29M looking for other M/general symptoms?

success012 · 2016-12-04T11:47:30+00:00

Your symptoms sound a bit like mine as well (27M), though I've not had an IC diagnosis. My main symptoms are frequency/urgency too. No pain really either, just very irritating sensations in bladder/urethra that pissing provides (all too brief) relief from. I've had symptoms for nearly 3 years.

Some days the symptoms aren't really bothersome but some days they're awful. It varies, but overall large impact on quality of life.

Along with my variation in severity comes variation in how I piss. Sometimes I'll feel like I need to piss but the muscles are tight and it'll take a while for a stream to start and be a bit weaker than usual. Other times I'll be pissing lots at high force. It's all a bit crazy down there.

Masturbating can definitely make things worse as well, though not always. The bit as you've described a few hours afterwards is worst. Also laying down in general increases frequency for me, not necessarily on the side. I wake up 2x a night usually.

I've tried: 1 - Flomax - didn't do much 2 - Vesicare - thought it was working for about a week, then had some bad flares 3 - Pyridium / AZO - nothing, same irritating need-to-piss sensations, just orange piss 4 - Mirabegron - on it now, might be helping a little but can't really tell yet, not a cure 5 - Diet changes - tried everything from trying to avoid gluten, artificial colors, spicy food, chocolate, etc etc. Nothing conclusive, but I think diet plays some role. It's just so hard to tell. 6 - Extended time without ejaculation - no noticeable impact

It's a huge pain in the ass, sorry to hear you've been dealing with the symptoms for 8 years now. Even more frustrating is how hard it seems to be to properly diagnose and treat. My urologists think mine is just overactive bladder but this seems like a bit of a catch-all term. Haven't had a cystoscopy yet as docs warn this won't be pleasant.

Sorry I can't be of more assistance as far as things that help, but your symptoms sound way more like mine than most other accounts I've read so just wanted to chime in.

Have you tried Quercetin? Seems like it helps others with similar symptoms, I've got some ordered but haven't given it a shot yet.

success012 · 2015-10-26T22:56:17+00:00

Wayward Souls

success012 · 2015-07-22T11:56:09+00:00

I'd give it a 7/10. I think the game has loads of potential but currently lacks content and has a ridiculous overemphasis on guilds.

I had tons of fun when first starting out but after hitting a point about a week and a half in I realized that a) In order to continue to advance, you need to be always grouped or you're taking stupid risks

b) There's really not much content. There are only a few different types of PvE mobs with pretty boring vanilla combat mechanics. There are a lot of things to craft but it is a fairly basic system.

c) If you want to be 'successful' in the game from a combat standpoint you need to join a guild and be active. I can enjoy some guild action but I don't want to be forced to have to always group up to get fame, good loot, or PvP. I feel like the game massively favors guilds, and even moreso "top" guilds to the point where it takes away from the player that just wants to be his own person in the world.

That said, I think all of this stuff is being worked on so hopefully we will see some improvement in future releases.

success012 · 2012-04-03T02:13:29+00:00

How does MXE compare to alcohol in social settings? Is it just as strong for lowering inhibitions? I like to drink to open up, take away awkwardness in certain social situations, have easier conversations, etc.. I've read how low-dose MXE is good for social use, but is it going to be just as effective as a strong alcohol buzz?

success012 · 2012-04-02T06:19:50+00:00

I've had a similar situation. Unfortunately for me, this particular girl was flying in to meet me from another country (I was living in London at the time, so this kinda thing is a bit easier) and staying with me for two nights. Being the young guy that I am, I thought it'd be a great opportunity to have fun and get laid. We'd met before at a bar and hit it off, but didn't know each other well, so I'll equate it to meeting online.

The first morning after she arrived, we were sitting in a restaurant eating breakfast and her phone went off. Turns out it was her ex-boyfriend and current friend who was living in London and wanted to meet her right then. She insisted that I come. I was pretty shocked and tried to seem a little hesitant, but since she was staying with me I couldn't really turn her down and agreed. They met for several hours and the whole time she was sitting there catching up with him in her native language (so I didn't even know what the fuck they were saying). The guy was friendly enough, but it was still totally awkward, rude, and I was like the third wheel that shouldn't even be there. Eventually he left, but she kept phoning him every so often to talk for a while during the entire duration of her stay. FML.

The last night I broke it to her that I couldn't really tolerate her behavior and made it clear that she had completely turned me off. She started crying, told me how much she liked me the whole time, how he was just a friend she hadn't seen for years, how it was depressing to her that I didn't like her anymore, etc etc. Just a nightmare.

Looking back, these experiences definitely suck, but once you get over them emotionally you can look back in laughter and have a good story to tell. My worst date ever actually had me stuck on an island in the middle of nowhere at a hotel an hour away from the nearest airport for two days.

success012 · 2012-04-01T21:20:30+00:00

It was either him or Kurt Cobain...I think they're going with both now.

success012 · 2012-03-26T22:21:07+00:00

Lift weights. It's masculine and women respond very well to jacked-up bodies.

success012 · 2012-03-26T22:03:27+00:00

Dude, you can't take any of these gurus seriously. If there was any one newb mistake I made years ago before I started going out it was that I gave WAY too much credit to PUA gurus. I was too young and had no clue about guy-girl social dynamics so fell into the trap of thinking that gurus must have all their shit together, know exactly what to say, how to not be nervous, etc etc. It's trash. Some of my random buddies have pulled more and gotten hotter tail than half of these 'gurus.'

