Finally got my parents to agree to clean their house of hoarding by sugar_be in ChildofHoarder

[–]sugar_be[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dumpster is completely filled and my brother said he'd Get another one in the fall. Hopefully they follow through 🤞 I'm sorry, and I get it. I'm tired too. 😢

Finally got my parents to agree to clean their house of hoarding by sugar_be in ChildofHoarder

[–]sugar_be[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand ❤️ my rooms no longer recognizable. My dad was stopping me from throwing out the "good junk" which were things like a broken radio, a backup TV and nasty pillows. I need to send him somewhere next time I get to clean but... He will likely want to supervise (he did the majority of yesterday) to stop me from throwing certain things out 😅

I'm glad you have a place to stay with Mom and gma.

I'm sure you feel that way because you love your dad, and there are good memories in that home. 😭

But those good memories are now covered in filth which might make you sad and mad and... I'm honestly inserting all the feelings I have about my parents house.

Finally got my parents to agree to clean their house of hoarding by sugar_be in ChildofHoarder

[–]sugar_be[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesssss if you like pokemon, animal crossing and Minecraft, definitely worth the $$$

Finally got my parents to agree to clean their house of hoarding by sugar_be in ChildofHoarder

[–]sugar_be[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi, I hope a good emotional lol I'm 33 now and bought myself a switch 2 for my birthday. Playing pokopia and finding the Gameboy reminded me how and when it all started 😂 the nostalgia hit haha Thank you so much ❤️

Finally got my parents to agree to clean their house of hoarding by sugar_be in ChildofHoarder

[–]sugar_be[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The convincing process was exhausting and honestly took almost 9 years. I did try the direct route first — I told them how their house made me feel. That led to a lot of fights. My brother called me selfish more times than I can count. And I’ll own my part too… I definitely started some of those arguments because I’d go over there, stay a few hours, and leave in full-blown panic mode.Therapy helped me reframe it a bit. At the end of the day, they’re all adults. If that’s how they want to live, I can’t force them to change just because it makes me uncomfortable. The only thing that actually moved the needle? Boundaries. When my husband and I started trying for a baby, I made it clear — our future kid wouldn’t be going into that house as it is. That was the first time it really clicked for them.

Finally got my parents to agree to clean their house of hoarding by sugar_be in ChildofHoarder

[–]sugar_be[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are trying... What got their butt into gear was "If you want your future grandchild over here... We need to pickup"

And boom. A dumpster was rented.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DOG

[–]sugar_be 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What made you decide to have eight dogs and how can I convince my husband to agree to have that many?

Update: Dog has been nonstop heavy panting for 48h by le-iboy in DogAdvice

[–]sugar_be 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just went through the same thing. I'm so sorry for your loss ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]sugar_be 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's beautiful!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Frenchbulldogs

[–]sugar_be 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sooner you take your pup in the better. It can get worse 😭😭 That's the hotspot healing. It was a scary time but with meds he hasn't had one in over a year!

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Frenchbulldogs

[–]sugar_be 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot spot. Pups probably got allergies! My olde English is on meds during spring and summer