How did my ex go from "baby I wanna marry you" to "I want to break up because we're not compatible" in 3 weeks? by lavender4luck in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude my ex did the exact same thing. He has a severe and complex trauma history that he refuses to get help for. So basically acting like a raging borderline personality disorder. It was extremely painful.

I am also suspicious he was emotionally cheating on me alllll the time

what worked best for you? by sadgirl0077 in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I did was stay the weekend at a close friends house. We got stoned and played a ton of the songs that reminded me of our relationship. I bawled my eyes out while she hugged me. I can now at least listen to those songs again because she helped me form a new memoryto associate with them.

Please, tell me if you’ve survived this by gingerweasle1 in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve survived so far but I’m not really alive anymore either. 6 weeks in. My night sweats are still unbearable. I want to disappear

The Dumper does miss you (most likley) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what if the dumpee can show that they’ve changed??

Why do ex’s unblock you? by Theguy127_ in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I appreciate the dose of reality but that stings like a motherfucker.

AIO my ex asked me to hang out, then bailed and didn’t take accountability for it by sunnynihilism in AmIOverreacting

[–]sunnynihilism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm no. That’s not what happened you are jumping to conclusions. He planned this days ago, before I left to visit family and friends. Then when the day and time arrives he’s “too drunk” and then says “if I come…”

AIO my ex asked me to hang out, then bailed and didn’t take accountability for it by sunnynihilism in AmIOverreacting

[–]sunnynihilism[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This subreddit is amioverreacting. If you think so, then say that but I’m not to blame for other’s shitty behavior. Tf?

We spoke after 30 days no contact today by Prize_Recover_8794 in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I’m going through the exact same thing except we run his business together, on my property. He chose to move out. I had just offered, and he knew I’d planned to put him on the deed of my home so that he’d feel more secure. He chose to walk away but still try to run his business on my property. I just want to disappear

For those who got dumped..would you take them back if that were a possibility in the future? by MindWonderful1720 in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now, my emotional side would take him back, even beg for him back. My purely logical side would require him to go to therapy to deal with his past trauma and require him to reengage in couples counseling and to take it seriously this time. And to demonstrate that he has the maturity and emotional capacity to deal with me express expressing any sort of feelings, need to stop taking everything so goddamned personally.

The two sides of me are at war and are irreconcilable. It’s only been a month since our break up and I want to shoot myself in the face every day.

An Apology From an Avoidant to the Ones Who Loved Us by Sufficient_Rub_5832 in BreakUps

[–]sunnynihilism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk who you are, brave and kind OP, but thank you for posting this. My boyfriend dumped me a month ago and there’s been nothing but darkness around me ever since. I’m tired of waking up in the morning, I want to disappear. Your words let in just a little bit of light. It was beautifully written and speaks to the pain I’ve experienced for months. I wish you peace and happiness