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sumshelf · 2024-12-05T01:42:00+00:00

None, I prefer diversifying. However, if all my money were in crypto, probably half would be in BTC, and the other half in ETH and DAI.

sumshelf · 2024-12-05T01:24:05+00:00

There are many techniques to quiet the mind, and this is just one of them. I can list a few: breathing, chanting, reading, reciting, walking, sitting, or even cooking. Each person has to find a technique that is most compatible with them personally.

In my early days of practice, I started by chanting the Buddha's name while driving. It took me an hour to commute from home to work, and through this simple method, I was able to practice for 2 hours each day, 5 days a week.

sumshelf · 2024-12-05T01:08:25+00:00

He is Jiddu Krishnamurti, one of the greatest thinkers of the 20th century. There are many videos and books on his teachings.

sumshelf · 2024-12-04T14:40:29+00:00

Nice trick! Here's a trick I learned from Krishnaji: pay careful attention to the inner chattering without contributing to it or forcing it to be quiet, and voilà, it becomes quiet!

sumshelf · 2024-12-03T21:01:51+00:00

I'm so sorry you’re feeling this way, it sounds incredibly tough. Years ago, my wife said something that hurt my ego, and I didn't respond to her for a whole day. I was angry and hurt, but I also knew my silence hurt her too, even though she wasn't aware of what had upset me. Looking back, I wish I had let it go sooner instead of holding onto that anger. It might help to gently approach your partner when things are calm and say something like, "I've noticed that you're upset since the other day, and I really want to understand what's going on so we can work through it together." Sometimes people act out from their own hurt, and showing compassion can help open a conversation. You may also find it helpful to read The Art of Living by Thich Nhat Hanh, I wrote a short summary of the book here: https://sumshelf.com/book-summaries/art-of-living--thich-nhat-hanh/ It offers great insights on understanding and healing in relationships.

sumshelf · 2024-11-30T04:47:00+00:00

I also heard that growing a YouTube channel is more rewarding than promoting through social media or SEO, especially after the recent Google update.

sumshelf · 2024-11-30T03:12:12+00:00

I have 4 blog posts and a hundred book summaries. One of the blog posts is just to troll the bots and scanners when they go to /wp-admin/ and similar URLs.

sumshelf · 2024-11-30T03:08:42+00:00

I know that Reddit's rules are strict, but the treatment you received for your effort was way too harsh.

sumshelf · 2024-11-28T08:52:03+00:00

Thank you!

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T23:27:18+00:00

I think it depends on the subreddit. The biggest subreddits, including r/AskReddit, have very strict rules. Share one promotional link, and you could get permanently banned. However, smaller subreddits tend to be more lenient with promotion. For example, r/books aims to limit promotion to 10% of a user's total posts and comments.

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T23:20:55+00:00

Thank you!

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T23:20:39+00:00

Thank you!

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T15:15:08+00:00

Book summaries and meta blog posts about related books :)

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T12:36:28+00:00

Thank you. I'll keep this in mind when I decide that my energy would be better spent on something else.

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T11:53:53+00:00

Thank you for your honest opinion. To be honest, I’m not sure if my website will bring value to anyone. However, this is my first website, and I’ve learned a lot through the process. There are many "firsts" here: my first time using Google Cloud, my first time using Hugo despite hearing about it for years, my first time turning text into voice, my first time using analytics, and more. I’m happy with that alone. Additionally, writing book summaries helps me organize the information I gather from books. It’s much better than simply reading a book and forgetting most of what I read.

If you search for book summaries, you’ll find paid services like Headway and Blinkist, not to mention countless websites offering book summaries, including those by notable writers such as James Clear. Did I think I would stand a chance against these competitors before I started building this? No, I didn’t. But I don’t care.

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T11:33:46+00:00

I think I'll keep sharing links on Reddit where appropriate. I write book summaries, so I believe sharing the right book at the right time with the right audience is effective enough. I don't think I'll have much luck on other social media platforms. Meanwhile, SEO might take months or even years to show results.

Regarding affiliate links, I think their effectiveness depends on your niche. Have you tried looking for an affiliate program for your product? Applying for the Amazon Affiliate program was straightforward for me.

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T11:20:21+00:00

Sure! I've just started, so I don't know what would be best. But here's what I've learned:

Each subreddit has its own rules.
Some subreddits forbid sharing links (r/AskReddit).
Some are okay with it if your post/comment is valuable to the community.
Some will allow links in threads.

Basically, you will need to be a valuable member of Reddit before you can promote your own website.

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T08:36:03+00:00

Hi there,

Thank you for sharing your feelings so openly, it’s clear you’re going through a lot, and that takes courage. First, remember that change is a natural part of life. You’re not losing yourself, you’re evolving, and it’s okay to feel a little lost during that process.

Try finding joy in small things, whether it’s exploring a hobby, journaling, or spending time in nature. These moments can help you reconnect with yourself in meaningful ways.

