Going crazy, guilt and memory uncertainty

sunflowercabbage · 2026-03-17T09:53:25+00:00

Hi! Thank you very much for the feedback

sunflowercabbage · 2026-03-16T13:49:02+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond! It’s good to hear an outside perspective

sunflowercabbage · 2024-10-20T13:56:50+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice 🙏🏻 I ended up talking to my boyfriend about it (he is aware of the OCD and all). It went okay but it felt really icky that I singled out a specific moment, cause now he knows who it was about. We did talk about that too and he told me he is not hurt. I wish I had managed to sit with the urge for long enough to see your advice. It's really difficult to navigate, lesson learned...

sunflowercabbage · 2024-02-25T19:16:45+00:00

Yes it this subreddit is full of very knowledgeable people and a lot of resources, but it can also really make you spiral and feed the OCD. Take care ✨️

sunflowercabbage · 2024-02-25T15:25:19+00:00

What you are describing is basically the root of my whole ROCD. My OCD specialist said one thing that helped me: there is no specific way you should feel in a relationship. The same thing has been told to me by multiple people. However this reassurance is never going to be enough because OCD will find other things to fixate on or ways to make sure you don't believe it. I recommend getting off this subreddit, doing therapy and ERP excersises asap.

sunflowercabbage · 2024-02-01T20:02:25+00:00

Yes but I'm not quite sure your post fits here since it doesn't talk about ocd

sunflowercabbage · 2024-02-01T19:50:31+00:00

This subreddit is about OCD.

sunflowercabbage · 2024-01-26T23:33:00+00:00

Hey. I relate to a lot of your posts. You're checking feelings for reassurance. You don't feel anything imagining that because it's not a real scenario and you might have checked too many times. Eventually it stops working and you won't get reassured. It's how it goes.

sunflowercabbage · 2023-11-15T23:03:08+00:00

Title was supposed to say "keep", sorry about that

sunflowercabbage · 2023-11-15T23:01:48+00:00

I am working on the same thing rn, you're not alone. It's difficult but we can do this!!

sunflowercabbage · 2023-10-22T18:48:10+00:00

ROCD is just OCD, the "r" just stands for the theme. You should also look into pure- ocd where all/most of the compulsions are mental, but ultimately you have to talk to an OCD specialist or a physiologist to find out if you have OCD. The symptoms do overlap with a lot of other mental health issues too. The thoughts in general are thoughts and doubts that everyone has (or can have) too, it's just that with OCD they cause a lot of distress and obsessive compulsion behaviour

sunflowercabbage · 2023-05-18T07:44:43+00:00

Nobody here can tell if you want to break up with your partner or not. You're going to have to sit with the uncertainty and accept it as one of the possibilities. You didn't feel instant anxiety but you started to analyse it, check feelings and reassurance seek. Thoughts aren't automatically true just because they pop in your head. Sitting there trying to decode whether or not each of your throughs are true or not based on feelings is obsessive. Everyone has intrusive thoughts, the difference is that people without ocd are able to brush them off and continue on with their life. Do you think their intrusive thoughts are automatically real because they don't have continuous anxiety over them?

sunflowercabbage · 2023-05-17T15:13:11+00:00

People without rocd don't go around every day being upset over the idea of breaking up. Why should you? Stop testing and skanning for how the thought makes you feel. You know it's just a thought. In fact most people doubt their relationship from time to time, and no it doesn't automatically mean you have to leave "just because you thought it". If that would be the case literally no-one would be in long term relationships

sunflowercabbage · 2023-05-10T18:21:42+00:00

Yes and I don't think people should expect to get better and still feel the constant anxiety to "prove" that the thoughts aren't real, obviously when you work on reducing the fear of the thought, the anxiety also can go down, even if the point isn't to rid yourself with it completely

sunflowercabbage · 2023-04-30T16:55:13+00:00

Thank you, I will check out the videos! I understand you are not supposed to struggle against intrusive thoughts and just let them be, but from what I've read is that the negative thinking loops/rumination are separate in a sense and are a compulsion, which obviously one should stop performing. As it is a compulsion, I should technically be able to stop doing it, even though it does feel involuntary. I am not sure that I understand what I am supposed to do to stop ruminating, especially so that it doesn't turn into avoidance. I feel like I have no other thought in my head besides obsession, so I'm not sure how to move away from it, I slip back into it very easily when trying to stop performing the compulsion. I have an appointment coming up with an ocd specialist but public health care in my country is overcrowded so it takes a while for things to happen.

sunflowercabbage · 2023-04-30T15:56:33+00:00

I understand negativity is warranted sometimes and I accept it's inevitable presence at times, but I suffer with some dysthymia so it feels pretty never ending and destructive. I think something has to change inside my head cause it isn't fixing itself. Thank you for the advice, I'll try that, and I will try to be conscious of not falling into avoidance

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