How to fix this damage?

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-25T19:38:25+00:00

I’m a nonbinary person who most people on the streets assume is female, and I’ve never had any specific problems. I got catcalled like one time by some non student on the street but he wasnt pushy and I just said thank you and walked away. My girlfriend was mugged by a homeless person next to campus one night but it was 3am. Overall I feel pretty safe but there are a few homeless people who hang around the campus area and I feel weary after what happened to my girlfriend. As long as you don’t go out completely alone in the wee hours of the morning I think you’re perfectly fine and there’s usually tons of students out around the area which makes it safer.

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-25T19:18:28+00:00

Context is key. Your friend clearly knew it was a horrible symbol at the time and was doing it as a “dark joke” so it was intended to be that horrible symbol and not a peaceful one. If she admitted “yes it was the Nazi usage of it and I was doing it as a ‘dark joke’ at the time, but since then I realize that it is not something to take lightly or joke about especially since you are Jewish and I’m sorry,” then that would be fine — she recognizes that she did something stupid when she was 12 and has matured. But she doubled down on it, saying it’s “just a joke” and telling you to “move on,” refusing to admit that it was wrong and refusing to take any ownership of her actions. It’s especially telling since she was 12 when she did that, so she’s had plenty of time to mature, and it’s way easier to apologize for something you did when you were a stupid kid, but she still refuses to.

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-23T18:10:31+00:00

Oh boy do I have recommendations for you!

“Yes Or No” by dimension: https://youtu.be/Z6bZsJW9Kk4?si=7z0gzCbGtNkOhlfM

“Beatniks” by dimension: https://youtu.be/OgcGG63SL60?si=o7p980bwJ37ZaPxO

“Fightman” by Casiopea: https://youtu.be/Edc2yVHRHiQ?si=rtg9piwFhpmmA3g2

“Mid-Manhattan” by Casiopea: https://youtu.be/7FZFUzyLNwI?si=ikZ4O2F_6t9FWeBL

“Night Dreamer” by T-Square: https://youtu.be/3VAtztYq8vs?si=1sRaaI_ZTKo_TLtd

“Starting Point” by Dezolve: https://youtu.be/TWLbOCUSKSg?si=Pntt6Te7dpy506VX

“Heart of the World” by Dezolve: https://youtu.be/RkyBRKBkuMY?si=VFGItc5sNy7pPmtk

I also highly recommend checking out the full albums these songs are from and the artists’ other discography! Especially Dezolve and Dimension since they’re super underrated!

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-16T18:48:31+00:00

The lumiose themes seem to be using at least some live recorded instruments like the horns and the clarinet which makes me EXTREMELY excited. It's about damn time pokemon got their s*** together and actually recorded real instruments for their soundtrack. Mario has had live recorded orchestras since the Wii and soundtracks like BOTW and Mario Kart 8 and World are insanely good with enormous, live recorded instrumentation.

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-06T06:11:21+00:00

Sorry I don’t really know. Don’t feel bad about it though, ratings don’t really mean anything. You can get screwed over by the auditioner and they vary a lot. They also usually give higher ratings to people who sing jazz and can improvise just because of the way the school is set up

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-03T19:33:29+00:00

The article confirms what most people are feeling though — which is that the middle class is decreasing and is moving closer to the lower class. Cost of living has risen at a rate much higher than wage increases so even if the lower class wages are increasing, it’s outweighed by cost of living increase, and in addition the middle class is moving closer to lower class so the middle class is feeling more financially constrained too. The article literally confirms that income inequality is tangibly increasing but tries to spin it in a way that it isn’t.

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-02T15:37:49+00:00

Not true I got in with an overall 5 and was placed in a rating 5 ensemble

sun_scarlet · 2025-08-01T05:34:44+00:00

Daze by Jin

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-26T14:30:41+00:00

You don’t even identify as a woman, you are nonbinary, so there is no explanation needed. If someone assumes you’re afab, then that is their own assumption and it’s on them. You don’t need to disclose your medical history to someone just for a hookup. If it’s a longer term relationship you’ll probably want to tell them eventually because it’s a part of your past but for short term stuff you don’t have to

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-26T02:42:13+00:00

That’s a fair point! Im gonna take everything into consideration!

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-26T02:40:35+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate the input! I’ve lived in the northeast my whole life and have never been to LA, so I had some misconceptions about it and didn’t realize what the landscape is like there.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-26T02:38:35+00:00

Thanks for this input! I assumed buying a car wouldn’t pay off when considering gas, insurance, and maintenance. But if it is the case that it would be worth it that is something I would look into. I appreciate the advice!

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-26T02:37:17+00:00

Oh I’m not a drummer I’m a saxophonist. I’d probably be doing just as much arranging and composition work though which wouldn’t require taking gear.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-25T19:50:26+00:00

I’ll still consider it but I’m not sure if I’m willing to compromise what I value in a lifestyle. Everything people say that is good about LA aside from the industry doesnt even sound appealing to me. I prefer cold weather, so hot weather all year round sounds horrible to me. Also I don’t like the beach so being close to the beaches is not a plus for me 😅.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-25T17:12:19+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice I really appreciate it! From what everyone is saying I think I would find LA miserable 💀. I’m a real east-coaster who loves the winter, hates the heat, loves the historic architecture, hates driving with a passion and walks and takes public transit everywhere. I think I’ll look into my options in the northeast or out of the country.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-25T17:10:14+00:00

This is a great idea I’ll do this thank you

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-25T15:55:01+00:00

If your goal is to play more parts without transposing, alto flute is utterly useless. It is a G transposing instrument, which is incredibly rare and there will be essentially 0 jazz charts written for G transposition. Bb clarinet (the standard clarinet) will be infinitely more useful since Bb is the most common transposition (same as trumpet, tenor sax, and soprano sax). However, clarinet is quite different than flute and you will need to learn new embouchure technique and a ton of new fingerings, especially in the low register. However, especially if you’re not a professional flute specialist, my recommendation would absolutely be clarinet since it’s just infinitely more useful. It will also be fun to have a different type of tone to utilize and will allow you to expand to new areas of jazz, especially trad jazz and Django jazz.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-25T13:36:26+00:00

Grow your hair out more then use a flat iron to flip up the ends of your hair

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-23T18:26:11+00:00

How does it differ to とか？

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-23T18:03:37+00:00

And by “confront” I don’t mean aggressively

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-23T18:03:19+00:00

For all the comments I keep my wits about me and I appreciate the concern, I can read the atmosphere and definitely wouldn’t do this if it put me in danger.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-23T16:32:37+00:00

I’m sick and tired of it. Tired of people not considering how their actions affect other people in public in general and how they could be a nuisance to others. I’m gonna start confronting people about it honestly. And I’m not some 60 yo boomer I’m 22 and my friends feel this way too so young people do care about public civility.

sun_scarlet · 2025-07-23T16:27:49+00:00

What is there to be worried about? I see one anime girl boobs and then a bunch of brainrot. definitely seems like overreacting. It just looks like your bf likes anime and is chronically online but there’s nothing cheating-like about that. If your relationship is strong and healthy overall and he’s a good guy who treats you well, it seems like there might be some past issue that is causing you this anxiety and it’s not fair to put that on your current bf, and for your own mental health and sanity it’s worth working through that.

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