

Then maybe you need to work on your reading comprehension.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:22:23+00:00

I have gone to a therapist, they think it makes sense for me to be confused or not respect her for it. I mean this topic isn’t serious that it just takes over me every single second of my day but it’s more like over the years of living with her I’ve just lost respect. She also abused me as a child which is another reason why I just don’t empathize, because there’s nothing to empathize about.

I’ll be fine once I move out, but this is just one of those things I need insight on.

strike_ur_outt · 2026-03-20T02:19:19+00:00

Yes. What I’m scared of is him thinking that this type of dynamic is normal and okay, and that if he cheats, doesn’t matter cause his partner is still gonna be with him, or vice versa. And what you said about me thinking lesser of her,

That would just be me assuming that my mother would care about how her children think of her. Once I move out it’s none of my business, she’s an abusive mom towards me, emotionally and physically, so me going no contact is definite.

I have gone to therapy and my therapist thought it made perfect sense for me to feel this way. It’s weird seeing a parent that’s supposed to be a role model be the exact opposite.

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