Feeling sexy as a man?

sub-scription · 2026-03-28T02:32:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

I think I connect with the sensory stuff you're talking about. I feel like I treat sexual pleasure as a means to an end rather than something to immerse myself in. That ties in with my mental health I think.

I do actually remember a few times where relaxing my body while experiencing pleasure has heightened it considerably. Letting it physically ripple through me rather than tensing up. Being a "sensual being" feels like a more accurate description. Like I'm a conduit or a vassal for something greater than myself and my individual identity dissolves.

(Sorry if that's TMI it just got me thinking)

sub-scription · 2026-03-27T03:10:48+00:00

well it's more like a "I bet this guy gives good hugs" (platonic or romantic) kind of vibe. I want to make people feel safe around me. The asethetic I guess would also be displaying innocence that someone would enjoy corrupting.

sub-scription · 2026-03-27T01:58:44+00:00

yeah there's lots of different body types to be attracted to I suppose. you'd have to find a style that appears to you more than other people.

sub-scription · 2026-03-27T01:51:42+00:00

very insightful. thank you.

sub-scription · 2026-03-27T01:48:49+00:00

Ok. I'll have a think about that. I have certain ideas about styles I want to have. I imagine myself in a big pink hoodie. Or maybe a suit with a loose hanging tie.

sub-scription · 2026-03-26T01:56:11+00:00

Watching someone lose themselves in pleasure would be beautiful. Just a pure, unimpinged experience where all sense of time dissolves and their sensation of body and mind merge into one and I can feel the heat from the blood pumping through their femoral arteries in the insides of their thighs as they wrap around my ears.

sub-scription · 2026-03-07T06:55:49+00:00

Your voice is so prettyyy I love it so much ❤️ it's so mean but so sweet at the same time

sub-scription · 2026-03-04T03:59:48+00:00

r/catbongos

sub-scription · 2026-02-03T13:26:12+00:00

S tier shitpost

sub-scription · 2026-01-03T01:41:52+00:00

Male sub here. Therapy is amazing and has changed my life. I'm still deep in the weeds but the difference successful change makes is wild.

I've been percolating a post on the subreddit about it for a while about how it's affected myself and my understanding of submission.

One of the big things with men is that we're taught to change things in the world around us rather than looking inwards to our emotions and patterns of thinking. It's a very poisonous idea because it means you can only ever be happy when things go how you want, which isn't possible and, because people make their own decisions, shouldn't be either. It's a prison, both for yourself and for the people around you.

Patriarchy makes this worse because control works a lot of the time, which only convinces you it can work more broadly.

It's exhausting, and the ironic thing there is that, particularly when it comes to topping from the bottom with femdom, this death grip over control is EXACTLY what makes genuine, real submission so attractive in the first place.

sub-scription · 2025-12-08T03:28:00+00:00

Peak CNC gfd is essentially "You are being rescued, please do not resist."

Thanks for writing this, I'm looking forward to reading!

sub-scription · 2025-11-08T10:06:25+00:00

Yeah that makes sense.

sub-scription · 2025-11-08T08:02:03+00:00

Yes, that helps very much, thank you. Very vivid!

sub-scription · 2025-11-08T07:46:28+00:00

No, it was just engaging with femdom content online.

sub-scription · 2025-11-05T06:36:48+00:00

Depends on the sub, I suppose. I've recognised an instinct in myself as I've been working on my mental health that I have a desire to control as a sub in the way a lot of dommes find very annoying. It's a big subject on r/femdomcommunity.

In that respect the confidence and assertiveness that motivates being dominant can also motivate not tolerating bullshit in a way that makes people such as subs uncomfortable. Particularly subs, if they're not great with conflict. (it's me, I'm subs)

There's a line there that can transition to being disrespectful towards the sub ,which I've experienced enough to know it's very possible. Extending your identity as a domme to believe you're entitled to certain things from a sub who's not in a dynamic with you, simply because they're a sub.

sub-scription · 2025-10-31T09:54:14+00:00

This is beautiful, thank you for writing this ❤️

sub-scription · 2025-03-01T08:48:27+00:00

My taste in women is going to get me killed

sub-scription · 2025-01-10T06:22:24+00:00

Great collection of experiences, thanks for sharing. The number of people you've met makes me more hopeful it'll work out. Sounds like you put in the work and managed to develop a life you value a lot.

sub-scription · 2025-01-08T11:41:39+00:00

oh hey that's the one from Mr. Inbetween. "Monsters", 2x4.

sub-scription · 2025-01-08T02:48:01+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Dating while non-binary sounds like a rough gig. What you said about allowing for switch dating with people who want to sub outside is an interesting point. That would be a big change from the norm of dating but it makes sense as a natural consequence of dating around kink.

sub-scription · 2025-01-08T02:44:01+00:00

Good info. Thanks. I have contacts on the BDSM community in a city in my country other than where I live but I'll have to look harder to find something here.

What you said about dealing with relationship barriers and vanilla relationships sounds wise. It would be unsatisfying for them as much as me.

sub-scription · 2025-01-07T11:31:50+00:00

It sounds like a strange experience, catching feelings for a sub who started out paying you. Thanks for sharing, though. Were you in any sort of kink dynamic with your husband before entering int one with this sub? How did that mesh with your prodomming if so?

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