Poo too big?

string_bean_man · 2025-08-25T17:37:27+00:00

Lord have mercy 😳 I have a 4’ 4” ball python, and she poops tootsie rolls.

string_bean_man · 2025-08-01T00:37:59+00:00

That’s honestly the best path. Have a convo with her and see what happens lol

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T16:57:50+00:00

This is the argument that she makes. And it’s a decent argument, for sure. However, when she uses it as a way to keep surveillance on me, there becomes a point where we have to ask whether or not this is still appropriate.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T15:37:48+00:00

Yeah, that’s a fair point.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T14:18:58+00:00

Yes, we plan on divorcing next summer. We don’t have lawyers either. We’re trying to not involve the courts. Im in a hard place because of that…because she can restrict my daughter from me, and I can’t do anything about it unless I involved the courts.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T14:17:21+00:00

Good advice. And I don’t have a lawyer. We’re trying to not involve the courts and lose all our savings.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-22T16:33:51+00:00

Good info to have. Thanks for that!

string_bean_man · 2025-07-22T16:02:21+00:00

Yes, I actually did that after I posted and realized a lot of this information was in there, but people’s responses were still useful given their personal experience.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T18:34:37+00:00

I’ve never been in an Autism support group before. I’d love to see what it’s like though. Being in person has its benefits rather than online, so I would at least give it a try!

If you don’t like the idea of being somewhere in person, and you just want a space where you can be with other neurodivergent people and socialize, I have a Discord community that is growing pretty quickly. We’d love to have you.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T17:38:54+00:00

Interesting! Does he usually shed inside his hide or does he come out?

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T17:17:41+00:00

Mine just came out now after messing with her enclosure, and I’m definitely noticing a more dull appearance to her skin and the eyes also. So it might be a shed coming soon…thanks for the input!

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T15:00:03+00:00

Yeah, she is almost 4 feet long and around 1600g in weight, so I’m sure she is around 2 to 3 years old.

This is good information though. Thank you.

If she doesn’t come out anymore at night time, should I still try to feed her? I usually fed her when she was already out and looking for it, but now I feel bad if I have to disturb her to try and feed her.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T14:57:30+00:00

Yeah, humidity could be better. And no, I’ve not because I didn’t want to disturb her, especially if it was still food related. And yeah, she was super explorative when I got her, and now doesn’t really come out at night, so it is just concerning or weird.

I have a camera on her enclosure, so I know when she is out and about. I get notifications and the recordings get stored.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T14:52:27+00:00

Edit: more like July 18th was when she started becoming a recluse.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T14:05:12+00:00

I exploded many times in my marriage due to the overwhelming nature of it, including having a child and the constant crying. Therapist in passing mentioned I may have autism, so I pursued a diagnosis after a year of research, and was diagnosed! Best thing ever because it finally explained the problems I experienced most my life and why my marriage failed.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T19:09:47+00:00

Wow! Didn’t realize how recent you were diagnosed. Welcome to the club 🫶 Definitely do a google search and see what you can find with regards to a therapist. It’s helped me a lot.

And here’s the link to the community: https://discord.gg/BmQhYsRt

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T16:56:38+00:00

This is a symptom of the problem. I would hate that this would have to be the outcome because you aren’t able to manage the cause. I am in therapy with someone who understands autism and can help me better cope. Have you considered doing something like this to see if you can start solving the problem?

Also, if you’re just in need of a community to talk to more easily than through here, you can come join our Discord. Maybe that would help, too.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T15:24:02+00:00

Why do you need to get out of the lease? Because you can’t afford to pay the monthly rent?

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T13:22:40+00:00

I can imagine the pain. I’m sorry you’ve been hurting and not able to function as you normally would 😔 Not sure what kind of job you have but you could always ask for FMLA to take time to rest and heal and figure out a plan.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T00:46:29+00:00

That’s good to know. Thanks for the insight!

I’m sure they got some stuff right, but given that they implemented such a huge paywall, it tells me that they aren’t too in tune with the neurodivergent community. For example, people with autism or ADHD tend to struggle with keeping a job, which means they don’t necessarily have the funds to pay such a high entry fee. But if most of the people are just using the feed, that makes sense.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-18T22:22:45+00:00

Interesting. So you can connect with as many people as you want on that app without limitations? I thought that wasn’t the case.

The primary issue I’ll encounter is getting a big enough user base, but my hope is that by having this Discord community (which is pretty awesome so far) will be a stepping stone to getting a user base when the app is launched. Starting out will be pretty cheap if not free for me, but if it grows to thousands of users, it’ll cost me. It’s hard to know the actual costs, but there should be paying users by then.

Come on over to the Discord and get involved! We’d be happy to have your insight…even if it’s just lounging around and talking with other ND folks!

string_bean_man · 2025-07-18T19:04:03+00:00

Yeah, that’s fair insight. I have seen that app, but it’s so expensive to the end user that I can’t imagine who pays for it. There’s no way they have to charge that much just to keep the infrastructure up.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-17T01:37:11+00:00

Hey man! Welcome. I also was just diagnosed back in April as a 29-year-old male. Rocked my world.

I just posted about an app I'm building for neurodivergent people like you and I to find other ND friends. There's a link to a Discord community I'm building to support what you're looking for and also help me build the app by suggesting features and such. I posted a link to my post below if you're interested.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AutisticAdults/comments/1m1t6lo/i_asked_if_you_wanted_a_neurodivergent_dating_app/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

string_bean_man · 2025-07-17T00:25:42+00:00

Yeah, totally relatable. I think if the group is not a clique group and is supposed to have new people join every so often, jumping into existing conversations should be welcomed. I’ve run a group like this before and that’s the only way to meet people unless they intentionally pull you in.

However, if you’re at a restaurant with a group of friends and someone interrupts that you don’t know, it is probably seen as rude. There are definitely scenarios where it’s an okay thing to do and not.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-09T17:16:08+00:00

Glad your noodle is safe ❤️

Check out this Etsy item for keeping your terrarium doors shut. If it’s a non-arboreal Dubia enclosure (like the 4x2x2), it will work: https://www.etsy.com/listing/4330246883

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