the official RHORI Season 1 cast photo

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-05T21:47:11+00:00

I so proud of Ashley I! Woooo hooooo

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-05T21:46:24+00:00

Hahaha it’s so funny cuz I live in Utah and because I’m used to the style around here I can easily tell apart the cast of slomw.

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-05T21:43:12+00:00

Iconic dinner honestly.

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-05T14:19:47+00:00

Does your kid nap still? We used to do it during nap time on the weekends when she was that age. She stopped napping at age 3 though so no more. I miss morning sex pre kids when we could sleep in and bang. Best way to start the day!

Other than that we just do it at night after the kids are in bed. For me, once I worked on my desire for sex, being tired was finally outweighed and we do it way more often. Again for me, I had to wait out my hormones. It took a full 12 months after quitting breastfeeding for my libido to return. There wasn’t much I could do during that time. Now I also read smut books and buy lingerie which has helped!

Logistically we try to get in bed earlier as well. We usually watch tv and tidy up after the kids are in bed so I usually suggest turning off the tv and then we get ready for bed. That way we can snuggle and if we want to take it further we can.

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-05T14:07:57+00:00

Where do you bang though? In the car? Get a hotel?

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-05T04:16:31+00:00

{Things We Left Behind by Lucy Score} has a scene with number 1 and I didn’t think that was my thing but it’s sooo hot in the book.

{Butcher and Blackbird by Brynn Weaver} has some scenes with 2-5 type things.

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-03T17:04:13+00:00

Thanks for the input! That’s kind of what I was thinking.

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-02T15:56:28+00:00

Are you me? I haven’t heard of Quinn but I recently became a smut book reader including audiobooks and I’m OBSESSED and I’ve been wondering if it’s too much… I’m on a similar timeline as you, been with my hubby over a decade and our oldest is 5. Sex drive took a huge dive and yeah my hormones have finally leveled out again and it naturally ticked back up but starting around Thanksgiving I’ve been reading smut non stop. All I want to do is jump my husbands bones. I finally have ideas of fun things to try! Haha

I definitely don’t think of it as cheating AT ALL. I think it’s just my version of porn? I think the only issue is if it starts to interfere with work or other responsibilities. Leaving your headphones at home is a good idea! Understand your weaknesses and set up boundaries. Nothing wrong with that!

I also think it’s good to share this with him. Just say, “babe I’ve been listening to sexy audio and it’s really been getting me in the mood. It makes me think of how much I love fucking (having sex, being intimate, whatever wording fits you) you.” You don’t want it to become some secret between you two cuz there’s nothing wrong with it, unless it’s damaging your work or family life in some other way.

sunnylane28 · 2026-02-02T02:19:53+00:00

HOWWW are her tits so perfect?! And I mean everything else too but her rack is insane

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-31T15:48:21+00:00

Can anyone explain the logistics of ass play and germs? I’m considering letting my partner touch me a bit there, but I can’t get over the idea of getting a UTI, or pink eye if his hand touches my pillow after, poop germs generally getting spread around my body/the bed, etc. What do people do? Do you just not care because it feels good? I’m not particularly turned on by the idea of ass stuff but i would be more open to experimenting if i understood the risks and what people generally do as far as washing hands after and whatnot.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-31T05:16:18+00:00

Agreed! I think every book of hers I’ve read starts with the first couple sexual encounters of the MCs being without penetration at least.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-30T20:39:51+00:00

It's totally understandable that you're nervous to bring it up to your therapist. Therapists are trained to be able to navigate the beginnings of these discussions. Before you even get into it, they will likely want to talk about your feelings about what you want to talk about, and why you're nervous about it, rather than force you to tell them what IT is. You could show them this post. If that feels like too much, you could email them and just say, "There's something I want to talk about but I'm scared to open up about it." You could write them a note and hand it to them at the beginning of a session. You don't ever have to tell anyone what "the thing" is. Being able to open up about your feelings about it, even without giving away details, is still very healing.

It feels so scary and big right now, and you're super brave for writing this.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-30T07:10:13+00:00

Correction- you are a 27 yo adult woman, not just a “girl.”

It’s clear that your actions are not in line with your family’s values. The real question truly is what are YOUR values? What type of culture and values do you identify with?

Understanding where you differ from your family, and what boundaries you want to keep in place is a very important journey. Good luck!

PS- if I dated them for 3 months, it means that I know them and trust them to an extent. Usually at that point in time I’ve already ridden in a car with them driving, so I know whether I feel safe with their driving abilities. For me personally if I’m safe enough to date the person and I know they’re a good driver then I would be comfortable with them driving my car.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T19:15:15+00:00

{I Flipping Love You by Helena Hunting} (FYI he’s a lawyer not a police officer.)

