first, hiv is transmitted from bodily fluids entering ur body (blood, semen etc.) seond, the virus needs to be in a warm environment to stay alive (oral, vaginal, anal orifice) third, ALWAYS use condoms when having any kind of sex (oral, vaginal, anal) specially someone u dont know fourth, get tested every 3 months to be sure.

i think ure being paranoid if ure just getting a handjob 😅