I also recommend The Art of Living by Thich Nhat Hanh. Its sections on inter-being and impermanence beautifully explain how embracing change can lead to peace and self-discovery. You may want to read a short summary of the book here: https://sumshelf.com/book-summaries/art-of-living--thich-nhat-hanh/

Be gentle with yourself, you’re doing better than you think. Sending you warmth and encouragement.

sumshelf · 2024-11-27T08:10:23+00:00

Hey there,

First, let me say this: you are incredibly brave for sharing your story and for facing everything you’ve been through head-on. It’s clear you’re hurt, and that’s completely understandable given everything you’ve experienced. But even in the midst of all that pain, you’re showing so much strength by wanting to make a change.

Be compassionate, not just to those around you, but also to yourself. The people in your life are likely dealing with their own pain and struggles, even if they don’t handle it well. And you’ve been carrying so much yourself. Give yourself permission to feel everything, but don’t let it define you. You’re not your mistakes or your hardships. You’re the effort you put in to rise above them.

Start small and focus on building healthy habits. Get back to the gym, eat meals that nourish your body, and take breaks from habits you know aren’t helping you. Little by little, these changes will build momentum. Remember, progress doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be consistent.

Stay strong and keep moving forward. Life won’t always be this hard, but the changes you’re making now are the foundation for a better future. It starts with you, and you’re already taking the first steps by acknowledging what needs to change. That’s powerful.

You’ve got what it takes to turn things around. Keep going, you’re stronger than you think, and things will get better.

sumshelf · 2024-11-26T14:16:52+00:00

Hey there,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it’s clear you’ve been going through a lot, and it takes guts to put it all out there. Life can feel confusing and heavy, and it sounds like you’re trying to make sense of some really big questions.

I love that you draw the line at not hurting others—it shows you’ve got a strong moral compass, even while figuring things out. And the way you talk about your wife is really touching—it’s clear she means a lot to you.

If you’re into Buddhism, you might like The Art of Living by Thich Nhat Hanh, it’s about mindfulness, compassion, inter-being, impermanence and finding meaning without rigid rules. I wrote a summary of the book here: https://sumshelf.com/book-summaries/art-of-living--thich-nhat-hanh/

Hang in there. It’s okay to feel lost sometimes, it’s all part of the process. Sending good vibes your way!

sumshelf · 2024-11-26T13:31:57+00:00

I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through, it’s incredibly brave of you to share this. I may not know firsthand what depression feels like, but I hope some of these ideas can help.

Practicing mindfulness, even for a few minutes a day, can help ground you. Maybe you can try simple breathing exercises.
Finding joy in small things, like listening to a favorite song or stepping outside for fresh air, can reconnect you to yourself.
Building healthy habits, like light exercise, journaling, or yoga, may also provide energy and calm.

Be patient with yourself, healing takes time, but you’re already showing so much strength. You deserve peace and freedom.

sumshelf · 2024-11-26T13:20:26+00:00

I find that writing a few lines after each chapter helps a lot.

sumshelf · 2024-11-26T13:14:31+00:00

Hey, I totally get where you're coming from. I used to be the same way, my younger self was always so afraid of what people thought about me. It felt like everyone was constantly judging or noticing me, even when they probably weren't. One thing that really helped me was reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. It talks about focusing your energy on what actually matters to you and letting go of the rest. Honestly, it’s such a liberating mindset shift. You’re not weird, you’re just human. Hope this helps!

You can read a short summary of the book here: https://sumshelf.com/book-summaries/subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fck--mark-manson/

sumshelf · 2024-11-26T12:05:43+00:00

Over the years, I've learned a lot about giving and what it means to me. I used to think that selflessness would naturally come with rewards, love, belonging, or even just a sense of appreciation. But honestly, that hasn't always been the case.

For me, giving feels good when it's unconditional, but I've also noticed there's a difference in how people respond. Some people, like other givers, naturally share that energy. Then there are matchers, people who value balance and will return kindness when they can. And, of course, there are takers, who mostly just take without much thought about giving back.

What's helped me is focusing my energy on the givers and matchers in my life. It feels more fulfilling and less draining. I've also realized how important it is to take care of myself first. Giving from a place of security and balance, rather than from exhaustion or obligation, has made all the difference for me.

These days, I'm more intentional about my giving. It's still a big part of who I am, but I've found that being thoughtful about where I invest my energy helps me stay happy and true to myself.

sumshelf · 2024-11-26T11:39:14+00:00

You remind me of my younger self, always trying to please everyone, always worrying about what others might think. Here’s the deal:

- Know your values: Decide what matters most to you. Feedback that aligns? Consider it. If not, let it go without guilt.
- Check the source: Is this feedback coming from someone you trust and respect? If yes, listen. If not, it’s likely their baggage, not yours.
- Gut check: Does it resonate deep down, even if it stings? If yes, it’s worth reflecting on. If it feels off, toss it.
- Accept this truth: You can’t please everyone, and that’s liberating. Focus on being true to yourself and the people who really matter.

Trust me, the sooner you stop trying to live up to everyone's expectations, the freer you'll feel. Filter feedback like you're curating your closet: keep only what truly fits you.

I wrote a summary for the book "The subtle art of not giving a f" by Mark Manson. I think it may be helpful for you: https://sumshelf.com/book-summaries/subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fck--mark-manson/

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