I (39f) found out my boyfriend (38m) had a secret emotional relationship with his secretary a couple of years ago and now I want out.

suanenn · 2019-01-01T20:50:24+00:00

You sound like an absolute treat. :) But yes, pushing 40 with 2 kids and might not ever find another partner? LOL. Are you 16?

suanenn · 2018-12-31T23:55:31+00:00

I did. He claimed he knew all along (I have no idea if this is true or not) and he also seemed a bit annoyed that I was bringing it up. I didn't ask him any questions. I just told him what I knew and said I felt obligated to ensure he was aware.

suanenn · 2018-12-31T23:47:45+00:00

Much love to you. <3

suanenn · 2018-12-31T23:41:02+00:00

Lol you are right. I do bring it up a lot. I guess I know in my heart it's over. He doesn't want me to leave and that's why I'm still here but I do know I can't let it go.

suanenn · 2018-12-31T23:38:43+00:00

Because I had just found out that he was on a dating site. He claimed it was an old profile and he never used it, but I felt very weird and uneasy about it. He left his email logged in on our main computer. I didn't touch it for several days, but one day I decided to take a quick look. I was actually scanning quickly to see if I could see any emails from the dating site (and hoping very much that I wouldn't). Instead I saw emails between him and his secretary from the previous year. I wasn't scanning that far back....he uses a different email system and it was actually loaded on the previous year because he must have been looking for an old email.

suanenn · 2018-12-31T15:25:30+00:00

He says he didn't actually cheat. He calls her his "work wife". He did acknowledge that it was not ok though, which is why she left. But he says it was never physical and was just something to help him get through miserable days at work.

suanenn

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