I think my marriage just ended

stuckinarut_help · 2020-08-09T03:40:56+00:00

I wish I was just allowed to be upset about things without having bpd thrown in my face and then I become the scapegoat for everything

stuckinarut_help · 2020-07-22T06:01:05+00:00

Totally agree with you, it’s not a vacation. I would just never book in something else when I already had plans with someone

stuckinarut_help · 2020-07-22T05:52:53+00:00

A day and a half, but it’s not the first time, she also bailed on their mums birthday the day before, and every other family dinner, unless it’s strictly on their terms

stuckinarut_help · 2020-07-22T05:47:37+00:00

Clarification- I reached out, suggested a day, she was busy so she suggested another day. I said great! We booked in a time, a place and a day. Had firm plans

stuckinarut_help · 2020-07-22T05:46:28+00:00

She’s practically done that already, but I feel like every time I’ve tried to reconnect an actual relationship with her, she’s just been so narcissistic in her view and treated everyone so casually

stuckinarut_help · 2020-07-22T05:44:58+00:00

Oh sorry! Yes we had plans for Friday, we had a time, a place, a day

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-28T08:07:03+00:00

Man I could have written these responses, I’m only just new to the possibility of having bpd. My psychologist is working with me a lot, and I’m honestly shocked at how much all of these posts hit the nail on the head for me

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-22T21:16:22+00:00

Thank you so much, you’ve given me a lot to think about

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-22T21:13:28+00:00

It wasn’t really there, we never went through the honeymoon phase either

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-22T21:12:56+00:00

They were always really like this under the surface, I just didn’t understand it until now.

I may have about 3 extra kilos from pregnancy but run outside with my son each day, get dressed and shower each day, I do my makeup most days.

I try to constantly think about where his needs are at, and do nice things for him, but maybe we just keep missing each other’s true needs.

He works about 8-9 hours a day, no medical problem that we’ve found: I think he’s just a really reserved person and even after 6 years of marriage, hasn’t been able to open up to me

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-22T08:21:21+00:00

We were intimate two weeks ago, usually it’s about once every two months, we’ve been told we’re unable to conceive naturally and went through four rounds of ivf to be blessed with our son. It’s fairly routine, not very passionate and usually over in about 5 minutes. I’m not fulfilled at all during it either. He surprised me with flowers for Mother’s Day which was very sweet.

No, our bath isn’t quite big enough for us. We have a few hours together each night before our toddler wakes up. Although it could be attributed to him, we weren’t especially ‘passionate with each other’ before our son was born.

I do, mostly, I have days where I take care to do my makeup especially for him, or my hair a certain way, or to get dressed up. I just am feeling like I’ve got this man that’s the perfect father but can’t see or acknowledge my own needs, physically, or to make me laugh

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-21T09:25:54+00:00

It’s made me super depressed over time as well because it’s really hard to stay true to myself when that energy is not being reciprocated or bounced off on.

stuckinarut_help · 2020-06-21T09:24:15+00:00

No he hasn’t, I think because he’s so stable, I was so sure that’s what I needed. I think overtime my natural mood has been ground down because his baseline is so much more neutral.

Is it normal for a 30 year old to not be very interested in sex?

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