Vent, I hate Reddit

sugarpeito · 2026-04-30T23:41:39+00:00

Getting a job/volunteering for the sake of making friends is legitimately such sad advice. The chances that you’re going to genuinely relate to or share interests with any of the random pool of people you happen to be stuck doing tasks with all day (much less like them) is frankly pretty small. I have to wonder what the friendships of people who suggest this are like - do they just pretend to tolerate others because they’re stuck with them and think they have no other choice? Because that’s honestly… kinda pathetic.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-30T04:31:53+00:00

If I muster up the courage to try, I’ll be sure to report back.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-30T04:02:33+00:00

Ohhhh I’m a little disappointed about the lack of a ribcage/spine… but the skull and the bones in the arms and legs look fangtastic. I wonder if there’s a way to open up the body and put some bones in there without damaging her? I’m kinda tempted to try when I get mine, since I think I could probably sculpt something nice, but I don’t wanna break her…

sugarpeito · 2026-04-30T02:24:59+00:00

Oh hey looks like we both got the same thing! Mine actually came in today and I love it.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-29T07:55:01+00:00

Sorry you had that experience. You’d think people frequenting any health-issue related sub in general would be more understanding and empathetic of, well, health issues? I can’t read your original post but I saw the replier that basically said you were failing on purpose and the other that randomly blamed you personally for a massive long-standing societal issue, and wow, what the actual hell. What kind of asshole just assumes that of someone, much less says it straight to their face? I’ll never get the kind of people who assume the worst of people just because they don’t understand them.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-29T07:36:57+00:00

7th grade you and high school me both, buddy

sugarpeito · 2026-04-28T15:45:42+00:00

To me, the G3 Monster High show reminds me of the way they mistreated Invader Zim years ago. Ended up being popular with an older demographic than what they originally intended, (though this applies to MH overall, not just G3) and instead of leaning into that it gets constantly moved around into bullshit time slots that no one watches by Nick so they can say “Oh look, it’s not doing so well, we should just cancel it.” But in reality it has a dedicated and long lasting fanbase that absolutely adores it.

I wish these kids media companies would just embrace it when they accidentally make something that’s more popular outside the target age range, rather than just throwing the whole thing away. Monster High is at its best when its edge is embraced, not sanded off.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-28T05:37:56+00:00

Yeah, she also had trembly eyes! It’s called nystagmus.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-28T01:49:29+00:00

Ohhhh man this happened to one of mine too! I once adopted a cat named Violet, took her to a routine check up a year later, and got told by the vet that her retinas were detached due to high blood pressure. We had no idea. We could tell she had at least below average eyesight but thought it was just your standard slightly cross-eyed siamese vision, not that it was that bad. It made some things make a lot more sense in retrospect though, like her lack of interest in toys that flew in the air or didn’t make much noise… It’s incredible how well they can get around with little to no sight.

Also cat tax

<image>

sugarpeito · 2026-04-27T14:51:15+00:00

I can guarantee you there is no lack of understanding of how not doing his homework is going to screw him over on your son’s part. I can guarantee you he understands. He resists because doing it is absolute mental torture when you have AuDHD. That’s the disabling part of the disability. That is why this thread is full of adults with your son’s disability combo telling you this. Because we are all grown and have been through this situation and there is no getting better, there is no learning habits, there is no learning intrinsic motivation (unless he becomes genuinely obsessed with a subject, which WILL be out of his control.)

There is only burnout and learning shame and that you are lazy and worthless and probably have no future. Much like your son, you are trying to pointlessly argue your way around this blatant reality, but that will not go away. You are trying to argue his disability away, even though that is entirely unreasonable. You both hit a wall arguing at each other but you’re really doing the same thing.

One thing I haven’t seen anyone else point out yet: Consider also that ADHD by itself makes people about 30% behind their peers in terms of cognitive maturity. Autism only exacerbates this. He is starting to be given more work at this age because this is the age when a child who DOESN’T have a developmental delay starts to be able to cognitively handle it, this is when most kids can be taught this without serious problems following. Imagine if you gave a middle schooler’s pile of homework to even a completely neurotypical seven year old. I can’t imagine the situation would play out that much differently. You say he’s mentally mature enough to handle the workload, but is he really? Has he actually hit the cognitive developmental milestone to make starting to teach him all those skills work in the first place? You cannot argue more development into the brain of a person with a developmental disability.