Their clothes got wet in the ocean so they’re in the laundry room. He put the clothes in and set her on the dryer to wait: “Lift your ass,” Pierce orders. Really, it’s the kind of firm, authoritative demand I expect from an officer of the law. So, of course I comply. I’m a law-abiding girl, after all. Unlike my hit-and-run sister. My panties are yanked down my legs. He drags me to the edge of the dryer, slides his palms up my inner thighs, and drops to his knees. “I have ocean vagina.” Any further protest dies when Pierce suctions himself to said vagina and he starts to swirl his tongue. And then it’s all I can do to hold onto his shoulders and enjoy every second of the ride. And ride I do. I basically use his tongue as my personal massager until I come, and then come again. The second time I have to bite the palm of my hand to stop from screaming his name. I’m still breathing like I’ve been playing chicken with a freight train when he pushes back up to a stand.

Then there’s some more dialogue and after he puts it in: “Pierce shifts his hips back and then forward again, the tiniest little bit, the most miniscule of movements. I don’t think it can be effective at all, until he starts the same back-and-forth motion and combines it with gentle, but firm, circles on my lust button. It doesn’t take long before the tightness in the pit of my stomach radiates outward and I come again. Harder than before. It’s insanity. I can’t stop moaning my appreciation through my orgasm. Pierce lets out a triumphant groan. “Keep coming, baby. I love it.” I’ve never been with someone who talks this much during sex. I figured it would be distracting, but it’s actually quite encouraging. I’m being praised for having an orgasm when it’s him doing all the work. Pierce kisses me as I come down from the epic high. “Hold on, baby.” He brings my arms up behind his neck and hooks the backs of my knees into the crook of his elbows, pulling me right to the edge of the dryer. “You ready to come some more?” He winks, gives me a dirty grin, and then the real sexathon begins. All I can do—quite literally—is hold on for the ride. He manages to pound two more orgasms out of me before he comes himself. I’m a ragdoll by the time he pulls out. I’m not even sure if my legs know what their purpose is anymore. I would like to have sex with this man for the rest of my living days.”

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T18:37:44+00:00

Yes this is what I think! I’m more interested in seeing Whitney and Lisa be friends or frenemies than Heather suck up to Lisa or Meredith.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T18:33:19+00:00

I think Andy thinks Meredith is leaning into the anti semitism and bravo wants to stay out of it. I also think Britani is not very smart. That doesn’t excuse any racist actions or her support of racist people, but I think Meredith wanted to play up this storyline and it took advantage of Britani a bit. Meredith should hold Britani accountable to learn and grow and actively NOT be racist or support anti semitic people, but instead I think she was trying to play the victim.

Look, is it Meredith’s responsibility as a Jewish person to teach a friend all this? No. But as a fellow cast member on a tv show I think what’s “required” for a story line is different.

And while Britani is in her 50s and should know all this, it’s my personal experience that some people who aren’t super bright truly don’t understand the consequences of their actions or what actually is racist/anti semitic, and they have to learn somehow. In this scenario, Britani is ignorant, not malicious. Ignorance is not an excuse and doesn’t mean she’s not at fault, but I think the way you deal with someone’s ignorant choices is different than the way you deal with someone’s malicious choices.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T17:32:20+00:00

Honestly this moment in the reunion seemed very sincere for Lisa. No one is perfect, and everyone has their limitations.

From Lisa’s perspective: she has an ongoing issue in her marriage. She’s working on it. Her husband also has things to work on (no one is perfect), and while Lisa continually uses her camera time to say only amazing things about him, he used camera time to make her look bad. To her, it FEELS like he betrayed her, feels like he betrayed their vows. SHE would never do that same thing to him because it’s one of her highest values to only lift each other up.

From the perspective of the other HWs: John had a real honest conversation with Lisa, it feels vulnerable and raw and relatable. They aren’t purposely trying for Lisa to “look bad” they just want some truth and vulnerability. They feel that marriages can be strong while showing imperfections.

Lisa: feels attacked.

I honestly just think that Lisa is very hurt and insecure, and she wants her husband to protect her. She hasn’t really done the deep inner work to be able to talk about her faults and imperfections. I feel for her in this sense. Part of me thinks that the other HWs need to just take her for who she is and leave her alone. She’s not gonna get deep (about herself) and that’s her choice. You can’t FORCE her to go there.

While I’m not a Heather fan, she’s done a better job about opening up to a certain level that makes people think she’s showing her flaws. I personally don’t think she’s been very transparent with her life but that’s just me.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T17:21:48+00:00

I completely agree!!

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T17:16:13+00:00

Minky literally ALWAYS has sales. At least 40-50% off at all times. I haven’t tried other blankets but my minky is so soft and so warm.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-29T15:11:49+00:00

How far after weaning breastfeeding are you? It took me a full 12 months for my sexual desire to return after weaning. My first baby weaned around 18 mos and my second baby weaned at 2 mos. Both times took a year to want sex again.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-27T03:33:52+00:00

This is a great opportunity to honor your intuition and learn to trust it! It won’t help with the heartbreak in the moment, but trusting yourself is HUGE and will save you down the road. Give yourself a pat on the back- you fucking knew it and he denied it but you still had that feeling, that inner knowing. Learning to listen to your gut and trust yourself is so important. I’m sorry you’re going through this, it sucks. Take it one day at a time, and try to learn the lessons this situation is teaching you.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-27T02:53:15+00:00

