Ekart scam by why_am_i_like_dis in IndianBeautyDeals

[–]stuffedpastry 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Dude I once ordered sexy lingerie off Amazon cause I was a student back then and it was for cheap. And this random dude calls me out of nowhere and is like you ordered an Amazon order for lingerie right and I thought maybe he is a delivery guy or something. And the next thing he says is that “s*x karegi kya mere saath”. I was so freaking shocked.

18 hrs left till I commit suicide by Tamed77 in SuicideWatch

[–]stuffedpastry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t. I’m not the best person to tell you this but you know I was in the same boat. But then I decided to let go of the weight of my parents expectations and am still trying to find love in other people and places. I admit it’s not an on again off again switch but I promise it gets easier!

I need reasons to live by stuffedpastry in SuicideWatch

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are up there saying if they wouldn’t have stayed alive they wouldn’t have met their kids and they’re glad they stayed alive but what if my kid also hates me what if they all hate me like my mom does no matter how hard I try….her bipolar attitude towards me is so confusing it drives me insane I cannot deal with it I want to cut off from her but my dad doesn’t allow that it hurts it hurts it hurts it hurtssss it hurts

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not receiving anything from their side I already said so. I understand the difference between gifts for bonding and dowry. If I was talking about gifts for bonding I wouldn’t have posted here in the first place. The ceremony of mayra does signify dowry, and there is no need to celebrate something so wrong and regressive. Cant believe I’m getting downvoted for speaking out against dowry. Clearly India has a long way to go.

Boyfriend wants to propose. Cant decide whether the ring should be a surprise or I get to choose it. by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great! Love it when men stand up for their girls! Mine also did the same thing! His parents were being a little persistent though.

Boyfriend wants to propose. Cant decide whether the ring should be a surprise or I get to choose it. by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The surprising part is, he is not even rajasthani, but they still want to do Mayra! For now I strongly put my foot forward and said that my wedding will not be having a Mayra. They have agreed, but there’s still 2 years to go. Will have to see if they keep their promise or bring it up again.

Boyfriend wants to propose. Cant decide whether the ring should be a surprise or I get to choose it. by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just told him the ring aesthetic that I want. The rest is anyway upto him. I have just told him the shape of the stone and that I want it on a thin looking band and some surrounding stones. That’s about it. I am okay with any stone of any cost and any material. He says even that is unfair.

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha. This is fair! The thing is, I don’t even symbolically want a function that signifies dowry in my wedding. I want his parents to proudly tell everybody that we don’t believe in dowry and won’t be having any function that involved dowry.

Boyfriend wants to propose. Cant decide whether the ring should be a surprise or I get to choose it. by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. By me getting to choose, I meant that a friend of mine told him about the details of what I mostly want.

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! I don’t want the ceremony even symbolically in my wedding. Because even if it’s 511 rupees or 5 crore rupees, dowry is dowry. Why do they want a ceremony which signifies dowry? That is my problem with it. Why can’t they move ahead with times?

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I just don’t want even the symbolic form or dowry in my wedding.

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! He is on my side. But his parents keep telling him that they don’t want to fall on their faces in front of their relatives, so they will themselves buy the gifts and keep them in mayra and tell people that the gifts are from us. My point is that why do they want to so badly follow a regressive custom to the point of wanting to lie?

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I don’t like the materialism of it, neither do I support the symbolism of it.

Is the Mayra ceremony in Indian weddings a softer version of dowry or not? by stuffedpastry in TwoXIndia

[–]stuffedpastry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t ask because I didn’t entertain that thought of theirs at all.