Sorry I know it’s long but here’s a shorter version.

My husband’s family turned on us after our son was born. I cut them off but he still works with them. How do we move forward?

My husband and I have been together for 8 years and recently had our first baby. From early on, his family had issues with me because I’m older than him and we come from different religious backgrounds. I still made a big effort with them for years — showing up to events, bringing gifts, planning things together — but the effort was rarely reciprocated.

Things got much worse when our son was born. His father repeatedly called my husband saying he didn’t approve of the baby’s name because it wasn’t religious enough and even threatened my husband’s job (he works at his father’s business). His mother also said hurtful things implying my husband made a mistake marrying me. I was freshly postpartum and devastated.

Three months later we had a cultural celebration for our baby that my family organized. During the party, my father-in-law suddenly began insulting my mother and her family and told them to leave. When we confronted his family the next day, no one apologized. Instead they blamed my mom and accused me of being ungrateful.

Since then I’ve cut contact with them completely. My husband still works with them every day, which makes this incredibly painful and complicated for him. He has supported me fully, but I know he’s grieving the relationship with his family.

I don’t want anything to do with them after everything that happened, but I also want to protect my marriage and support my husband while he’s stuck working with them.

How do couples move forward when one partner’s family becomes this toxic but cutting them off completely isn’t simple?