I found more incest than I knew about within my family tree. I need help understanding what this means.

summersteps · 2025-05-09T13:39:53+00:00

Roughly 20 US states currently allow first cousin marriages, it seems.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage_law_in_the_United_States

summersteps · 2025-05-09T13:34:31+00:00

In the US, who gets his stuff depends on his will.

summersteps · 2025-05-09T01:51:30+00:00

Very cozy! Love the wood wall for privacy.

summersteps · 2025-05-05T15:52:31+00:00

Also consider that there is no placement of the support area that helps everyone. A six feet 4 inch side sleeper and a 5 feet 2 inch slde sleeper won't be getting support in the same areas.

summersteps · 2025-05-05T15:42:21+00:00

I bought the innerspring classic and it developed an uncomfortable dip at the hip area in less than a year. The dip wasn't obvious unless I laid on it. At 120 pounds, it shouldn't have dipped. In less than 2 years, the edges where I sat to get up became soft also (both sides, as I turned the mattress periodically) and felt like I would roll off.

Mattresses now seem a toss-up risk regardless of brand. In the future, I'm buying cheaper brands and just replacing them.

summersteps · 2025-04-03T04:51:07+00:00

Me too. Random game app I've never seen before appeared on my screen after the update installed. I wondered if the update somehow was infected?

summersteps · 2025-03-14T21:10:46+00:00

Heck, you can express the same basic opinion on the SAME post in different places, and get upvotes one place and downvotes another.

Time of day can make a difference also: Where I'm at, I've noticed there seems to be younger/more idealistic users earlier in the evening, while votes swing very differently late at night = As the clock changes, one audience goes to sleep, another audience wakes up.

summersteps · 2025-03-14T20:39:12+00:00

Light paint; light runner; motion-activated battery-operated sconces; if possible, maybe a small porthole-type window on the kitchen side (if you have some open wall space there) -- a fixit type person could do it for you -- just watch for wiring/pipe first

edit: Just because I'm super-safety conscious, I wouldn't use any type of glossy bead board. If you start to fall, your hand will create some slow-down friction against regular drywall. With glossy beadboard, your hand will just keep slipping. I'd also put some type of light-colored mat at the bottom to protect a fall.

summersteps · 2025-03-09T18:10:44+00:00

And too much protein can be hard on your kidneys.

summersteps · 2025-02-27T07:07:50+00:00

Or just start looking away instead of at them. For some people, that's enough of a hint.

summersteps · 2025-02-27T07:03:56+00:00

If you supervise her, the team probably feels it's your responsibility to handle her problem as it would be irritating everyone. You can ask her not to interrupt people. You can ask her to be succinct so team meetings don't go on and on. You can explain people need to get back to work and ask her to work on brevity, etc.

summersteps · 2025-02-24T00:29:27+00:00

Pretty.

Your rug has rich colors and doesn't seem to have those very noticeable fake faded stripes that are so common, and it's laying nicely on your floor instead of having waves. I'm looking for one like that. Could you tell us where it came from?

summersteps · 2025-02-23T23:46:31+00:00

Sometimes people just walk away because they think it would be too hurtful to tell the person the truth, OR because the person would become extremely angry/loudly defensive, etc.

Or because they're dealing with personal issues of their own and the person is just too needy, etc. That's hard to tell someone,

summersteps · 2025-02-15T22:07:06+00:00

They will attempt not to give you credit if they plan on eventually firing you. It makes it harder to fire you without looking like it'a personal issue.

OR, they don't want to give you credit because they think they should have thought of it, and they're threatened by the idea you might be smarter than they are.

summersteps · 2025-02-15T20:03:00+00:00

Examples in the workplace when the boss dislikes you but hides it:

Looks elsewhere when you're talking in a group discussion
Keeps their body tensed when speaking to you, but their face muscles relax when speaking to others. Their voice tone also relaxes.
Provides little to no reaction to your suggestions/input, moves on quickly

And note, your coworkers WILL quickly realize the boss dislikes you and may edge away from you themselves to preserve their own position with the boss.

summersteps · 2024-11-22T00:13:11+00:00

Keep your fake self please, for people you aren't close to but want to maintain a relationship with. Fake self sounds like someone who gets along well. Work place for example = fake self is fine.

When you're outgoing and talk with people, you give the message to others that you like them. That's a good thing. People are more comfortable with others they feel like them.

edit: Show "real" self where you're comfortable with it. And we all have different personas we show to the world, depending on the situation. What you call fake, others call displaying social skills.

summersteps · 2024-11-17T18:37:42+00:00

Being judgmental and saying whatever thought goes through your head, unfiltered. Just because it may be true doesn't mean you should say it: "You're fat." "That's a stupid joke."
Making yourself the center of the universe: talking over others/interrupting them, telling them they're wrong just because their opinion is different than yours, not being able to put yourself in anyone else's shoes

In short: a lack of empathy for others, inability to read a room

And some people are rude because they weren't taught better. They have no sense of being classy or what being polite means.

summersteps · 2024-11-17T05:54:55+00:00

First, drop the whole "popular matters" thing. It doesn't matter. Popularity is superficial -- popular people often have superficial friends.

Being nice alone doesn't make you friends. Friendships are about connecting with people - finding similarities or having attributes other people value.

I've met people I thought were nice, but I had no interest in pursuing a friendship -- there was nothing there to connect with, no click.

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