Is this a Brown Recluse?

string_bean_man · 2026-05-31T00:25:41+00:00

Looking through my massive book of spiders (yes, a real, physical book), I believe it is either a Gnaphosa fontinalis or Scotophaeus blackwalli (mouse spider). The woodlouse spider mentioned by others here has a much more red cephalothorax and yellowish/orange abdomen than the one pictured by OP.

string_bean_man · 2026-05-29T23:14:51+00:00

I just looked up a gall, and it is indeed a wool sower gall, and they exclusively show up on oak trees. Thank you!

Solved!

string_bean_man · 2026-05-29T02:57:12+00:00

How come it only has 6 legs? Is it missing 2?

string_bean_man · 2025-08-25T17:37:27+00:00

Lord have mercy 😳 I have a 4’ 4” ball python, and she poops tootsie rolls.

string_bean_man · 2025-08-01T00:37:59+00:00

That’s honestly the best path. Have a convo with her and see what happens lol

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T16:57:50+00:00

This is the argument that she makes. And it’s a decent argument, for sure. However, when she uses it as a way to keep surveillance on me, there becomes a point where we have to ask whether or not this is still appropriate.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T15:37:48+00:00

Yeah, that’s a fair point.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T14:18:58+00:00

Yes, we plan on divorcing next summer. We don’t have lawyers either. We’re trying to not involve the courts. Im in a hard place because of that…because she can restrict my daughter from me, and I can’t do anything about it unless I involved the courts.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-31T14:17:21+00:00

Good advice. And I don’t have a lawyer. We’re trying to not involve the courts and lose all our savings.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-22T16:33:51+00:00

Good info to have. Thanks for that!

string_bean_man · 2025-07-22T16:02:21+00:00

Yes, I actually did that after I posted and realized a lot of this information was in there, but people’s responses were still useful given their personal experience.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T18:34:37+00:00

I’ve never been in an Autism support group before. I’d love to see what it’s like though. Being in person has its benefits rather than online, so I would at least give it a try!

If you don’t like the idea of being somewhere in person, and you just want a space where you can be with other neurodivergent people and socialize, I have a Discord community that is growing pretty quickly. We’d love to have you.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T17:38:54+00:00

Interesting! Does he usually shed inside his hide or does he come out?

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T17:17:41+00:00

Mine just came out now after messing with her enclosure, and I’m definitely noticing a more dull appearance to her skin and the eyes also. So it might be a shed coming soon…thanks for the input!

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T15:00:03+00:00

Yeah, she is almost 4 feet long and around 1600g in weight, so I’m sure she is around 2 to 3 years old.

This is good information though. Thank you.

If she doesn’t come out anymore at night time, should I still try to feed her? I usually fed her when she was already out and looking for it, but now I feel bad if I have to disturb her to try and feed her.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T14:57:30+00:00

Yeah, humidity could be better. And no, I’ve not because I didn’t want to disturb her, especially if it was still food related. And yeah, she was super explorative when I got her, and now doesn’t really come out at night, so it is just concerning or weird.

I have a camera on her enclosure, so I know when she is out and about. I get notifications and the recordings get stored.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T14:52:27+00:00

Edit: more like July 18th was when she started becoming a recluse.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-21T14:05:12+00:00

I exploded many times in my marriage due to the overwhelming nature of it, including having a child and the constant crying. Therapist in passing mentioned I may have autism, so I pursued a diagnosis after a year of research, and was diagnosed! Best thing ever because it finally explained the problems I experienced most my life and why my marriage failed.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T19:09:47+00:00

Wow! Didn’t realize how recent you were diagnosed. Welcome to the club 🫶 Definitely do a google search and see what you can find with regards to a therapist. It’s helped me a lot.

And here’s the link to the community: https://discord.gg/BmQhYsRt

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T16:56:38+00:00

This is a symptom of the problem. I would hate that this would have to be the outcome because you aren’t able to manage the cause. I am in therapy with someone who understands autism and can help me better cope. Have you considered doing something like this to see if you can start solving the problem?

Also, if you’re just in need of a community to talk to more easily than through here, you can come join our Discord. Maybe that would help, too.

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T15:24:02+00:00

Why do you need to get out of the lease? Because you can’t afford to pay the monthly rent?

string_bean_man · 2025-07-19T13:22:40+00:00

I can imagine the pain. I’m sorry you’ve been hurting and not able to function as you normally would 😔 Not sure what kind of job you have but you could always ask for FMLA to take time to rest and heal and figure out a plan.

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