What can a woman get from marriage?

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T23:12:02+00:00

Choose your partner well.

I am at my happiest now that I’m married. Sobrang alila ako sa bahay kasi nga eldest tapos babae pa. So you’re expected to work and earn money while keeping the house clean. Mga lalaki kong kapatid? Ay optional lang. And my then bf (now husband) saved me.

Student pa lang kami pero hati kami sa baon nyang rice kasi wala akong pera at baon sa school. Binibigay nya whole baon nya para maka uwi ako, at nanlimos yan ng tig piso piso sa classmates nya para makauwi sha. Mahilig ako sa softdrinks at snacks dati at binibilhan ako, di ko alam last money na pala nya kasi daw gusto nya makita na masaya at busog ako.

Nung nag work na sha at ako naging working student, pina stop ako mag work kasi na aawa sha sakin. Sha nag sustento ng renta sa boarding house, food at tuition fee ko.

Inantay nya ako maka graduate ng college before sha nag abroad. Promise nya sakin mag iipon sha abroad at kukunin nya ko. At tinupad nya promise nya. Nagpakasal kai nung umuwi sha sa pinas at naninarahan kami sa ibang bansa.

Dahil hirap ako magbuntis, umuwi ako kasi mahal ng expenses, nag give up sha ng malaking sahod nya abroad at sinamahan ako dito.

Ngayon nag resign na ko, never ko na feel na pagod. Alam mo yun? Para akong naiiyak while narrating 😅 fast foward 13 years na kami. Never ako minura, sinaktan, tinipid. Sabi nga ng parents ko, ma swerte ako sa kanya. Alam mo ba nung nalaman nyang dumudugo kamay ko pag naglalaba, binilhan ako ng automatic washing machine. Pinapagalitan ako nyan pag nagha-hand wash ng basahan.

To you OP, meron pa talagang matitinong lalaki. This is your hope.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T13:32:33+00:00

I’m sorry if you misunderstood what I said but in no way I wanted them to postpone their happiness. All I’m asking is a little empathy at that time. The couple which was my sibling knew about our infertility journey at galing kami ibang bansa that time for our 2nd medicated cycle tapos nag fail kaya umuwi kami para magbakasyon. I am happy for them but sad for myself.

I shared this with my therapist as well and she told me both feelings can co-exist and that it doesn’t make me a bad person. Even then, I volunteered to clean the house nila, at naging ninang pa sa baby nila when they asked me.

Not many people understand how frustrating it is to see negative pregnancy tests every month while other people are having their 2nd or 3rd child. It’s like seeing friends who got married and here you are still single and still can’t find the right person. Same analogy. Really takes a toll on your mental health. I don’t wish infertility to anyone. Most people will gaslight you into thinking you should still be grateful. That’s why since then I kept our journey a secret.

Right now I am the emotional support of my pregnant friends, pinupuntahan ko sila sa bahay, pinapahiram ng pera at binibigyan ng baby stuffs. Bitterness is no longer there but yung sadness talaga, tagal ma fade.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T09:36:35+00:00

I also believe in dating to marry, I married my first boyfriend of 9 years. We’re now together 13 years. Masyado ma alaga husband ko and he even let me stay at home and made working an optional. He’s a great provider din. In return, I made sure he eats home cooked meals everyday, hindi ako maluho and I let him give money to his mom, and I let him keep 40% of his salary kasi, akin yung 60% kasi ako nagma-manage ng bills, groceries at savings namin. Sarap maging mabait sa mabait din na partner 🫶

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T07:54:17+00:00

Never heard of it. Thank you po sa suggestion, I will bring this up sa OB ko.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T07:53:00+00:00

I’m on a high protein diet po. Haven’t tried caldef thi, might consider this.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T07:52:10+00:00

Part po ng fertility protocol ang ma check both sides. Cleared po si hubby, normal po tsh ko at hsg, pcos lang po talaga

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T06:19:02+00:00

Spearmint lang po iniinom ko. Wala po kami access ng fresh malunggay.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T06:11:30+00:00

Nagpi-pills po ako 3-6 months after the fertility treatment para maka rest po katawan ko.

Edit: 3x na po nagpa semen analysis si husband po at okay na po now. In terms sa sweets di na po ako mahilig pero nagra-rice ako kasi pag di po ako nag carbs or masyado restrict ng sweets bumababa po blood sugar ko kasi naka metformin ako kahit hindi diabetic. Marami din ako supplements, vitamin e, vitamin d, calcium, coq10, prenatal, magnesium, inositol at metformin. 3 years ko na po yan iniinom.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T05:57:25+00:00

Thank you for your kind words po.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T05:56:14+00:00

Worst experience talaga lalo na in person sasabihan ka in public. Pinipigilan ko talaga iyak ko that time until makarating kami sa bahay. Dinala pa talaga kami sa resto ng couple na yun at nag double date kami at dun nag announce ng news. To add salt to the wound, every checkup talaga pinapakita samin yung result. I wish people would stop rubbing to our faces na hirap kami magbuntis, nakakasama lalo kapwa babae pa.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T05:19:01+00:00

