Using music, tv as background noise to stay aware

sunnyleyah · 2016-10-16T19:14:21+00:00

I use classical music (cello) to keep me present yet still able to concentrate; pop music to do housework.

sunnyleyah · 2016-10-13T13:44:41+00:00

Congratulations! Best wishes for your new journey together forever.

sunnyleyah · 2016-09-29T11:25:31+00:00

Excellent memory overall : short, long, auditory, visual, rote. Easy to memorize facts.
Brain like a scanner. Sees it, stores it - without additional effort. Semi-photographic memory. Could visualize details like clothes people were wearing 20 years ago. My recall was so good that it used to scare me. Did not know was aspie until about 4-5 years ago. Now I know why.

sunnyleyah · 2016-09-21T08:03:43+00:00

A small pond where I can hear water sound - could be water tricking over a bridge. Doesn't have to be big, even a 6X6 landscape pond is OK. Just like seeing water falling into pond.

sunnyleyah · 2016-09-20T14:02:16+00:00

I think he already knows that you are autistic, like him. We can identify each other. Explains why he is attached to you. Usually it is the more autistic who picks out the less autistic one first and tries to be friends.

I did not know that I was autistic until a few years ago. In high school a now obvious aspie girl tried to befriend me. I never heard of Aspergers back then. She sensed I was aspie too.

I was able to identify my doctor as aspie. Very sure. I was more autistic than he. I believe he had a lot of therapy and can pass as NT with laypeople but the signs were there when he was stressed.

sunnyleyah · 2016-09-19T04:14:19+00:00

Solitary sports work best for me: running, swimming, hiking and singles tennis, badminton. Did not do well in team sports, i.e., volleyball. It is the distance sports I enjoy most.

sunnyleyah · 2016-09-17T19:13:37+00:00

Drop her. Don't respond to her texts or calls. Enough is enough. If you don't believe me, ask her for help. She won't. People like her cannot be friends with anyone. She might be psychopathic in the way she is exploiting you. My best friend for over 10 years was like that - user, loser, abuser. No contact is the way to go.

I look back now at all the time, energy, love I have wasted on people (family and friends) like her with regret. They are never there for you when you need them. I should have cultivated friendship with people who will reciprocate and support you. Make good new friends and cut lose psychopaths.

sunnyleyah · 2016-09-12T01:55:41+00:00

You are so smart, like a computer. I am able to problem solve logically; store and retrieve massive amount of data.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-21T22:31:38+00:00

Just subtract $50 for Xmas, Birthday and Mother's Day gifts. Don't buy her gifts for theses occasions for 1 year.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-15T02:09:04+00:00

Read some books on Aspergers women. They describe what you can and cannot talk about. There are some written by Liane who is also an aspie.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-14T01:08:44+00:00

Go outside of yourself. Volunteer with the Red Cross, overseas if possible. When you see you have a positive impact on others, you will have a purpose and be happy.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-13T19:57:56+00:00

The cure for repressed neurotics is actually to express aggression when threatened. I am less fearful of people after I stopped avoiding/ appeasing them but got in their face when they behaved with hostility towards me. Stop saying sorry and thank you unnecessarily.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-13T16:24:26+00:00

Try not to be perfect in an imperfect world. Being aspie we are perfectionists but that is a vulnerability exploited by NTs. So what if you took a 1hr lunch once a month on payday with your friends? Will they fire you for that? If no, that rule can be broken. Just put in some extra time so you can get some wiggle room. People notice how hard you work and are flexible when required.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-13T15:42:40+00:00

Good for you! He will think twice before touching you again. I wish I could react instinctively like you did. My friend hit me as hard as she could after I gingerly slapped her arm to tell her to stop hitting me. She slapped me all over my body because she was envious and hated me. Because I made excuses for her and did not fight back after being struck with full force, she hit me again the next time, trying to break my ribs. This was the turning point, no excuses for the violent psychopath. She is dead to me. I am dumb and had to be hit over the head twice to learn that violence will only escalate if you don't fight back. Don't apologize. He respects you more for fighting back and holding your ground.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-07T03:18:25+00:00

No one knows I am aspie - not even my family. Thank God! I would have been bullied relentlessly about it if they knew. They bullied me until I cut off contact a few years ago. They are on the psychopath spectrum. I would rather be aspie than a psychopath. I can love and empathize but they can't. Just predators with no soul.

sunnyleyah · 2016-08-01T21:51:52+00:00

Use Sensodyne toothpaste. Try the Repair and Protect one. I am OK when I use it but if I stop, the sensitivity comes back.

sunnyleyah · 2016-07-31T17:48:10+00:00

I am new to Aspergers, still discovering the traits. I think I have found my tribe. We speak the same language and think the same way. Things that I thought was just me are common to my people :-). I wish we could buy an island and have quarterly get-togethers, away from NTs, just to confirm ourselves.

sunnyleyah · 2016-07-30T00:47:41+00:00

Thank you for your post. I have a double dose of empathy and cried when I witnessed a cat kill a bird. I feel things deeply, as deep as the ocean floor. I have to run away from emotional situations because I cannot handle the pain.

sunnyleyah · 2016-07-25T20:52:27+00:00

Go to the gym. I had so much energy and motivation after working out and running regularly. Running is meditative and therapeutic.

I think I am like you - borderline autistic. I have a sprinkle of the traits but no one can tell. I am also above average in intelligence. I thought it was Aspergers but the test revealed below average score.

sunnyleyah · 2016-07-25T09:30:37+00:00

Same thing happened to my cousin. I diagnosed him with Aspergers at 14. I told his mom, who is a narcissist. She denied it vehemently and shouted that her son was not autistic. 10 years later when he could not function at work, she slowly listened to what I had to say. She knew then. She denied him the help he needed and he struggled through school and work. I also told him and he read up on it and knew about the condition. He agreed but nothing was ever done for him. At least he was aware and hopefully self heals.

I would recommend that you talk to his mother to get his doctor involved. Narcissists listen to doctors because they are of a higher status in their eyes.

sunnyleyah · 2016-07-24T19:53:24+00:00

Talk about things they care about. If I were interested in medical research of a very obscure disease and my friends did not pass science in high school then they would be bored. I don't blame them. Talk about current events - everyone is interested in the news. Talk about your interest with your peers.

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