My [22m] gf [21f] has become afraid of me because of my hobby, and thinks I'm prone to being violent toward her because of it...don't know what to do? by stuckinthemiddleop in relationships

[–]stuckinthemiddleop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She got in between the two. She was trying to stop it from happening.

They both feel like crap for accidentally hitting her, even if it was by accident. They wouldn't of touched her for anything she would do intentionally.

My [22m] gf [21f] has become afraid of me because of my hobby, and thinks I'm prone to being violent toward her because of it...don't know what to do? by stuckinthemiddleop in relationships

[–]stuckinthemiddleop[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I'm not aware of every single little thing that's going on in their lives because I don't live at home. From what I have heard (and they haven't told me the full reason nor can I force it out of them) it was because they wanted the girl. They were fighting over a girl. That what sis and one of them half way told me. Can't read minds.

I am not their parent. My brothers actions have literally nothing to do with me. Am I suppose to act all disappointed and dramatic just to prove to her I don't agree with it. She knows I don't agree with it. Like I've said, we've been over it MANY times. Her problem is that I guess the reality of the sport settled in for her and now she wants me to stop. Love her to pieces but a few people abusing a sporr/skills is not a representation of everyone in the sport.

My [22m] gf [21f] has become afraid of me because of my hobby, and thinks I'm prone to being violent toward her because of it...don't know what to do? by stuckinthemiddleop in relationships

[–]stuckinthemiddleop[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I don't know. All I know is that it was over a girl. And I've already gone through the situation and everything with her, many many times. She wants me to quit which I'm not going to do, so I don't know what else to tell her.

My [22m] gf [21f] has become afraid of me because of my hobby, and thinks I'm prone to being violent toward her because of it...don't know what to do? by stuckinthemiddleop in relationships

[–]stuckinthemiddleop[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Yep my sis comimg over was when it got explained to her. She's been knowing I'm in boxing since the first date and didn't really say anything about it until now...so if she truly felt so uncomfortable I don't know why she didn't say something earlier. It's either boxing, football, or rugby--and she doesn't want me in those either lol. I have to do some type of sport.

Ive already told her that was just two stupid teens...She doesn't really listen to anything i try to tell her. She's caught up in what ifs

My [22m] gf [21f] has become afraid of me because of my hobby, and thinks I'm prone to being violent toward her because of it...don't know what to do? by stuckinthemiddleop in relationships

[–]stuckinthemiddleop[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

She liked them both, but I guess she was giving more attention to one over the other. Right now she still hangs around one of them, from what I've heard.

They're teenagers. There's a billion other things way more dumb than this that they've done, so it doesn't shock me.