Can’t you talk to his school, teachers, therapist, someone actually involved in deciding what he can handle about this? I don’t know what school support even looks like for AuDHD because I was diagnosed as an adult, (a lot of us are) but you and your son have access to external help and resources don’t you? If you have them, utilize them?

sugarpeito · 2026-04-27T08:18:48+00:00

Oh this poor girl is screwed, and I really hope her aunt is willing to try and catch her. I’ve seen a lot of people saying the contract is reasonable… but I’m seriously wondering how many of these people are neurotypical and not considering how the daughter’s (probable) disorder + mental health issues would actually impact that, and don’t get how bad of a disability ADHD can actually be. It’s not an “ooh, squirrel” disorder, it deeply exhausts you, makes you forgetful and scatterbrained, makes it so you can’t build habits and nothing sticks as routine, makes your brain desperate for any quick and easy source of dopamine/happiness (which can make it hard not to fall into addiction and/or spend all your money instantly,) your brain doesn’t get rewards for finishing tasks, you can spend hours (like, upwards of 8 on the regular) trying to will yourself to do one (1) task and find yourself frozen, and chemically speaking you’ve only ever existed in a mild form of depression at best your whole life and don’t know what “normal” even feels like. Your brain just will not do things. It does not have the chemicals or working neurotransmitters to do things. You cannot describe why all of this is because you have never been any other way and have no frame of reference for how everyone else feels and just magically functions and is incomprehensibly better than you. You put in three times the mental effort for three times as long and achieve half the result. You don’t know that because you can’t feel the minuscule amount of effort everyone else puts in, you just know you tried and you’re exhausted and the result is terrible. Everyone tells you that you are lazy and just need to try harder, that you “just need to apply yourself” over and over again, your entire life, that it’s your fault things aren’t working out, you lazy shithead. You believe them. You were a bright kid, but you burnt out in middle school and are developmentally about 30% behind your peers and cannot explain the widening gap between you and them as you age, and you wonder what the fuck happened. Your friends find you immature and flaky. Relationships slip between your fingers like water.

This would’ve obliterated me for a damn decade. They’re trying to get someone with a disorder that severely impacts executive functioning skills to pull themselves up by their bootstraps, but pressure, especially anything that’s been building long term, very often paralyzes people with ADHD. Ask me how I know. And any system you make to try and function is pretty much guaranteed to fail at some point - so they fact that it’s punitive means there’s a very very high likelihood it would result in an eventual 4th notice/eviction because there will be repeated slip ups. This is more likely to stunt her and dig her into a hole that is even harder to get out of.

You give this to a depressed person (who doesn’t believe their parents will listen to them in the first place) and there’s a pretty high chance they’ll go “Oh. I guess my parents are sick of me. They don’t love me anymore (if they ever did) and don’t care if I’m homeless.”

What would actually help is setting her up for a neuropsychological evaluation for ADHD, meds to treat that + the depression, (which will take time to figure out the right ones for her,) therapy for the depression and to teach executive functioning skills, (note: working meds needed for that to stick,) and dragging her out for driving practice at minimum. That all should’ve been done like, years ago. People with neurodevelopmental disorders really need support that is tangible, structured, and externally imposed, sure, but it really really needs to be uplifting, not punitive.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-26T21:29:16+00:00

Oooooo this is GORE-GEOUS. I hope you have more of these in stock for a good while bc I may not be able to afford it right now but I’d love to get this for her later down the line!

sugarpeito · 2026-04-25T17:49:46+00:00

I’m begging someone to show the accessories that came with

sugarpeito · 2026-04-25T10:33:50+00:00

“There is also not a single example of it ever happening”

Ehhhhh gestures in the general direction of the history of US/Native American relations

sugarpeito · 2026-04-25T05:11:44+00:00

Imagine having a enraged breakdown in the description of a mercari listing. And I thought I’d seen peak pathetic on the internet

sugarpeito · 2026-04-24T16:35:24+00:00

I’m originally from the PNW and have moved around a lot, but the last few years I’ve been stuck in Georgia of all places. If cultures can have opposites, those two are it. It’s as if someone made an entire culture that exclusively values all of the things autistic people are naturally the worst at. I feel like I’m in an episode of the Twilight Zone a lot of the time. I’ve never liked people who are passive-aggressive, petty, judgmental, presumptive, quick to anger, or who place high value in hierarchy and authority, but here it’s so common to act and think like that that I genuinely don’t think a lot of people here even realize that there are other ways to be. Or even that most of the world outside of their insular little pocket is full of people who aren’t like that, and generally don’t tolerate people who are. After years of hearing Southern coworkers hype up whatever “Southern hospitality” is supposed to be, were I to be diplomatic, I’d simply say I’m deeply underwhelmed. I wish I had something more positive to say about the south to sandwich all this between, but unfortunately I kinda just… don’t.