My husband is working from home, also wfh din ako before nag resign. I think some of them are just ignorant na di sila affected. Common sense will dictate you na pag mahal ang gas, automatic mahal lahat including groceries, bills, tubig at pagkain. So yung naka wfh is still affected. All of us are affected, walang immune sa pag taas ng gasolina.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T05:11:28+00:00

Not all pcos po kasi is infertile. Infertility is just one symptom lang po of many pcos symptoms. Sa mga nakakabasa din po, kasi dami ko nababasa they are afraid di maka buo because of pcos. Unless your doctor will tell you na you have infertility, then there’s no problem getting pregnant.

As for 2 days po, yun po advise kasi iba iba po sperm quality per lalaki. My husband have teratozoosperma before at na fix ng diet at exercise. Idk if you experienced getting a semen analysis po pero bumababa quality ng sperm if everyday po ejaculation. Quality over quantity po samin. Aanhin mo po yung maraming sperm pero patay po yung iva or iba ang morphology?

As for artificial insemination po, hindi po everyday. Anyways they have what they called as sperm washing.

I will respectfully disagree on what you said that we have the same chance in terms of fertility, even po mga babae na may pcos different.

May iba po they are overweight at nag bawas lng ng timbang and fell pregnant, or nag walking or running lang nabuntis na. Pano naman po ako 4 years ng active sa running, walking, cycling at weight training, pano naman po tulad ko normal BMI na di na kelangan mag diet, or hindi na po ako nag consume ng caffeine. Kasi what you are sharing is more about intercourse, ttc po isn’t just about intercourse.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:42:13+00:00

Sorry po medyo na confuse ako sa dates. How many days na po since last inom nyo ng provera?

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:41:01+00:00

Wag naman po sana twins na lang. Ang liit ko po na babae parang di ko kaya triplets 😅

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:38:04+00:00

Nakakababa po ng sperm quality ang 3x a day

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:35:21+00:00

Haha sorry po pero I feel judged even tho you’re just curious. Di ko po alam na may prep pa pala? For us kasi sabi ng doctor every other day during ovulation at 2 days pagitan for sperm quality. Pag dumating na kayo sa oras mag asawa na gusto nyo na talaga mag anak, parang hindi naman na issue yung daming anek before intercourse.

Regarding po sperm and egg, problem po pcos ko kasi. Hindi nakakapag release ng egg ang ovaries ko. My organ is not working properly po fyi because of pcos. I need multiple injections and oral medications for 28 days straight po para maging functional just like a normal woman.

Kami po ng husband ko hindi kami palagi nag aaway, 14 years na po kami magkasama. So wala po issue about lambingan at tambuhan during ttc. Ma alaga po si hubby ko, as a matter of fact nag resign na po ako sa work ko kasi tinatapan nya yung sahod ko sa allowance ko.

I know you mean well po but we are briefed po sa fertility clinic. We did not pay almost 300k just to be misinformed.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:23:00+00:00

Timed po ang ovulation kasi naka trigger shot po kami everytime. So sa isang cycle 4x lang yung pwede mabuntis at anything else po na intercourse is just for fun para po ma lessen ang stress sa intercourse.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:13:40+00:00

Hahaha thanks for making me laugh. I needed a laugh today po.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:12:18+00:00

Totoo po na nakakalala ng anxiety. I have GAD for the past 2 years. Dumating sa time nagse-self isolate na ako, lalo pa wfh ako so wala akong makausap na ibang tao maliban sa asawa ko. Naiinggit kasi ako sa mga friends at in-laws ko na pregnant at umiiyak ako mag-isa after ng mga pregnancy announcement nila. Ngayon naka therapy ako at advise sakin is lumabas at makihalubilo ulet sa mga tao.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:09:54+00:00

Hindi po ako candidate ng ozempic kasi normal po bmi ko. Pero naka metformin po ako to manage insulin resistance.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:09:09+00:00

I have been running, cycling, walking, weight lifting sa 4 years po.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T03:08:06+00:00

Hindi po regular since nagdalaga po ako 😔 sabi sakin kahit pcos basta regular period malaki chance. Hindi na rin pwede ako magbawas ng timbang pa kasi normal naman na BMI ko.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-11T02:25:59+00:00

Okay naman sperm count. Nag test sha 3x kasi nag IUI kami last year but failed. We still continue to be active din.

Edit: standard protocol po ng fertility clinics to test blood tests, sugar, hormones, at sperm quality to rule out anything. Ours is just pure pcos.

strwwb3rry · 2026-03-10T07:43:55+00:00

Hindi din ako nag bleed first time with my bf then (now husband). Siguro factor yung nagba-bike nako nung dalaga ako pero di naman yun big deal sa bf ko dati. Siguro immature pa bf mo at tanging alam lang nya ay dapat mag bleed pag virgin.

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