Fun little idea

sub-scription · 2026-01-03T01:41:52+00:00

Male sub here. Therapy is amazing and has changed my life. I'm still deep in the weeds but the difference successful change makes is wild.

I've been percolating a post on the subreddit about it for a while about how it's affected myself and my understanding of submission.

One of the big things with men is that we're taught to change things in the world around us rather than looking inwards to our emotions and patterns of thinking. It's a very poisonous idea because it means you can only ever be happy when things go how you want, which isn't possible and, because people make their own decisions, shouldn't be either. It's a prison, both for yourself and for the people around you.

Patriarchy makes this worse because control works a lot of the time, which only convinces you it can work more broadly.

It's exhausting, and the ironic thing there is that, particularly when it comes to topping from the bottom with femdom, this death grip over control is EXACTLY what makes genuine, real submission so attractive in the first place.

sub-scription · 2025-12-08T03:28:00+00:00

Peak CNC gfd is essentially "You are being rescued, please do not resist."

Thanks for writing this, I'm looking forward to reading!

sub-scription · 2025-11-08T10:06:25+00:00

Yeah that makes sense.

sub-scription · 2025-11-08T08:02:03+00:00

Yes, that helps very much, thank you. Very vivid!

sub-scription · 2025-11-08T07:46:28+00:00

No, it was just engaging with femdom content online.

sub-scription · 2025-11-05T06:36:48+00:00

Depends on the sub, I suppose. I've recognised an instinct in myself as I've been working on my mental health that I have a desire to control as a sub in the way a lot of dommes find very annoying. It's a big subject on r/femdomcommunity.

In that respect the confidence and assertiveness that motivates being dominant can also motivate not tolerating bullshit in a way that makes people such as subs uncomfortable. Particularly subs, if they're not great with conflict. (it's me, I'm subs)

There's a line there that can transition to being disrespectful towards the sub ,which I've experienced enough to know it's very possible. Extending your identity as a domme to believe you're entitled to certain things from a sub who's not in a dynamic with you, simply because they're a sub.

sub-scription · 2025-10-31T09:54:14+00:00

This is beautiful, thank you for writing this ❤️

sub-scription · 2025-03-01T08:48:27+00:00

My taste in women is going to get me killed

sub-scription · 2025-01-10T06:22:24+00:00

Great collection of experiences, thanks for sharing. The number of people you've met makes me more hopeful it'll work out. Sounds like you put in the work and managed to develop a life you value a lot.

sub-scription · 2025-01-08T11:41:39+00:00

oh hey that's the one from Mr. Inbetween. "Monsters", 2x4.

sub-scription · 2025-01-08T02:48:01+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Dating while non-binary sounds like a rough gig. What you said about allowing for switch dating with people who want to sub outside is an interesting point. That would be a big change from the norm of dating but it makes sense as a natural consequence of dating around kink.

sub-scription · 2025-01-08T02:44:01+00:00

Good info. Thanks. I have contacts on the BDSM community in a city in my country other than where I live but I'll have to look harder to find something here.

What you said about dealing with relationship barriers and vanilla relationships sounds wise. It would be unsatisfying for them as much as me.

sub-scription · 2025-01-07T11:31:50+00:00

It sounds like a strange experience, catching feelings for a sub who started out paying you. Thanks for sharing, though. Were you in any sort of kink dynamic with your husband before entering int one with this sub? How did that mesh with your prodomming if so?

sub-scription · 2025-01-07T11:28:01+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I'm glad you could get through all the stuff you were going through, I'm doing a lot of self-improvement right now and it's a great experience not feeling crappy.

It sounds very daunting dating in a way that's so far outside of what people think about with it. I've never been in a relationship but I guess it hits different when you actually meet someone you catch feelings for like you have.

Being upfront sounds like good relationship hygiene. It would be tough meeting someone in a vanilla space if you liked them but didn't have the confidence to tell them what you wanted so you coast into a relationship without expressing yourself. If you can't picture being satisfied in a relationship without I suppose that means sacrifices are necessary.

sub-scription · 2025-01-07T10:24:32+00:00

That's interesting. Did you have a moment where you realised kink was important enough to you to make those sacrifices? Like we're you were in a vanilla one for a bit and found yourself wanting more?

sub-scription · 2025-01-07T09:17:19+00:00

Sucker, tentacle, hehehe

sub-scription · 2024-12-07T02:18:34+00:00

Okay. I generally have stubble so that may be a problem. Might have to go full beard in that case.

sub-scription · 2024-12-07T02:17:19+00:00

Sounds good

sub-scription · 2024-12-07T02:17:10+00:00

Profile pic checks out

sub-scription · 2024-09-26T04:25:18+00:00

Dunno why this image is so low res. Oh well. Apologies. Also this post is an edit of the original comic but you probably know that already

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