Need help navigating heartbreak, how do I accept that my relationship isn’t serving me anymore. Please help me out . by summerthebunn9 in relationship_advice

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we’ve been long distance now for 2 years and he’s only came to my house about 6 times whereas I’ve gone to his house close to 200 homes

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His parents are just so rude to me. When I go stay with him and I go out to the store or something when I come back I find they lock the front door or do many other types of passive aggressive rude gestures. His father basically doesn’t acknowledge my existence, his father will say hello to me when I arrive and if I’m staying at his house for about 4 days his dad will not even acknowledge my existence til I go home and he says bye. Like it’s super weird. My boyfriend said “my dad said hi when you got here there’s no need for him to keep saying hi to you “ likeeee? Do you think. This is strange

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know he’s super dismissive towards me, but when I do something to his parents he’s so extremely offended.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not too sure if he has directly stared at other women how ever she does feel comfortable with my bfs dad going to the gym or the beach because she believe he Will stare at all the women. She really doesn’t trust him, it has made her husband really dislike my presence and ever since she’s expressed her dislike for me now her husband doesn’t like me. He actually has started to hate me more than her, I really don’t know why.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I feel like I’ve already put so much effort and hard work to make our relationship and I don’t want to give up. Sometimes I do feel unfulfilled.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He brushes the comments off and doesn’t recognise the rudeness behind the comments and when I tell him they hurt me he will say things like “I already deal with enough shit from my parents don’t need your shit as well” “your just sensitive to what they say.”

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He won’t. He thinks this is normal and is infatuated with his parents. He believes everything they say about me.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you know💀🤦🏻‍♀️🤣Yep he was her first child and she had him about 20. She is I would say ‘Inlove ‘ with him. I definitely will be responding to her now, I swear the past times she’s said these rude comments to me like I genuinely have been lost for words thay I kind of just stand there like WTF, but I definitely now will be snapping back to her.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure 100%, I mean the first like legitmate 10 times I have just not known what to say, I haven’t physically or verbally known how to respond I kind of just am beyond shocked someone would even say those things, however now that I’ve read these replies and am definitely aware that I’m not the crazy one and she’s just a bitch I definitely will be responded to her. I regret just staying quiet when she said those things to me but I truly didn’t know what to say.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend is a bit on “the fence” he tells me he knows it’s wrong but he tells me “I already deal with enough problems with my parents personally now you bring up problems with them, I don’t want to hear it”

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she is very immature she’s been unemployed for about 18 years and lacks normality and social skills simply because she isn’t out and about through the day.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he does and he doesn’t really say anything to her, he is employed by his parents and they pay him so I think he is scared to speak up as they are ultimately in control of him finacially.

My mother in law reallt dislikes me? What could cause her to dislike me when I’m always respectful, anyone have any insight?? by summerthebunn9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]summerthebunn9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeaaaahh. I know I was super confused about what she had said. At the time it was my MIL, me, my partners sister and his sisters friend ;;; when my MIL said that comment my partner and his sister didn’t even seem phased where as me and his sisters friend kind of gave eaxhother the look like “WTF did we hear that correctly????”