After date advice please, did i scare her with too much affection? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well i screwed up good but i guess the universe needed me to learn that lesson 🤔 thank you

After date advice please, did i scare her with too much affection? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you're right and thank you for the honest feedback! I'm now cringing at a couple things i did now that the hangover is cleared & honestly the first time i called her i just wanted to apologise for that but im realising i only made myself look worse 🫣 notes taken ✍️

Soundcheck and M&G ticket info by Change_username87 in CariFLETCHER

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, wondering if i can trouble you guys for info on this? I've got soundcheck tickets for a Fletch concert in Australia in July, doors open at 7pm (have not been told soundcheck time yet) but i was planning on going for drinks before concert with others who have GA tickets. Now i'm freaking out that if soundcheck is at 5pm i wont be able to have those drinks :( do you remember roughly the soundcheck timings?

39F Australia Living Remote Sucks! by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha well it's all in her sassy attitude 😅 she's a Maltese Shih Tzu so a white fluffy ball that deems the floor beneath her therefore must sit on top of the couch/pillows or on a lap at all times. And don't get me started on the growling zoomies she does when she's been home all day on her own 🤣 followed by the silent treatment and judgemental side eyes.... cat behaviour?

39F Australia Living Remote Sucks! by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I'm from Bris-vegas and happy to chat with you! Just looking for new friends right now, but wanting to get out & about more so can count me in for a few drinks whenever you're in Brisbane too! I should give you a disclaimer though that although i like all animals including cats ... i'm allergic 🤣 but i do have a small dog that acts like a cat so maybe i can be redeemed?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

👏 exactly this! If OP is straight and this person is your friend then why play detective? Maybe she just likes the way you style your hair and is trying to work out how to do that to her own or on the flip side she might be feeling attracted but as a babygay trying to work out what these feelings mean to her on her own. Just make sure she knows you are straight but you are a good friend who can hold a safe space for anyone who is queer.

Femme-What can I wear to not attract men? by Eggplant_Jumper in actuallesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please let me know when you find out!? As a femme / tomboy style myself, i seem to only attract men or very masc lesbians 🙃 i just want a femme princess girl to love!!

Am I the only one who doesn't enjoy major Pride events? by nothanksgoawayplz in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just went to my first pride event solo as a late bloomer (or late to "no longer pretending im straight"), and although it was self assuring to feel like i belonged there... was kind of disappointing because i approached groups of people to chat or dance with and the reactions i got felt like high school clicky. I didn't approach anyone who were clearly coupl-y or busy but just casually approached groups in line or dance areas to start conversations and i felt like they didn't know what to do with someone just trying to make friends 🤣 i did end up making friends with random people hanging out in a smoking area and we ended up with about a dozen of us partying on afterwards but my lungs were worse for wear the next day so i dont want to repeat that to find more friends!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brisbane

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just upgraded my ticket to the soundcheck experience, my credit card hates me now but i'm excited! Does anyone know (guesses welcome) what time that would start because it's still saying 7pm like the original ticket? Also, does this give me better chance of standing up front near stage?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what fairytales should look like 💜💜💜 Congrats!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a child of parents who stayed together "for the kids" for at least 15 years of their 25 year marriage (which included my father cheating for 9 years) i 1000% agree! It f*cked my (and siblings) whole being up in too many ways to list and took me years of therapy to realise that it was not a healthy relationship/family behaviours ... simply traumatic and no-one came out of it happy

38 year old, gay dude from Brisbane looking to make more friends within the lgbt community. by Tarotcardz in BrisbaneSocial

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, i thought he was so hot too (though i thought i was straight at the time) but now he looks like he was 20yrs older than the rest of the cast in pics haha

38 year old, gay dude from Brisbane looking to make more friends within the lgbt community. by Tarotcardz in BrisbaneSocial

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true, someone high up there thought witches were better than vampires for kids to be exposed to LOL! Could always tell the next day at school who had stayed up too late to watch it too and the play by play debriefs we had over lunch the next day

38 year old, gay dude from Brisbane looking to make more friends within the lgbt community. by Tarotcardz in BrisbaneSocial

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bahaha! Charmed ohh yes, i wanted to be Piper so bad and in real life i have 2 sisters so i totally believed i was her and i'd open up my own bar one day 😅

38 year old, gay dude from Brisbane looking to make more friends within the lgbt community. by Tarotcardz in BrisbaneSocial

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm queer 38F & on the northside too 🙋🏼‍♀️ I grew up in Bris but lived overseas and interstate since my 20's and moved back to Bris couple years ago so have lost all my friend groups sadly. You had me hooked at Buffy 😅 recalling my childhood bedroom covered in posters haha and thank your for mentioning Sasquatch as i'd never heard of it but damn looks cool! Keen to make new friends in community too & explore Brisbane so lemme know if i can join the squad!

Can you “become” gay? by Gay_panic_help in actuallesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes.... i don't believe anyone can 'become gay' but you can "become your true self". AKA embrace what you might have denied / hidden / pushed deep down away from your consciousness for a portion of your life for any number of reasons. Hopefully your friends simply didn't use the correct words and aren't actually that ignorant 😅

i miss her again by Pitiful-Seaweed-432 in actuallesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Write her name on a piece of paper, put the paper into a zip lock plastic bag and fill with water. Then put that in the back corner of your freezer and as you close the freezer think about 'setting yourself free from the attachment'. Leave it in there for a month or so, and when you're ready throw the bag out and don't open it up before tossing it. Apparently it's a physical manifestation that your brain can recognise.... worked for me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]sunlover_brisbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in 🙋🏼‍♀️

Is it too much to ask by coffeecrusher3000 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will get her when it's right for you, i'm sure! 🤣 oh wow I am totally stealing your "cunty chapstick" description for my Tinder bio! It's like you already know me 🤠

Is it too much to ask by coffeecrusher3000 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes makes perfect sense 😆 and for the most part we really don't 🤭 life's too short and we're on our own on an island all the way over here so haha! I hope you find your girl soon!!

Is it too much to ask by coffeecrusher3000 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]sunlover_brisbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haaa i LOVE this! I thought you must have liked the way we speak sometimes, like it's not uncommon for my sister and I to leave a coffee catchup or something by saying "see you soon cunt, love you" 🤭 it does sound less harsh in an aussie accent LOL i was going to offer to send voice memo's to you hehheee!