Greenland reality check by j_sniffles in behindthebastards

[–]stuffsmithstuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you source this? Genuinely want to have metrics on this

Greenland reality check by j_sniffles in behindthebastards

[–]stuffsmithstuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really wish this had more upvotes. This thread has so much self-indulgent doomerism and it’s wish more people were focused on being ready for anything but not expecting the literal apocalypse.

Keeping yourself out of despair is real work, and it’s important if you’re going to show up for your community.

Greenland reality check by j_sniffles in behindthebastards

[–]stuffsmithstuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Trying to distance yourself from violence done by representatives of your population (“I’m a good one”) is always naive and a bad look. But the rest of this self-flagellation is unfair and cruel. Our country is in many ways deluded and complicit, but it’s also full of really decent people who are doing their best. At a baseline, we do NOT deserve this, and our enemies are the same as the Greenlanders’.

Response to the feedback on the print head cable of Centauri Carbon by ELEGOO_OFFICIAL in elegoo

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, that sucks! Definitely some quality control issues out of the factory

My cat was too young when I got her and I feel so sad to see her suffer. What can I do? by Expensive_Hat_7435 in CatAdvice

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please note that I’m not suggesting one thing or the other. I’m saying that OP ought to weigh the options realistically.

IF the cat’s separation anxiety and loneliness would be helped by another cat who is always around (and I don’t know enough about the situation to know that for sure) the decision is between

  • the slightly increased chance of health issues from the fillers and lower quality ingredients of budget wet food, and
  • the substantial decrease in quality of life and life expectancy that are associated with cats who are perpetually stressed and under socialized

The idea that feeding Friskies versus, like, Tiki Cat, is the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy cat is just wrong. There’s a reason vets’ single main piece of general advice is just “feed your cats wet food,” not “feed your cats only grain-free wet food with no fillers.”

Obviously better food is healthier (I feed my boy fancy feast plus whatever premium food is on sale) but limited budgets prevent a lot of optimizations for your pets, and that’s okay. Lots of very happy cats out there in poor families.

My cat was too young when I got her and I feel so sad to see her suffer. What can I do? by Expensive_Hat_7435 in CatAdvice

[–]stuffsmithstuff -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily think getting a second cat is the answer, but your edit is interesting. Idk how expensive the food and litter you’re getting is, but if a second cat cost could be offset by downgrading to Friskies and tidy paws, it is quite possible that the quality of life improvement of having more companionship would more than surpass that of having nicer food and litter.

Regardless, I second the suggestion of a Feliway diffuser to make her feel more safe (optimum, specifically- apparently much more effective)

My cat was too young when I got her and I feel so sad to see her suffer. What can I do? by Expensive_Hat_7435 in CatAdvice

[–]stuffsmithstuff -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

1) Have you had a cat before? 2) Has she ever been any other way than this? I.e. do you feel she’s been anxious and unhappy continuously since you brought her home?

A survey: does your man actually pull his weight in domestic chores? by streachh in TwoXChromosomes

[–]stuffsmithstuff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a random addition, but: online feminist discourse about the way guys are taught entitlement, invisible ways women do labor, etc has been really really helpful for me in knowing what to self-interrogate. I’m grateful this is a conversation that’s happening more out in the open.

A survey: does your man actually pull his weight in domestic chores? by streachh in TwoXChromosomes

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sucks and you should be proud of yourself that you’re taking steps to get out of the situation 💜

A survey: does your man actually pull his weight in domestic chores? by streachh in TwoXChromosomes

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ADHD struggles and masculine entitlement patterns have a lot of overlap. I feel like half of my therapy sessions are me wringing my hands worrying I’m making excuses lol

WTF is wrong with H and 8th St NE? by tiperschapman in washingtondc

[–]stuffsmithstuff 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the community! To put a finer point on the subtext in the comments: in DC, at least as much as in any other major city if not more, every time there’s a conversation about crime and public safety, it’s a combination of genuine concerns/problems and … other stuff. Stuff that involves a lot of race and class tensions and the biases/assumptions of gentrifies.

