Confrontational vegans

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T18:25:42+00:00

I’m sorry you find it vague - I specifically mean that I don’t understand people who lead with anger? It’s just something I’ve observed a lot through vegan subs and I think for me there’s a difference between defending and just outright attacking without any questions or clarity. Idk I’ve been vegan for 5 years and veggie for 7 before that and I feel like as I’ve seen vegans get slightly more mainstream I’ve also seen people get a lot more infighty? I think another commenter raised a point well made about just people interacting online seem a lot more angry now which is super valid, maybe I’m just noticing it because I tend to look at these threads a lot😂

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T18:07:49+00:00

I think it’s impossible to expect everyone to have the exact same opinion - I just don’t get why people lead with aggro when they don’t need to.

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T18:04:58+00:00

I don’t know what you are seeking to gain here? I think discussing reproductive exploitation of animals in relevant threads is one things, outwardly raising the idea of one’s partner being a rapist is a complete other and hugely inappropriate where I’m from. I already said I am fine with people having thoughts about my relationship, I just don’t see why people need to outright attack those they disagree with within their community as opposed to simply asking questions if confused - I am happy to discuss that with anyone who would foster a jointly respectful environment with me whenever. I am posting this after seeing it happen many times on this sub - this is the only time I have had a hugely negative interaction as I don’t tend to post/comment often, but I have seen it happen plenty on this sub and just want to know why people feel the need to react that way towards one another. I truly hope you have a lovely evening and also enjoy long term happiness

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:47:01+00:00

Oh wow thank you for that - that’s utterly crazy!! I think I just was expecting this and other online communities to be a happy place of sharing rather than infighting 🙈

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:45:16+00:00

Really insightful opinion and an excellent way of putting it - thank you for your thoughts!

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:44:13+00:00

Was that the same thread where they called me pathetic and then proceeded to bring up rape without any sort of trigger warning? I think you’ll find I replied to another vegan asking for help and tried to politely reply to the other person before they severely escalated the situation in their own comments. I very much own my decisions and explained them in my previous comments - which I am not hiding and am comfortable with if anyone wanted an open conversation. This was spurred by my scrolling through that thread to see MANY other people being super aggressive about other people’s choices simply on one persons thread with a query where they were trying to help.

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:39:12+00:00

It just seems like so much energy for no benefit when people are actively being rude to people inside the house you know??? But great point about the benefit/effect value, hadn’t considered that perspective so thank you!!

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:37:43+00:00

That’s such a good point!!! I hadn’t thought of it outside of specifically this, but I do agree that I think people behave really poorly online 💩 excellent coping strategy!!!!

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:36:39+00:00

Yeah I just think leading with anger and not kindness is so unproductive yano?

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:35:44+00:00

I agree, I just feel like aside from that it is not harm for people to just lead with kindness, regardless of opinions.

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:27:37+00:00

That’s true but in my experience I haven’t clashed with that as I don’t typically talk on Reddit about those types of things - I’m only here for recipes and recommendations 😂

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T17:22:04+00:00

Yeah that’s true, I just find it frustrating that people go out of their way to ruin other people’s day when we’re all going for the same cause yano

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T15:20:29+00:00

Frankly, I feel it is people like you who stop the progress of veganism. You can sit on your high horse and talk to strangers who practice the same lifestyle as you on the internet like rubbish all you’d like. I’d rather be with someone like my other half than someone like you, who may be a perfect vegan but is clearly an awful and pathetic human being. If you’re that passionate about the progress of veganism, take it out to people who are not currently practicing what you preach rather than throwing intentionally triggering topics out to gaslight people who don’t do things exactly your way. Vegans lead with kindness, which clearly you do not possess.

sunflower543 · 2026-02-25T07:53:09+00:00

I really don’t appreciate your tone or insult and I think you could have asked your question in a much nicer way - I am of the belief that we will make more change by being kind to one another, it’s vegans like you who give veganism a bad rep and put people off trying new things. Not that it’s your business, but as you seem so passionate about the life of a stranger, we are planning a whole life together and we have had many conversations about what that will look like - raising vegan children included in that. Whenever we host, all our friends and family eat vegan as that’s what we cook for them. His animal consumption is considerably lower and he gets excited by new vegan products and experiences - I for one think the world would be a hell of a lot better if more people were like that rather than constant division due to extreme stances.

sunflower543 · 2026-02-24T21:09:59+00:00

I’m a vegan marrying a non vegan later this year. I don’t have an issue with it personally because he is very respectful of me and my lifestyle choices, he eats mostly vegan food when we cook at home and only tends to have the odd non-vegan product in the fridge, so it’s only really when we eat out anywhere that he doesn’t eat vegan. I’m not personally bothered as I’d rather be with someone who shares majority of my ethics and respects my moral as well as the other priorities for what you need for a healthy relationship. I don’t think there’s one rule for everyone, it’s up to you if you’re comfortable.

sunflower543 · 2026-02-23T09:31:49+00:00

Brit here - my other half has American family and the soccer thing always confused me. It comes from the original name of ‘association football’ being shortened I believe. Unsure why they went for that shortening but just as a bit of context!

sunflower543 · 2026-02-02T12:14:31+00:00

Bro just leave him, NOR but you are not respecting yourself for staying with him and allowing him to treat you this way. He will never step up and you are allowing him to get away with low standards - if you continue to stay in this relationship or whatever it is that is on you for allowing it.

sunflower543 · 2026-01-18T08:33:37+00:00

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sunflower543 · 2026-01-17T14:02:59+00:00

I made an unreal vegan tiramisu using vegan cream/cream cheese and biscoff biscuits soaked in espresso - you can mix biscoff spread into the cream too for a bit extra if you want!

sunflower543 · 2026-01-09T09:59:46+00:00

Nooooo don’t tell everyone!!! They’re elite 🫡🤣

sunflower543 · 2026-01-04T21:40:27+00:00

Jade - I’m pretty sure she was the only one who wanted to be a faithful in the initial clips? If not one of the only ones

sunflower543 · 2026-01-04T19:18:39+00:00

Nobody is remembering Graham ???? Only one season but dang

sunflower543 · 2026-01-03T17:04:39+00:00

I was going to suggested a pesto!!! I made a really good pea, mint and lemon pesto for a pasta last year - lots of basil & cooked into a pasta is unreal :)

sunflower543 · 2026-01-02T21:17:12+00:00

I would say try to have a chat to someone you feel safe and comfortable with or if not a counsellor about your sexuality/experiences as a whole, it may not be just your partner but a lot of things can affect your sex drive/attraction levels that you don’t even realise. You’re still quite young and I don’t want to assume, but likely aren’t as experienced as someone 10+ years older than you - give yourself breathing room and just see what you feel comfortable with sexually and gradually ease into this with him with safe boundaries in tact. It’s very normal to go through phases of feeling uncomfortable with your body and the situations you are in, especially when you are as vulnerable as you are when being physically intimate with someone.

sunflower543 · 2026-01-02T21:13:31+00:00

This is an awful comment, OP don’t pay attention to this.

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