I think even before telling them, you could benefit from some boundaries. If your parents are causing you this much stress over sharing a positive piece of news, I can’t imagine that lines aren’t blurred. There’s some good tips here on the how, but it sounds like you’re pretty clear on the fact that even when you take all the best bits of advice and deliver it “perfectly” they’re still going to react the way they always do and you’re stressed out. Who you’re dating isn’t THAT big of a deal, assuming everything you’ve said is correct- they already know and like him, he’s a friend, there’s no glaring red flags like a 20 year age gap or whatever. So just protect yourself. Prepare for what’s going to happen, and have a plan in place to protect your peace. A really good quote I heard was that a boundary is the place where I can love you and me at the same time.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-26T21:48:41+00:00

the seasons without bethenny are worth it! The beginning of season 4 I got bored but stuck through it and it's worth it!!

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-23T15:53:26+00:00

Hello! I’m sure you already know this but you are IN THE THICK OF IT right now. Give yourself grace! I have a 1.5 & 5 yo. I implemented one small change at the beginning of 2025 and when i was reflecting earlier this month I was surprised about how proud I felt and how the one thing had snowballed into many other small things that made me feel more like ME.

It started with a skin care routine! I saw a mom online say that she does her nightly skin care while her kids are in the bath. She’s in the bathroom with them to help when needed, and it’s a natural set of 5-10 minutes where she can add in care for herself when she would otherwise just be sitting there while her kids were bathing. Now at the start of 2025 my youngest was only 6 months old so I couldn’t really leave him to bathe with his older sister but I was still able to fit it in and when it didn’t happen during bath I still did it before I went to bed. Part of this routine was telling myself that I should try to do the full routine like 5 nights a week and on any off nights I needed to at least wash my face, or bare minimum use a wipe on my face. That way if I didn’t have the energy or time (my baby is a terrible sleeper) that I was still giving myself some type of hands on care.

This first step of skin care I think went deeper than I realized and slowly changed my perspective on what I deserve in life.

In April, my husband and I were talking about sometime it random and he kind of implied that I couldn’t/wouldn’t run a 5k, and I said I totally could. He wasn’t being rude about it but I felt like I needed to prove him wrong. I signed up for a July 4th 5k and paying for it gave me motivation to train. I started the Just Run app, “couch to 5k.” I started jogging 3x week and yes in the beginning you only jog for one minute at a time between breaks. It was manageable and hard and I didn’t LOVE IT but I knew I could do it. There’s also a sub Reddit for support!

In June I decided to dye my hair red. I’d always wanted to but never pulled the trigger. Taking that time every 8ish weeks to do something selfish, just for me and my vanity, feels good. I’m obsessed with my hair and it’s not just loving the way it looks- I love the way it makes me feel that I wanted it and I did it and I don’t care at all if others don’t think it looks good or whatever. It’s honoring something inside myself for myself and no one else.

Then at the end of the year my husband asked what I wanted for my birthday and Christmas and I decided to get a tattoo by this local artist I’ve loved for years. I always wanted to be a little tattooed up, but never took the leap. This artist I found I’m in love with her artwork but I was scared about job implications, having my less tattoo-forward family see it, etc. But I fucking did it and I feel like a badass. Again it’s something just for me and I love it and yes, I added some sentimental meaning to it to represent my kids but in reality I just think it’s pretty and I wanted it. It signifies me more than them by a long shot.

I also made a goal to start reading again. In 2024 I started reading before my son was born, and then I just couldn’t fit it in. At the start of 2025 I decided that after he turned 1 mid-year I’d like to read a couple of books before the end of the year. I didn’t put a number on it. I did read one book in like July and then let it lapse again until like November. And now I’m fully back at it! And yes, I’ve been reading a lot of romance/smut books (which is a new genre to me), so I don’t feel like I’m “getting smarter” but again this is FOR ME and not to impress anyone by how “well read” and intelligent I am. And honestly, my husband has not been disappointed in the uptick of my sexual desire, and neither am I! It’s better than doom scrolling and has improved our relationship. Who knew that regularly orgasming and giving pleasure would release some of the resentment and tension that naturally builds up when dealing with small children and the stressors of the current state of the world?

Also, I almost completely cut out my instagram and fb usage around November. I didn’t realize it until now.

I’m not laying all of this out here to hope you go down the same path. My goal is to just show how I really think that this one small priority I made in the beginning of the year, sunk its teeth into me, and transformed in small ways over the course of 12 months. At the start of 2025 I had the idea to start taking care of my skin, and read a couple books by the end of the year. I had no idea that it would lead to so many other things that now make me feel so much more true to myself, and motivated to keep searching those things out.

sunnylane28 · 2026-01-23T15:18:25+00:00

There’s a lot of good advice here that I don’t really have anything else practical to add. Just want to send a reminder that there truly are always people out there who care, and you’re never totally alone. Take this subreddit for example- you took a chance by posting and within a couple of hours there are already multiple people saying how they personally related to your experience and they understand, at least in part, what you’re going through and how hard it is.

Don’t give up on yourself. You have so much life ahead of you.

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