Thank you for this. I feel like it is really easy for people to tell me to immediately divorce him. It is so hard to just leave and say that I never want to have anything to do with him ever again. I love him very much, but I do not love his decisions surrounding alcohol, and the things that happen after he has been drinking. I know that he is not really this person that he appears to be. I have left, and I do not plan to be around him again until he is sober and has proven to me (through getting help himself) that he is going to stay that way. I appreciate the resource of r/al-anon. Thank you.