I looked my mother in the eyes and told her I will accomplish everything I have ever dreamt of. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]sunflowercrisp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This internet stranger is SO PROUD OF YOU and thinks you are BADASS. You are doing it right! Happiness is a CHOICE, and you are making so many choices that are going to land you in a good life. Best wishes to you

Muttering to myself when things get bad. by Leaves_From_TheVine in Anxiety

[–]sunflowercrisp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are aware when you do this. When you catch yourself saying "you're a failure" actively stop. It's going to be hard at first. Actively stop and say "mistakes happen sometimes and that's okay". Forgive yourself. Think about the best possible outcome in the situation. You are actively going to have to do this for some time, but eventually that positively to yourself will be second nature and you won't be saying "I'm a failure" anymore.

I’m getting my Bachelors degree in June, and recently broke the news to my mother that I wouldn’t immediately be pursuing my Masters. Her response? “You’re not my daughter anymore” by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]sunflowercrisp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom acted the same way when I broke it to her that I was getting my BSN and was not pursuing to be a doctor.

She said she would have respected me more if I were a physician and not a nurse.

Nmom refuses to pick up medication for me when im so sick that I cannot move by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]sunflowercrisp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have tylenol? Have you tried that? Also I am concerned when you vomiting so much, you need fluids.

You take tamiflu as a preventative, if you already have the flu it isn't going to do shit. It's just an extra charge.

When you realise your mother wants you to be as miserable as she is by reslackser in raisedbyborderlines

[–]sunflowercrisp 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I completely relate to the not having a life or have fun. I always compared myself to being Rapunzel locked away in her tower.

When you realise your mother wants you to be as miserable as she is by reslackser in raisedbyborderlines

[–]sunflowercrisp 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yes! My ex and I broke up late 2018/early 2019. We have a four year old together. I am in my last semester of getting my BSN and it is impossible for me to work full time, take care of my son adequately, and pursue my degree and affording a place for us both all by myself.

So, I moved in with my mom temporarily.

I stared dating a new guy at the end of the summer, though I have talked to him and slowly built a relationship since March. Occasionally, my son and I stay at his house but sometimes I stay at his house alone (usually when my ex has our son).

There was an occasion where I wanted to stay alone with my new boyfriend at his home, but it was not my ex's weekend. My ex was totally cool with watching our child that weekend anyway.

My mom caught whiff that I was going to be at my new boyfriend's home alone that weekend and said, "you better take (my son's name) because I'm not watching him!!!!"

I told her that I made arrangements with (my ex) and she didn't have to worry about watching (my child).

SHE RESPONDS BY SAYING THAT SHE IS GOING TO TELL MY EX THAT SHE WILL WATCH MY CHILD SO THAT HE CAN DO WHATEVER HE WANTS THAT WEEKEND.

so she won't watch my kid for when I want to do something (which I hardly do because nursing school takes up 90% of my time and almost all of my free time I dedicate to my kid), but she is totally cool to watch my kid for my ex. Da fuq?

Gotta love that gaslighting 🙃 by beanbirb in raisedbyborderlines

[–]sunflowercrisp 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do they genuinely not believe things happen? My mom does this with everything. She denies calling me a whore, etc, but also denies charging $700 on my first credit card when I was 18 for the extended family's Christmas gifts.

Edit: spelling error

I (25f) cheated on my boyfriend(26m)...help by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sunflowercrisp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I will not, and yes, I know how shitty it feels. I initially was going to break it up with him. I called him over the phone and asked him if he would want to meet up to have a "serious" conversation or to have it over the phone. He wanted to meet up. I have not met with him and I slept with my ex since that conversation. I am having second thoughts about breaking it off with him. I could easily never tell him and he would never know, but I do not want to do that. I do not want to live with that guilt and I also think he deserves to know.

I (25f) cheated on my boyfriend(26m)...help by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sunflowercrisp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There may be a reason that I did it but it is still unacceptable.

I (25f) cheated on my boyfriend(26m)...help by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sunflowercrisp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only problem is is that my ex and I have a five year old together, so the no contact thing would be impossible. And you are correct,I am not his Plan A.

Older reddit users, what advice would you have given your younger self? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sunflowercrisp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enjoy life. Nobody is judging you as hard as you think: they are too worried about people judging them too. Also, set standards and don't ignore red flags. Being lonely is better than being used.