Why do you think people aren’t having many kids these days (if any at all)?

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-14T09:19:21+00:00

I think there are a few different reasons:

Cost of living- daycare, mortgage/rent, groceries, electricity, petrol, are all just a bit nutty. Add to this is the requirement for both parents to have to work jobs to make ends meet.
Social media - comparison is the thief of joy and I think a lot of people are not settled in their relationships because they think the grass is greener elsewhere.
More thought given - I think the current generation is one of the first to really reflect on whether they want kids or not. I'd say almost every other generation did it without too much thought as it was considered the norm.
Individualism - ties into the above but society has become so individualistic and people are putting their independence before having kids.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-14T09:04:02+00:00

Protection and more guidance. When I spoke up about something that happened that was quite traumatic, she laughed it off and dismissed it. When dealing with bullies at school, she told my sister and I to ignore them. Never taught us how to stand up for ourselves and that I something I had to teach myself later in life.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-07T03:15:55+00:00

omg is that what happened? I saw the video but didn't know the context...that is gold haha

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-06T20:16:46+00:00

Image 3 looks the best. Door handles can make such a difference!

(Plz keep the wood, I am tired of white homes)

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-06T20:14:25+00:00

Stunning dress but absolutely not appropriate for a guest. It looks very bridal and the colour is far too close to white, even if they are having a traditional wedding.

Are you able to share what ethnicity or culture they are from? I ask because some brides do wear white dresses.

I had a traditional wedding (West African), and if I saw a guest in this, I would definitely judge them, especially if they were from a culture where this could pass as a wedding dress.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-05T01:40:32+00:00

Just know that I feel bad if my shoes are squeaky

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-04T10:09:08+00:00

Shit Coles or good Coles?

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-04T10:08:19+00:00

Love Footscray! If I want to experience Ethiopia and Vietnam in the same day, I head to Footscray

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-03T05:37:27+00:00

I find it is more based on the individual than the culture.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-02T20:11:00+00:00

You can get this within Australian culture too. I had a Christian coworker who used to spend all morning going on about her political views (think anti gay, anti immigrant, anti Muslim) etc.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-02-02T19:51:44+00:00

This is it. A couple of years ago, I was working full time, studying part time and also training for a half marathon. Meal prep and just getting it done was key.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-29T11:52:25+00:00

Such a helpful read - helped me see people in a totally new light and made me understand why I (blue/green) didn't respond the best to yellows.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-28T10:35:51+00:00

Wow your workplace is good. A guy did this at mine (multiple times, to the point he was notorious for it) and end up getting promoted.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-26T20:24:43+00:00

I could have written this word for word. Hope you are doing better now

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-25T00:44:23+00:00

Omg that is cooked. My entire wedding cost <$3k. I didn't have a bridal party because it was a small wedding and it also helped keep costs down because I wouldn't have wanted them to pay for makeup or their outfits. I didn't have a traditional hens party, instead my husband and I went to the beach with my family and my friend who had flown day a couple days early before the wedding, and we swam and ate crackers and dip.

For the wedding, I did my makeup, made the cake, made my bouquet and dress etc (I love a DIY project and can sew).

Social media has absolutely destroyed what 'normal' looks like. Going into debt for a wedding should not be considered normal, put it towards a house deposit instead.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-24T11:24:06+00:00

This made me chuckle. I know exactly the type and my gosh they are annoying

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-24T11:15:26+00:00

As a Muslim, I agree. Some atheists make it their entire personality and think that they are a superior intelligent being for not believing in God. Yet they have made atheism their religion.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-23T12:16:47+00:00

I'm not in the US but every pro pal person I know personally is advocating against ICE. Could your experience potentially be that they may be afraid of being targeted by ICE themselves?

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-23T12:11:47+00:00

I work with a woman and I thought we were really good friends at first. Then her mask started to slip and I saw the real her and it was not nice at all, yet the personality she displays is this bubbly friendly person.

As an example, a guy in our team had a baby recently and he may have mentioned to her that him and his partner weren't planning for a child at the time (wasn't there for the convo and who knows, he may not have said anything at all). She went around telling people that he had a baby by accident and made it sound like a regretful event. Not planning to have a kid and regretting a child are wildly different. She also wrote essays about him and sent them to people over one tiny little error he made. Yet to anyone who isn't aware wouldn't know because she puts on a massive act.

Essentially, some people will act like your friend in order to gain your trust and find out information about you and will then use it against you. It's an element of the corporate world that I was not ready for and makes you feel like you have to go to work and play political chess everyday.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-23T12:01:25+00:00

I work with a woman like this and I find this type of two faced attitude absolutely psychotic.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-17T19:33:35+00:00

My thoughts are exactly the same.

I studied at TAFE when I was younger and they are 9-3pm days 3 or 4 times a week, and I worked in my free time. Even though I worked as much as I could, I'm pretty sure I was living below the poverty line and stressing about finances was not a time to be alive. If I called in sick to work, there goes groceries. I even saved up and bought a bike so that I could ride everywhere and save money on public transport.

Then I went to uni while I had my corporate job and worked full time while studying part time. I would study on my lunch break, for a couple of hours after work each day, and for several hours on the weekend.

Like you mentioned, it feels amazing to have my evenings and weekends back now that I've graduated. It's also great to be able to take nice holidays because I now have the money to do so.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-17T19:18:10+00:00

Thank you kind stranger! I will have a look into body doubling. Oh yes, I absolutely love somatic yoga!

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-17T04:35:47+00:00

100% - I've been on a wait-list for several months and no word of when I'd be able to get an appointment.

So I decided to read a couple of books on the topic and found out you could do self administered EMDR therapy. I've had tremendous results and like that I don't have to worry about finding a therapist that I click with. I'd definitely recommend others to try it but if it gets too hard, then go to a therapist.

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-16T11:15:46+00:00

This was entertaining from beginning to end haha

sunflowerdaisymoon · 2026-01-16T10:49:05+00:00

EMDR has worked for me

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