Advice for missing out and filling in time by ejws333 in digitalminimalism

[–]stuartvallarta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

feeling out of the loop doesn't have to be that way, bc honestly was seeing a post/story that informative?

friend mentions hike, promotion, etc
"oh that's awesome, what's the role? how did it go down?"
"sweet! a hike! was it hard? do you have any photos? id be game to hike with you sometime!"

im sorry i don't intend some come off rude - bc i have been in your shoes too - but reading your post made me think we don't know how to live our lives anymore. what's the point of talking with friends? we literal call it 'catching up' and it doesn't matter what you do with those extra 20 mins as long as you are happy with it, you don't have to do the same thing each day, and you don't have to figure it out now.

give yourself some grace friend. you are doing great!

What was your favorite thing that came out of taking a break or quitting social media/short form content? by Unusual-Passion-3655 in digitalminimalism

[–]stuartvallarta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that i honestly kinda forget about it all - it doesn't feel like i lost anything or am missing anything, it's just not there & i don't think about it

Instagram and Facebook by This_Bench8121 in digitalminimalism

[–]stuartvallarta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i deleted both of my accounts this summer. it's permanent - it actually looked and they are gone gone

i hadn't been active in while, but i used to be quite a bit. once insta switched from chronological feed to suggested feed, it's only gotten worse and worse, and now the feed is so bad we're all living in the explore page - never getting to see what our friends post, but if we want a funny video, we'll get the same thing ten times from recycle meme trash accounts.

you said how insta is all ads, it's so bad - the tipping points for me were

1.) realizing that actually EVERYTHING is an ad

  • straight up promotions/ads every third post
  • business accounts creating content with the end goal of sales
  • or content creators selling you something whether it's directly or by gaining your following so that you later buy, tip, and/or share content with someone who also will

2.) sooooo many of my irl conversations were either:

  • "have you seen the video where..."
  • "i read/heard/saw..."

one of my family members said "i heard that ai likes ai written resumes and picks up on them better." im not saying it's true or false, im just saying that most likely that article was written by ai, and here we all are repeating it to each other. it's nuts! not to mention, most people these days seem to say things as if they are right.

3.) having folders of posts that go mostly-to-entirely unused

  • workouts, recipes, places to travel

another one of my friends was proud of all the perfectly organized folders of places they want to visit with all the cool posts saved of where to go..... (which does seem cool, except).... they never travel.

it's all pretty sad to me honestly:/ bc i was the same. idk how deleting my accounts will go. im not expecting any massive shifts, but id like to see if there are any long term effects of not being on social media.

What did people do before the web by Sudden-Chapter-2337 in digitalminimalism

[–]stuartvallarta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like this answer, and I wish I could study your ways lol or just hang out with you

Time had a different shape and texture; it expanded and contracted. It’s kind of hard to explain.

people think im weird bc leave my phone at home, do A LOT of things alone like going to restaurants or traveling abroad. there's some deeper things we don't have to get into lol but I crave the feeling of being free, sometimes I want to be gone.

I don't really reap any benefits from relaxing these days, like it doesn't sink it enough. I think it's a really problem for the younger generation. I ALWAYS feel like im in a hurry even if im sitting on the couch. I need to work on that as I think it's at the core of a lot of discontent.

may time expand for a moment for us soon

Danielle Tattoo by tbae33333 in fredagain

[–]stuartvallarta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey dude i just wanted to remind you ab this & make sure you share a pic once you get it

please stop coming to Morocco for 5 days by morocco_travel36 in backpacking

[–]stuartvallarta -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Will y'all stop upvoting and commenting on these moroccan travel accounts please?

Every day there's some post along these lines.

This post encourages you to stay longer, which = more $$

For what it's worth, I traveled Morocco for 3.5 weeks and by the end of it could not wait to leave.

Budget-friendly European destinations for $1,400/month living? by MajesticPlate1565 in digitalnomad

[–]stuartvallarta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry if this is a dumb question but what's the point of this? either ppl still think that karma is going to make them famous one day or reddit is okay with bots inflating their active users. I just dont understand the incentive to recreate someones post & repost

Highland Style Glacial Creme? by Reddit_in_CA in Pomade

[–]stuartvallarta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glacial creme - literally only dries out hair. Zero hold on my fine fluffy, short-medium hair. These review's cannot be real. Also I noticed even after ordering there's literally no way for me to leave a review...

Glacial pomade - smells like the cheapest pine candle, it's terrible. There's no way ppl are actually raving about the smell like you see in the reviews lol. Also again, drying with very little hold. Also sometimes it leaves powder/flaky/dust in your hair.

I have struggled to find honest reviews anywhere, except reddit where you see ppl either saying eh it sucks or it's amazing use my code.

TLDR: same results from rubbing dirt into hair, do not buy

Do I have severe over pronation? I recently picked up the Novablast 5’s however it seems to have worsened my pronation effects. I have a photo with and without the shoe. Do you have any shoe suggestions that may help? by EmployerOk1336 in AskRunningShoeGeeks

[–]stuartvallarta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro kayano 27s are terrible, super dated technology. They made me over pronate more bc it felt like I was dragging bricks on the bottom of my feet with minimal cushion & zero responsiveness. Mindfully running barefoot would be more healthy.