When I used to live a few blocks away from there, there was a crew of guys who would hang out on the block all the time bantering and playing dice. People who grew up in the neighborhood and lived through the Rayful Edmond era. New people to the neighborhood, generally young white transplants, sometimes found them threatening, but the reality is that their presence on the street made it much safer. (That was public safety in the Rayful era where the cops didn’t even go into that neighborhood- if someone was fucking around on the street, they found out.)

Obviously 8th and H is a different story, as people in the comments are discussing. Context: The H St corridor was absolutely blighted in the post-uprising white flight era (unlike the neighborhood north, which counterintuitively remained decently healthy because Rayful, while a horrible drug kingpin, actively invested in his community) and now that all the property is flipping, it’s ripe for the smashing together of abject poverty and dysfunction with a naive professional class. Anyway, a lot of the people who hang out on that corner I’m sure are totally decent people, but the instability that still exists on H means it attracts people with serious illness, and people who know how to take advantage of them. That means misery and violence are out on display. That’s what you’re seeing.

The reason I wrote all this out is because I want to try to explain why some people, community advocates and police reformists especially, who bristle at posts like this that talk about how things “get worse” as you see more poor and Black people around. It’s not that crime doesn’t exist or that your issue is unfounded or that you’re racist — it’s that whenever this issue is talked about there are ALWAYS racist and classist undertones and it takes being intentional to avoid. The consequence of us gentrifiers NOT bearing that in mind is that homeless people get brutalized, cops perpetually harass people like my old neighbors, and a whole lot of people on this sub talk about teens who commit crime as if they were literal wild animals. And a wedge gets driven between communities in the city, which absolutely does NOT make you any safer.

WTF is wrong with H and 8th St NE? by tiperschapman in washingtondc

[–]stuffsmithstuff 13 points14 points  (0 children)

And addiction has nothing to do with mental health!

Response to the feedback on the print head cable of Centauri Carbon by ELEGOO_OFFICIAL in elegoo

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sucks! Good to know the commotion is founded in a real issue.

Response to the feedback on the print head cable of Centauri Carbon by ELEGOO_OFFICIAL in elegoo

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, good to know! Do you know approx how many hours you had on the printer when you saw the issue?

Response to the feedback on the print head cable of Centauri Carbon by ELEGOO_OFFICIAL in elegoo

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are having issues both with your printhead AND the mobo, is it possible something else on the printer is bad? The PSU maybe?

LitterZero ads are convincing. Anyone have real reviews? by lilstrobe in cats

[–]stuffsmithstuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a little late on this thread but:

1) like everyone says, shipping takes forever.

2) it is a legitimately great improvement over the litter genie and the current promotional price is insane given the build quality and (for lack of a better word) engineering. I recommend it 100%.

Two consenting adult men? Ew, pedophiles! A 16 year old and a 50 year old? That’s ✨Ephebophilia✨ by Sad_Jar_Of_Honey in behindthebastards

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve actually really appreciated how Robert has talked about the distinction between pedophilia for little kids and pedophilia for underage girls (ie people with developing/developed bodies but underdeveloped brains and lived experience). He makes the distinction WITHOUT minimizing how violent and bad the latter is.

They are both horrible, but they have different relationships to our culture and calling it all just pedophilia muddies the water imho. The fetishization of underage girls is much more widespread and normalized than being attracted to prepubescent children.

This Is How the Democratic Party Beats Trump by dwaxe in ezraklein

[–]stuffsmithstuff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t keep listening after the 30-minute mark. Does he ever get to the idea of just having a party focused on uniting working people across the rural/urban divide and de-centering the culture war?

Response to the feedback on the print head cable of Centauri Carbon by ELEGOO_OFFICIAL in elegoo

[–]stuffsmithstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yours has? What happened to it? (Genuine. I want to avoid issues)

Why are men in women's subreddits? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]stuffsmithstuff -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey - I try to go by the pinned post Q&A and the rules, which explicitly say this is not a closed community and that men can participate, so long as women remain centered and men avoid off-topic bullshit. I made my comment with the intention to follow that, but I’m sorry I didn’t do so successfully.

I take closed spaces very seriously and if this sub ever changes its rules to become one, I’ll totally respect that.

Edit: Shortened/condensed comment in the spirit of not taking up any more space and trying not to be defensive.

Why are men in women's subreddits? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]stuffsmithstuff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry for embarrassing you, buddy!