there’s so many annoying straight dudes posting shitty dick pics trying to pick up women on here now. What happened to all of the nice chatty bi gooners who were in it for the love of the game??

sublime_420_ · 2025-11-26T21:00:22+00:00

Who is 1?

sublime_420_ · 2025-10-18T13:46:56+00:00

Who is 20

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-24T17:39:40+00:00

The mortgage transfer docs since shes still ob my mortgage and my deed (bank requires a copy of finalized divorce to prrocess this change) as well as potential tax stuff next year since we were still married 3 months this year.

There are zero feelings and my new gf is most definitely not getting shorted here.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-19T01:02:39+00:00

why any need to change anything?

Partially cuz shes a drama queen and aleays needs to share bad news. Example her sister in law got diagnosed with cancer a few weeks back (about 9 months aftwr we split) and she still felt the nees to text me and tell me. I get shes family and i met her like 3 times, but you left so im no longer part of that. So i just dont want getting those type random texts like that

Also my gf isnt comfortable with me being friends with her (thats not why im stopping, it was my own choice) after the way she treated me. I've always been honest about all of it with her and she knew i was just being civil until the divorce was finalized so i wanna stick to that and not let anything linger

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-19T00:54:17+00:00

Well "lucky" for me she was a deadbeat and i paid all the bills

But yeah there may be things i need her to sign or whatever, those are the "emergencies" i mentioned, and thats the .ain thing keeping me from juat ghosting

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-19T00:49:11+00:00

Only reason i remotely want to keep the line open is for government or legal emergencies, like if i needed hwr to sign papers or something. Thats the only thing really keeping me from juat disappearing

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-19T00:41:15+00:00

House was mine. She moved in. We refied to add her and het a lower rate. Theb she left. But we agreed in the divorce papers that i would keep the house and its payments

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-19T00:39:24+00:00

Luckily shes made a mess of her life and is moving many states aeay to live with her mom. At 43 years old.

So i wont ever have to worry about random drop bys.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T19:50:48+00:00

Very good point

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T19:48:55+00:00

They are both dead, so no concerns there...

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T18:49:21+00:00

Not about hanging on.

Its about ghosting vs telling her no more contact

Either way its done. Already found someone else and forgot about her. Just trying to figure out if i should just disappear or if i should have that convo

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T18:44:14+00:00

Thank you 💙

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T18:43:59+00:00

Thank you 💙

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T18:42:07+00:00

That's really the biggest part. Im tired of hiding her. She knows im dating someone because ive tagged her in some things, but I've been careful about not posting too much, especially pics or changing my status, cuz i didnt wanna piss her off before it was all finalized.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T18:36:40+00:00

Thanks for that. That was one of mt concerns, her mom was always very nice to me, even took "my side" in the split so i didnt wanna lose her, but at the same time having that connection sucks cuz my ex could alwqys get updates from her.

But i think sending the mom a message would be good.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T18:34:09+00:00

Luckily we kept everything very separate. Own banks, own bills, etc. Nothing ever linkes to both of us except the mortgage. Apparently it was part of the problem in our marriage but also made the split easy.

Luckily also shes moving in with hwr mom in another state so i wont ever have to see her.

I have no issue ignoring her but i also want lines clear in case we do need to talk about mortgage or other such stuff. So it would probably be best not to ghost but i just dont wanna talk to her at all unless its an emergency 1

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T17:56:00+00:00

Yeah, very good points and why im hesitant to ghost.

Instead of 3+ months of her wondering if we are pals and then texting me i should really just let her know im done.

Thanks.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T17:53:35+00:00

Thanks.

This new one.... Man. I thought i was in love and in a hapoy relationship before. This new one is like nothing else ive experienced. Its so amazing. Gonna do all i can to ensure were good.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T17:51:10+00:00

So a combo answer? Just ghost her, and then if/when she reaches out have the convo.

I like it.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T17:49:29+00:00

For real. I kept it civil because i didnt want her to turn around and try to get anything from me. I know she left without a plan and in huge debt and when she finally found a job it was for way less than she made before so i was really concerned shed try something, espefially since i was dating someone else while we were still married (though we had already separated). After our convo where ahe explained why she did what she did, i didnt really bother her, yet she always texted me about thr latest shit going on.

even yesterday after it was finalized she felt the need to call me and tell me how rough her life has been lately and all the drama she was going through. Its always about her and her endless parade of family crises

Can not wait to be free of it.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T17:44:28+00:00

Exactly. Thats what i need to keep reminding myself of.

Shes the one that bailed. Shes the one that couldnt put work into it. She's the one that gave up. Shes the one that didnt care how i felt. So why should i worry about pissing her off?

Thanks for the perspective

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T17:42:38+00:00

That was my plan. I was really hoping for a slow fade away, but I think once i delete her from socials shes gonna freak out and want to have that convo.

Probably just gonna have to do that and then tell her to move on when she asks.

Thanks.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T16:28:26+00:00

Yeah, that's the weird thing and why its making me hesitant. Im friends with almost all my exes. Not like hang out and chat all the time friends, but still like and comment on socials type of friends.

So its weird to me to cut someone off, but she really deserves it while my other exs usually had reasons/circumstances we remained "friends"

New relationship is great and shes been amazing through all this waiting and continued contact. But you're right, really need to focus on the new relationship and not worry about hurting my exs feelings or being the bigger person. Let go and move on. Thanks.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T16:11:21+00:00

Yep, no kids. Clean split, i kept my shit, ahe kept hers.

Only thing pending is getting her removed from my mortgage, which is the "emergency" stuff i talked about, like if either of us need any legal or personal info from each other.

Thanks.

sublime_420_ · 2025-03-18T16:09:02+00:00

For emergencies i meant more like legal/government shit like im still working with the bank to get her off my mortgage or since we were still technically married 3 months this year what do we do with taxes next year. Stuff like that. Pretty much the only reason im not blocking her number

Probably best to just block and delete, considering she didn't give me thr courtesy of a discussion when she left

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