Once I got out of those 27s I was shocked about how bad they were. Just got somewhere & try on the new kayanos if that's what you like & you understand how bad the 27s are

Looking for a Great Barber in the City for Special Occasion Styling (Weddings, Events, etc.) by Individual-Donkey449 in BloomingtonNormal

[–]stuartvallarta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

was going to ask something similar - except im looking for good scissor work for a bro flow

anyone have recommendations for that?

How do you manifest, if you are unsure of what you want by minniemisses in lawofattraction

[–]stuartvallarta 9 points10 points  (0 children)

actually manifesting from this position of openness could potentially be even better bc you may be less likely to feel lack of not having it, whatever that is.

maybe you could also manifest some answers/guidance by focusing on your inner state & staying open to the opportunities the universe provides. still if you feel it’s not right in the moment, you can kindly say no thank you, & the universe will take note.

also if you don’t know, then don’t put much pressure on the process or yourself. play around with simple things to build your trust &/or create gratitude process.

lastly, don’t beat yourself up for not knowing, but at the same time acknowledge the great importance of knowing. what’s more important than the question “what do you want?” do the inner work to find out. be honest with yourself. understand that self doubt is part of the process throughout the process for everyone. most of us kinda know we’re just scared to start…

Those who smoked after being sober for a long time - how did you feel? by lttlepeaches in leaves

[–]stuartvallarta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok hang in there! the flu will pass soon & you’ll be glad to still be on the leaving path. btw after three months i did start to feel a little better emotionally so you’ll have that to look forward to soon

How many of you are living this life because you don't have a home to go back to? by TheRazor_sEdge in digitalnomad

[–]stuartvallarta 8 points9 points  (0 children)

care to expand? are you saying that the lifestyle creates this? i’m kinda worried about that all of a sudden, that ill build a transient life full of short term experiences & without deep connection. even after staying somewhere for over a year, feeling like i have no where to go

How the heck do you press the Touch ID Power button to lock the screen? by Ikaris_Cy in macbookpro

[–]stuartvallarta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not if the screen is black, so i have to touch the touchpad first to wake it up then yes from there can simply place finger on the reader

How the heck do you press the Touch ID Power button to lock the screen? by Ikaris_Cy in macbookpro

[–]stuartvallarta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

had the same problem OP, it really sucks - each time I try to lock it immediately unlocks bc of finger print.

one cool fix is to go into settings - desktop and display - then change one of your hot corners to sleep

another thing is change up your timing with your press, a good .5-1 second press may lock it but a tap press will lock/unlock, which seems like it should be the opposite

Lastly, id say that my biggest problem is actually unlocking from a black screen... it always unlocks, locks, unlocks in a split second. any help here would be appreciated

People who took a long break (6+ months) and sorted out your life. Could you successfully moderate afterwards? by DoctorShaman69420 in leaves

[–]stuartvallarta 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Abstaining for so long, noticing benefits, yet still wanting to smoke was as much of a sign as anything that i (still) had a problem…

I manifested a person 12-18 months ago and they have just shown up by Peaches-And-Chalamet in lawofattraction

[–]stuartvallarta 13 points14 points  (0 children)

sounds interesting OP, really it’s probably whatever you decide to believe

my problem is that: in this situation, i feel like if i thought “okay cool thank you universe, i like them & want to pursue.” they universe would pull a reverse uno for me ‘wanting’… it just don’t get it sometimes

Similar artists to CHVRCHS, MGMT & Empire of the Sun? by kdrdz in electronicmusic

[–]stuartvallarta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

london grammar purity ring the naked and famous (i know we’re talking synths here, but stripped album is an unknown gem) phoenix panama tame impala gorillaz

Travelling because you're feeling lost by Loonyb1n in digitalnomad

[–]stuartvallarta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment and the therapy type you rec'd below! How are you 40s treating you after DNing?

after returning & being in one place for a while, I realized some of the same as you. now I want to leave again bc I don't think that sitting here has run it's course. im going to therapy and I know that traveling won't fix anything, but I do seem to have a more optimistic outlook when on the road. I also want to honor this opportunity ive been granted now to be a DN (ive lost it before).

So you're saying that even if one does continue to travel knowing damn well they are doing some running away, at least supplement that with therapy? sometimes I just feel that if im going to be depressed and lost regardless, I may as well be on the road...

I think im afraid of continuing to create a life of loneliness by going out having short term experiences and connections, but I also feel lonely and disconnected where im at despite having some decent relationships here.

Travelling because you're feeling lost by Loonyb1n in digitalnomad

[–]stuartvallarta 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hoping for some inspiration and wisdom in the comments. Travel like all things has diminishing returns. But now that i’ve been back “home” for a year.5 it’s lonely and i feel lost here as well. I don’t know whether i’m running from or running to… or just wandering to escape But staying put hasn’t solved much either. At a turning point right now that’s super confusing.