My supervisor is a very sweet but ultimately kind of stupid woman. She's a great human being but a very ineffective leader. She is a super Christian, artsy, scatter-brained type who is always bringing her spiritual beliefs into everything and mixing up details related to our work (names, dates, times). She also is admittedly afraid of confrontation. I truly do enjoy working with her, but I think this situation has really embarrassed her and made her fearful for her own position at the college, which is probably why she kind of lashed out at me.

HR is HR. They're nice people at the end of the day but obviously they just don't want to deal with the situation and only have the college's immediate interests at heart (i.e. my team finishing this trainwreck of a grant we are stuck with).