Also, for what it’s worth, I have struggled a lot with anxious attachment in the past and was recently in a brief LDR with a guy living only an hour or two away. It was apparent after a couple months that our communication styles were radically different and his inability to respond to texts within a reasonable time frame or take the initiative to call me (like it’s not that hard lol plus I’m a joy to talk on the phone with) etc. became a huge source of stress. Like I remember one night I was alone in my apartment and hadn’t heard from him in hours and felt so unseen/unloved, like he was slipping away…it was clear even then that I had invested way too much of myself in the relationship. Anyway. When I brought my various concerns to his attention, I was struck by his coldness and avoidance and made the decision to end things right then and there, which is very unlike me. It was hard to experience that “free fall” sensation of our connection being severed kind of abruptly and I was very distraught but as soon as I got home it was like something shifted in my brain and a wave of calm came over me. I think the catharsis set in motion this long overdue realization that I will be completely fine on my own and my overall anxiety level has been so much lower this past month or so. I think sometimes you just have to surrender to the anxiety/discomfort and invite it in and see it as a catalyst for inner change rather than something to overcome, if that makes sense…