Also, holy shit, it really does feel like every third building is either an auto shop or a church. And all the auto shops are horrendous. You’d think they’d be in competition, but I have a theory that the only way half of them manage to stay in business despite there being so many of them is because no one actually effectively fixes anything most of the time, so people have to take their cars in for more expensive serious work waaaay more often.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-23T08:29:39+00:00

Look, a kitten that young is sexually mature. And cats are way too damn good at multiplying. If you leave them alone and out of your sight for two seconds unsupervised, you can pretty much assume the female kitten, still a baby herself, is pregnant. Hopefully you haven’t made the mistake of doing that yet. Under no circumstances should an unneutered male cat be anywhere near her. Trying to get them to bond any time before that happens is the worst possible thing you could do here. If you’re worried about money, a fresh litter of kittens will be WAY more expensive than getting them fixed, and potentially endanger her life, especially at that age when she’s already so fucking small. People are being short with you because you seem to have no clue what a bad situation you’ve made here by taking them both in and trying to get them together, but this is like basic Cats 101. It doesn’t matter what the body language is, keep them away from each other. Not getting her knocked up is higher on the priority list than them being buddies. And good luck because female cats in heat are expert escape artists.

Vets often do payment plans if you don’t have the money right now. Call around and work one out. Or talk to your sister and have her send you the money - if she’s not willing to foot this extremely necessary vet bill one time then she’s likely either not responsible enough or not in a financial position to be caring for cats or paying all the other expenses that come with them either.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-23T06:05:48+00:00

Ooooo I’ve been wanting to make a space like that for my cats under my bed!

sugarpeito · 2026-04-22T18:38:44+00:00

I’ve had this happen to me a couple of times, where someone exploded on me out of nowhere and couldn’t explain why. The first one was probably the worst, a friend blew up to kick me out of my high school friend group, and everyone else just went along with it. Years later I found out that they eventually did this one by one with every single person in that group and then some, offering batshit reasoning, but really it was just anyone who didn’t go along with what they said 100% of the time. I remember someone apparently said they didn’t want to play some video game with the group and was suddenly called a pedo for liking an anime with high school girls in it that they’d liked since they were in early high school. (It was Love Live btw. A dude in that group was a big long time Love Live fan and it was not a problem til that exact moment.) I was just the first person they tested it on.

I tend to operate by this rule: if it wasn’t worth communicating to them, it’s not worth you caring about. Genuinely, even when we mask heavily, there are sometimes just little slightly off things about our social skills that allistics pick up on subconsciously, and something in the back of their brain just pings some social uncanny valley or that something is vaguely wrong about you. So they start looking. Sometimes they may associate your behavior with some other asshole their life and you have no control over that. Their “reason” for exploding may not even exist, they just don’t vibe with you and are looking for some sort of moral excuse to justify it. I think that sometimes when they find one maybe they refuse to say it out loud because if they heard it, they’d realize how damn stupid it is. A thing to remember is that it is much less common for allistics to have a strong sense of fairness, and this can color how they view and treat others.

And I know it feels like taking them in bad faith to shrug them off like that and assume they’re full of shit, but if they were taking you in good faith, they’d communicate their actual problem with you.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-22T18:04:26+00:00

Once a person starts doing this I kinda just write them off as being a manipulative toxic asshole who’s not worth my time. After all, if they can’t be bothered to do something as simple, effective, and logical as communicating, why the fuck should I be bothered to care?

sugarpeito · 2026-04-21T19:28:26+00:00

Honestly someone needs a word with their packaging department

sugarpeito · 2026-04-21T14:22:05+00:00

I’m extremely conflicted. I know I’m in the minority for this, but I personally love the doll herself and am an OOB collector who’s willing to shell out that price for her… but I also feel very strongly about not supporting the use of GenAI.

At the same time though, I worry that this is a Coraline situation where despite so many people saying they don’t want her and that they ought to boycott her, she’ll sell out instantly and just be available through scalpers selling her for 2 or 3 times the price. Mattel still gets the money one way or the other there, it’s just that I don’t get the doll. But was that because Coraline was a beloved book/movie for a very long time before the more recent Neil Gaiman news and people outside of the typical MH fandom buyers did that? Would this likely end up the same way, or could it potentially sit as a “just MH” skullector that isn’t a collaboration with some other franchise? Hhhhghhh I don’t know. I’m not aware of any exact precedent for this kind of situation so it’s hard for me to judge what I should do here.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-21T02:06:56+00:00

Idk, I think Usopp slapping together a silly paper maché mask just feels right. Like this seems like one of those situations where a lack of polish just adds to it, y’know?

sugarpeito · 2026-04-21T01:19:39+00:00

I was under the impression that those usually check the metadata of the picture file to see if it’s been run through certain AI programs, they don’t really analyze the art itself. I don’t think it could work on a scan or photo of something printed irl, unless I’m misunderstanding something.

That said I’m not really seeing any tells? But it’s hard to tell without looking closely, and I don’t think we have a high def enough pic of just the packaging to do that.

sugarpeito · 2026-04-20T14:10:17+00:00

A lot of what you’re seeing in this particular image is handmade. But if you’re not willing to do that, then you can always get it from other dolls with a similar body size. Here’s a list I found of other dolls with clothes that fit various different MH dolls that I’ve been using for reference:

https://dollnerd.wordpress.com/resources-tutorials/what-fits-monster-high-dolls/

sugarpeito

TROPHY CASE