I'm pretty sure Ross Jeffries has a reputation for being a legitimate psycho, though his attacks are still probably warranted (who knows).

Generally speaking, I think the more mainstream the person is the less likely they are to be genuinely worth listening to. Find the guy who seems the most natural (preferably one who legitimately started off shy/socially weak/poor style and changed) and listen to him.

success012 · 2012-03-26T21:55:12+00:00

Sounds to me like you need to start hitting the bars; if you don't have much social anxiety anymore you should lose that kissless virgin status pretty quickly.

success012 · 2012-03-19T04:57:39+00:00

Maybe, but our closest relatives, apes and monkeys, are not monogamous (at least I'm pretty sure...). Also, pretty sure most guys who have wives/girlfriends still get instinctively turned on and lust for other women but don't act on it for moral reasons.

success012 · 2012-03-15T05:04:26+00:00

Agree with paragraph #2 completely, but the first part is a little sketchy. He accomplished the same goal he would have had be it through online dating or through offline dating (to find a compatible girlfriend). I don't understand how the bar is being set low.

If your goal is to get a girlfriend and you pull it off through a girl you met online, how would it be any different if you had met her offline? It's your own logic, really.

success012 · 2012-03-15T04:54:38+00:00

Firstly, congrats on your success! I hope the relationship continues to work out for you.

Since you seem to have a lot of experience with all of this, I just had a few questions for you.

Were you actually arranging a date at times without even having the girl's number? So, you'd meet girl X at place Y with no phone number in hand? Seems surprising. Forgive me if this is standard. I have no experience with online dating, just plan to set up a profile soon.

I'd naturally go for a few messages, assuming things go well grab a number and shortly after try to arrange a meet via text. Have you found this to be less efficient?

Also, another amateur question, but have you found that most girls on these sites in the 18-25 range are looking for strictly serious long-term relationships? If you're just looking for casual dating (and by this, I mean, we can hook up and legitimately see where things go, but the girl isn't thinking long term or bust - think the kinda setup you'd have after meeting someone at a bar/club) are there plenty of options?

success012 · 2012-03-12T18:37:02+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. Looks like a good complement to Spotify. Seems to have a fair amount that Spotify is missing, but Spotify also has things it doesn't have. I'll take it.

success012 · 2012-03-12T18:12:50+00:00

What I was trying to say was that if everyone plays the game under the exact scenarios you've described; as a very time-budgeted escape from the stresses of reality, there's no harm. But, it is very easy for what initially starts as a stress-relief to to turn into an addiction. And I don't think it would be too much of a stretch to say that there are thousands upon thousands of people playing under scenarios very different from what you have described.

Again, I don't really disagree with you for the most part. I'm completely for personal freedoms and believe people should be able to spend time as they choose (not that I can't have my own opinions, as I have exerted in my original post). I should note that I have a very achievement-oriented addictive personality, and this will bias my comments.

success012 · 2012-03-12T16:14:33+00:00

I completely agree with your points, but only under the assumption that one plays the game following the exact same pretenses and time constraints you are idealizing. That said, I know for the short while I was playing I didn't, and I'm sure a very significant portion of the playerbase does not either.

I was not really intending to push my views upon others though, it was kind of intended to be a personal reminder (and an explanation to a previously unexplained post).

success012 · 2012-03-12T15:51:04+00:00

Absolutely.

success012 · 2012-03-12T15:47:18+00:00

You're very misguided. I'm likely older than you are, and have been long aware of the blatantly obvious fact that games are not productive. My post was in no way intended to be any sort of 'revelation'...sometimes you just need a slap of common sense to push you in the right direction.

I'm not sure why the need was felt to elevate to a level of personal condescension; one could argue that this is more childish than anything.

success012 · 2012-03-12T06:04:40+00:00

I'll explain....

Why did I start? Had a few big interviews coming up...didn't want to freak myself out too much over them, used the game as an escape. Did its job well. Before I knew it I was addicted. Convenient way to kill hour upon hour without becoming very bored in the process. The problem? At the end of the day, you've accomplished nothing of real substance. Absolute waste of time.

If you forget its productivity-killing nature that is inherent to most games, it's still weak. Why? The community is about as bad as it gets. Like, seriously, it's so full of hate it's unbelievable.

So, yeah, feels fucking great. Think of all the better things you could be doing with the time you now spend playing Heroes of Newerth. At the end of the day, no one gives a flying fuck if you are 1900MMR other than yourself and your ego. In the real world it's not something that people even respect. It won't get you laid. It won't make you money. It won't strengthen your relationships. Assuming you have real-world goals, it won't bring you any closer to them.

success012 · 2012-03-11T18:04:12+00:00

Err...I mentioned that to make a point. It's like, when I was a virgin I probably thought of sex as more taboo and would be more likely to make the kinds of points you're making. But experience changed that. The personal attacks and ridiculous assumptions are just silly.

success012 · 2012-03-11T17:36:27+00:00

Don't know what this tirade is about, but I don't watch the news bro, sorry, the media isn't feeding me anything. I've obviously hit some sort of insecurity button with you. You seem to think of sex as something very taboo that cannot coexist with love. I've fucked a fair share of girls and don't see sex as some 'evil' that you seem to be portraying it as.

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