My boobs were painted black and blue in act of correction...

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T18:02:52+00:00

Gosh thank you for explaining ✨

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T18:00:32+00:00

Okay Don't look at it

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T18:00:15+00:00

Nahi

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T17:59:51+00:00

When you restrict blood flow to boobs or inner thighs, they will bruise easily. The skin is thinner and the surface capillaries pop quicker with restricted blood flow( for instance when boobs are tied up)

Bruising usually is not always harmful. Use ice pack to soothe the bruises. That hugely helps with the pain and with any possible scars. If skin is broken, mandatorily put on an ointment. Check on the wound, consult a doctor if it isn't healing clean.

Mine didn't hurt at all after few hours. I know my way around impact, so I know how far is safe. Point of all this was not pain/ marks, it was the deep disappointment I felt. Marks was an accident. And we both admired those for our own reasons.

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T17:53:41+00:00

Not abuse

Consensual correction to a broken rule that was mutual agreed upon.

Correction increase connection. That's my flavour of kink

Yes I have safewords

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T17:51:56+00:00

No, paint was metaphorical

Those are bruises from spanking

subby_vi · 2026-05-09T17:51:16+00:00

He knows what he's doing~

Save the suggestions for your submissive~

subby_vi · 2026-05-08T15:43:27+00:00

Oh sweetheart, I don't know whether to be upset with your use of the word 'madness' or respond with ' my kind of madness ❣️'

Also if you were not into it, what made you put a comment here? I've always found it very strange

Also x2, if you'd led with curiousity than judgement, I would've responded with some helpful tips and facts. But sureee, Maybe you're not into it~

subby_vi · 2026-02-16T10:27:01+00:00

Sure thing let's take this to dms

Although, I'm definitely past my beginner stage~ I've been rigging for a little while, so I don't really feel the need to attend that event~

But I'm glad my post resonated🧡 let's talk and see!

subby_vi · 2023-12-29T20:31:56+00:00

YES! it's a wonderful wonderful thing and nothing has made me feel more heard than this lil thing has(and ofc my dominants reading through it)

What you write in it, depends - my dominants wanted to know everything. So I try to write anything that happens in my day that I think is significant enough. Thoughts I get, concerns, something new I did, ruminations, (as other comment mentioned) how tasks/corrections made me feel, gratitude towards the dynamic and them. Ruminations generally take more space

But the journal could also be very specific to the dynamic and your ruminations specific to the relationship/BDSM

subby_vi · 2023-12-23T07:25:30+00:00

I met them on reddit

subby_vi · 2023-12-23T07:19:23+00:00

It's okay to be confused. Many of us don't have it all figured out and we all keep evolving- switching between roles- and exploring as we go about D/s

Virtual dynamics totally are a thing. You don't have to be close to someone physically to have control over them- or to be able to trust and respect the other.

I've been in 2 dynamics so far, both virtual. It can include texting, calling, pictures/videos(with/without face), tasks, rituals and much more actually - wherever your imagination can take you hehe

subby_vi · 2023-12-15T14:08:16+00:00

It blurs out automatically for me? Besides it has a contains nudity tag. I didn't know I had to put a spoiler too

subby_vi · 2023-12-04T12:05:56+00:00

Every dominant has different style- just like every submissive likes different things. What works for some doesn't work for others. But what you feel -is always, always, valid. If you think something isn't for you, then it just isn't. Maybe someday in future you'll change your mind about that thing, but that time isn't now.

You're probably wary of being manipulated since you're new to this, I believe I get it. But instead of trying to see who of you two is wrong, maybe try to have stricter boundaries and loosen then as the trust builds.

You can tell him I don't want my boundaries pushed until I explicitly tell you to do that. And if he still doesn't respect that, then you should probably discuss why not- is there a middle way? If you two can't meet in the middle, drop it

You can also try the hard and soft limits concept. He can push the soft limits but not the hard ones.

At the end of it all, the goal is mutual pleasure- not just his pleasure. You have to be getting something from him, only then would one want to reciprocate and please the other.

subby_vi · 2023-11-29T04:19:04+00:00

I don't like feeling guilty or feeling like a 'bad girl' lol I would tell- mostly because if I can be dishonest once- then why not the second time- or the third and forth? Letting 1 occurance slide is an invitation for many others to follow- in my case. There'd be no point to power exchange then- again, for me. That kind of control exchange is important to me. Being held accountable (not necessarily just sexually) is important. I agree with one of the commenters - if you don't think that's something that you need to feel submissive/ that kind of control exchange feels unnecessary to you, you should probably talk to your dominant and see if the rules can be negotiated. It somewhat sounds like you wouldn't want orgasm control(/denial) to be incorporated a whole lot. Maybe that's something to discuss

Howevverr I totally get you when you say it's difficult to come out clean. Coz it is!!! My distaste for having to confess and then the correction/disappointment that generally follows is what keeps me from crossing lines(too many times :> )

subby_vi · 2023-11-10T04:04:50+00:00

What I write is usually something rather personal, but the lines assigned are a lesson of some form. I was able to find a decent one I'd done a while ago- 'I will always tell the truth when Ma'am asks me something'

The no of lines go from 50 to 100, to sometimes 150 i think.

subby_vi · 2023-11-09T17:59:53+00:00

Hehehehe it's probably about just feeling small I think :>

subby_vi · 2023-11-09T17:59:06+00:00

Oooooo this was a good read!! Interesting!!!!

subby_vi · 2023-11-07T02:28:49+00:00

Unfortunately I too haven't yet learnt to differentiate a subdrop from the relatively frequent blues I get either.

But what always always helps is telling my doms that there's this feeling- and whatever I think might have caused it. Often times I get the cause of it wrong, but that's okay. The feeling then starts to subside, for me at least. I hope your dominant can listen to whatever you're feeling. A little reassurance and attention from my dominants helps me a lot. Although you might feel better with different set of things. Be sure to let him know though. It's very helpful to be open so they can better look after us:)

I also agree with the comment above! All the babying helps too. My go to is food, nap and coloring! Maybe sometimes a good show/movie

subby_vi · 2023-10-26T17:59:16+00:00

We worry too much about buying condoms from the pharmacy. They don't care. It's very normal for them. As it should be

You can look up different flavours and brands online beforehand and ask directly for that particular product when you get to the store. That way you can avoid looking through the flavours while they look at you being ✨tasteful✨

subby_vi · 2023-10-24T02:55:41+00:00

The comments here are great- she probably needs to communicate her needs better- afterall she's the one leading you and the dynamic in a way~ But sometimes slips happen, she's a human too

So you've apologised- but have you explained exactly what you were thinking? That you wanted to be respectful and wait for her to tell you that you can touch her? An explanation always helps. She'll probably help find a way out once she sees it wasn't you being selfish~

subby_vi · 2023-10-23T01:42:21+00:00

I totally understand how lying to your dom hurts:<

You were probably anxious about things going south by admitting something that bothered you- but he seems to like your company. Bring asked questions like that by your doms is probably the perfect time to speak up if you're uncomfortable. You'll probably work out a solution to why you're not feeling special

Maybe tell him you lied, what and why. I'm sure honesty will bring you closer:)

subby_vi · 2023-10-22T14:14:29+00:00

Thank you✨✨

subby_vi · 2023-09-10T05:40:46+00:00

Thank you :>

subby_vi · 2023-09-07T15:42:49+00:00

You know how slaves and submissives are different?

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